Men in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30s

February 20, 2006
Blog Entry, Health

Men in their fifties are more satisfied with their sex lives than men in their thirties and forties, recording similar levels to 20-29 year-olds, according to a survey published in the February issue of BJU International.

A team of experts from Norway and the USA surveyed 1,185 men aged between 20 and 79, asking them about various aspects of their sex life, including drive, erections and ejaculation.

They found that although there was a strong relationship between a man’s advancing age and his declining sex drive and ability to have an erection and ejaculate, there wasn’t such a strong link between age and overall sexual satisfaction.

The men who responded to the Norwegian postal questionnaire were asked to rate their satisfaction with various aspects of their sex life on a scale of zero to four, with four representing good sexual function and no problems. Men in their twenties recorded an average overall satisfaction level of 2.79 and the second highest level was among fifty-somethings who recorded an average of 2.77. Men in their 30s only reached 2.55 and men in their forties averaged 2.72.

After the age of 59, overall satisfaction fell significantly to 2.46 for men in their sixties and 2.14 for men in their seventies.

However when it came to sexual function, each of the scores moved steadily downwards toward zero as the respondents got older, indicating lower levels of function and more problems:

* The average score for sexual drive was 2.19 out of four, ranging from 2.79 for men in the twenties to 1.54 for men in their seventies.

* Satisfaction with erections averaged 2.83, dropping sharply once men reached their fifties. Men in their twenties scored 3.63, men in their fifties 3.03 and men in their seventies 1.60.

* Ejaculation averaged 3.28 and showed a more measured decline with age, falling more sharply for men in their sixties and seventies. Men in their twenties averaged 3.85 while men in their seventies averaged 2.32.

Other findings included:

* 86 per cent of the men surveyed were married or in a sexual relationship and 57 per cent had been sexually active in the last 30 days. Six per cent had had a new sexual partner in the last six months.

* 25 per cent were on medication for high blood pressure, five per cent for diabetes, six per cent for anxiety/depression and five per cent for erectile dysfunction.

* Respondents were representative of the Norwegian male population in terms of marital status and education level.

“The survey was carried out using a questionnaire first developed and tested in American in 1995″ says co-author Professor Sophie D Fossa from the Rikshospitalet-Radiumhospitalet Trust in Oslo, who carried out the research with colleagues from the University of Oslo, the University of Bergen and Harvard Medical School in the USA.

“The results showed a very strong correlation between men getting older and reduced sexual functioning, but not between age and sexual satisfaction” she points out.

“Age accounted for a 22 per cent variance in sexual drive, a 33 per cent variance in erection issues and a 23 per cent variance in ejaculation issues.

“But age only accounted for a variance of three per cent in overall satisfaction.

“Our results show that although men experience more problems and less sexual function as they get older, it doesn’t necessarily follow that they are less satisfied with their sex lives as a result.”

Source Blackwell Publishing Ltd.

Men in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30s


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  4. Lolita March 9, 2012 at 8:35 am #

    Obviously you are a jealous young man who has been rejected by women your age. Grow up. I know a lot of men in their 50s who are in better shape than the twenty something computer game geeks.

  5. sb February 6, 2012 at 5:33 pm #

    Wow, you need to start dating and/or get a divorce! Seriously, you deserve more from life.

  6. Amy February 6, 2012 at 5:17 pm #

    My husband is only satisfied when I don’t bother or talk to him. We’ve been married 45 years and only had sex or intimacy once in those 45 years. After the wedding night the next day he went back to work on the mid night shift and when he cam home in the morning he moved all his things to the basement Since that day thats been his home away from me. He never wanted me in the first place, it was all a sham. FRom the first day i’ve learned what anger, hate really is. I have been depressed hut, unwanted and unloved for all these years. I have accepted that my life will always be in the shiter. Were in our 60s now and all that I dreamed about will never happen. Maybe it will be all over real soon.

  7. nananelson December 22, 2011 at 4:16 pm #

    Make sure he is not married, or mine. YOU YOUNG THINGS can get them young, middle aged or old. Check the finger, or do some research on them.

  8. nananelson December 22, 2011 at 4:11 pm #

    Too young, Too old

  9. Just a Thought. November 4, 2011 at 5:45 am #

    Gratitude –from either side– may be the factor.

  10. anonymous November 4, 2011 at 1:55 am #

    im now 23 and i hav a relationship with a 53 year old guy. he’s really awesome in bed.! he rocks me in bed tougher than any man i had experienced before.he is so sweet and caring..he knows how to satisfy me in the craziest way i could’nt imagine. :) i cannot imagine at first that i will be like him but now i love him.. i love him more than the younger man i loved before… ;)

  11. loving all of him October 27, 2011 at 3:39 pm #

    AMEN to that!! I as well have a husband in his 50’s. I believe everything worth having is worth working on. I’m sorry for whatever/whoever turned her off about older men. Me and my husband have been together for 20 years and I wouldn’t trade him for the world.. he looks good, smells, good and with a couple of role playing tricks,toys & romance novels/dvds our SEX LIFE IS WONDERFUL….. YES I SAID ROLE PLAYING… we still do things to spice up our relationship… you must to keep things exciting….. we’ve gotten ahold of this product the last few months and I tell you.. He gets breakfast in Bed Everymorning….. So 2 thumbs up to the older men… & if you would like to know about the product we’re using now.just email me at … I’ll be happy to let you in on it…*wink*

  12. Liberty October 27, 2011 at 2:01 pm #

    i met my 51y7m old man last July (3m ago) & i was immediately attracted to him. he has a very high sexual drive, he is very experienced and i’m 42 only but my goodness he tires me afterwards! he has so much sex drive & will do it everyday given the chance! we’ll do it anywhere & he is not boring or smells. he’s very attractive, intelligent, loving and considerate. he is also a very good cook! i love him & would like to spend the rest of my life with him, if possible :)

  13. S.Smith October 16, 2011 at 7:17 pm #

    WOW! I’m sorry for your horrible experience, but I’m a 26 y/o female and I’d take a healthy man in his 50’s over most men my age. I choose quality over quantity–having sex 3 times in a row in one day isn’t a must for me. I’ve had 3 men in their 50’s and all three were just incredible! Their knowledge of the female body FAR surpassed that of younger lovers I’ve had and they actually CARED about my orgasm! Yes, I met them at the gym, and yes, exercise makes a huge difference, I’m sure; my older gentlemen had great bodies, nice and firm with great stamina! You sound like you had a bad experience or are completely ignorant to the possibilities of an older lover. And by the way, Edward Cullen is a p*ssy. He doesn’t even look like a man. He’s thin and wimpy like a girl.

  14. winnie May 24, 2011 at 8:29 am #

    I am in the same dilemma . i am 46 and i want to have sex more than i ever have in my adult life. my guy is 54. his drive isn’t like mine. i don’t want to get another guy. he is hot to me and very tender and deeply satisfying in bed. i love feeling close to him. we don’t have sex very often . but he is the only guy i have been with since i met him. my friends tell me to get younger man. i love my guy. my guy needs to exercise more and take better care of himself. i am trying to get him to consider taking an Ayurveda drug called ashwaganda. its good for stamina and libido. there’s another drug called shatavari that’s also good for libido in men and women. he is thinking about it. i am trying not to pressure him. but i have to really work on him to want to have more energy. that way he will have more interest and energy in doing things, sex included. you may want to talk with your guy and find out whats going on his life. maybe something is going on. could be stress. if you want to find out more about those herbs i mentioned, google banyan botanicals. i have been ordering from this company for about 4 years. great products and service.

  15. Phil May 24, 2011 at 3:05 am #

    To all men 50yo+ who experience a flagging in sexual performance:

    Join a gym, work out and eat better. Above all, work out! I mean some aerobic exercise plus resistance training. It will very likely *significantly* improve sexual function. You will notice improved sex drive. You will get better and faster erections (ok, it may still take a few minutes) and not only in the morning. You will have *much* better orgasms and stronger ejaculations and you will come easily with far less “fizzes” and “flops”. And this improvement can occur after just a few months at the gym three times per week, maybe sooner – I’m not sure what the research says.

    Among many, many other good things, exercise significantly raises testosterone levels, lowers blood pressure, cures or reduces depression, compensates for muscle loss and takes off weight. Belly fat kills testosterone levels! I have read exercise may also remove symptoms of prostatitis, a common cause of male sexual problems.

    Ok it’s difficult to begin but people who exercise regularly in mid life are physiologically 20 years younger than their actual age (for which read: have sex like a 35yo!). Your quality of life right now and outlook for old age will be greatly improved if you start an exercise program now. Do it.

  16. winnie May 23, 2011 at 7:01 pm #

    wow! i don’t know what fifty year old man you had, but mine is awesome. he is tender and caring. he is awesome in bed. i am 46 and he is 54. he doesn’t work out much , but i suspect if he did, he would gave more stamina. i wouldn’t trade him for a younger man for nothing. i adore him. he doesn’t smell like bengay at all and neither do i. he is very accomplished and disciplined. he totally turns me on. i met him when i was around 42. i only wish his libido was higher, i would have sex with him at least 5 days out of the week. i don’t want to trade him in. he just doesn’t seem to be over the moon for me the way i am for him. i wish he was.

  17. BENGAY March 25, 2011 at 8:01 am #

    Older men in their 50’s are awful in bed! Just AWFUL! They don’t take care of themselves, don’t work out and thus have low stamina during sex (anyone that doesn’t work out wouldn’t). Couple that with getting old and that spells terrible, boring sex. SCIENCE BLOG, stop publishing these trashy, garbage’studies’ of yours. The dude who writes this si just another old geezer. Can you say WISHFUL THINKING. Women do NOT like how you look; they prefer Edward Cullen from Twilight and he’s not even an actual MAN! He’s fiction a piece of paper! Women want a guy with a body like Jacob Black, not gray hair sticking up on men’s heads like some damn porcupine quills, a sagging butt and balls, and low sperm count, wrinkles galore, and big pregnant-looking stomach.

    And to young women dating them: c’mon, do better than chasing behind old farts like the wind. How does it smell? Like poop or bengay? Have a nice sex life! All 5 minutes of it!

  18. Anonymous February 10, 2011 at 3:39 pm #

    This article has some interesting facts, I wish this was the case for my husband he’s 51 and I’m 34 a few years ago he did have a high sexual peak than recently I found out he’s wanting action with someone else (female of course). Than he told me the reason why is because he doesn’t get an orgasm by having sexual intercourse, why? A few days ago trying out testfreak supplements to see if this would improve his sex life…anyone tried this product for sexual improvement reasons?

  19. wondering??????? January 1, 2011 at 6:40 am #

    like older woman attractive or not, fins a peace with them I dont find in ones my age,
    calmnesss and down to eathness I dont find in younger ones,
    If I was married to an older woman i know intamacy would be really nice, and not just to get relief out of frustration like i see soo many around now i dispise sexual frstration , and all the junk that goes with it,
    If you cant look into your ladys eyes and be in love with her and feel it in your loins than whats the point?
    Wast Of Tme,
    total frustration,
    and this crap about older woman being nice to thier own kind in a persons home but when a nice single guy walks in their ntimidated,
    Or cant handle it or get an attitude,
    I dont think many married ones get intmacy much,
    too busy or whatever the dumb reason,
    i see a few here in town id grab in a min and make it with them,
    i mean they are soo sexy and alluring to me,
    but thier hubbies dont do anyhing for them, or the woman as attractive as they are just sit there like a bump on a log,
    and do nothing, totally bored out of thier mind,
    WAYYYYY overly conservative atitude on the woman in small town’s here,
    Im freeaking tired of it and this ting abbout dont say this or that or it’ll offend other’s? is a bunch of junk,
    they sit around like a bunch of old bitties that just exist and thats all,
    what a waste,

  20. ella247 October 2, 2010 at 8:39 am #

    Hi, Im 27 and really like this guy who is 53. I think he likes me too, but worried about sex intercourse, please advise what to do? He is quite fit goes gym daily.

  21. 73andhorney September 19, 2010 at 11:52 am #

    Is she open minded? Maybe ask her how she wold feel if you got it on with another woman. Maybe she would rather not know, but honesty is important. If she says that would upset her, then don’t. On the other hand, she might be releaved that you will not bother her as much. Be carful with other women, protection is important. There are a lot of women who need it as well. Maybe your wife will surprise you, she loves you and this might even turn her on. Never know..

  22. 73andhorney September 19, 2010 at 11:42 am #

    Maybe bring another girl home. Tell him you want to please him, both of you. Ask him if it would be alright if you made it with another guy. Maybe he would like to watch? Some things could be fun, but be carful, only you can judge what he might like or not like.

  23. 73andhorney September 19, 2010 at 11:36 am #

    I think Watersailor44 makes a good point. My wife is ten years younger than me. She’s great looking, but I have to admit, Some of these younger girls look pretty good as well. It’s fun to think about it. I love my wife but our sex life got off track, it’s now coming back, very exciting.

  24. Anonymous April 30, 2010 at 8:45 pm #

    my husband is 57 and i am 53, his sex drive is very strong like every night, is ths normal,we’ve been married 31 years and this is the best. just concerned as to why he is like this at his age.

  25. Anonymous March 24, 2010 at 6:08 pm #

    You just have to work harder to get her there, it’s your turn to stimulate her mind to get her stimulated “below the waist”. To suggest you’d trade her in may be an unfortunate sign though, we know where your priority is, and if you have that little respect for the time invested in the relationship thus far, you should be honest about whether you deserve her as a wife. If you don’t, be honest with her and she’ll know who you really are and maybe she’ll have the chance to find a lover & husband (more than just sex partner).

  26. Anonymous March 24, 2010 at 2:25 pm #

    i have a high sex drive, i feel that my sex is better now then ever before in my life, my wife and i love each other and that makes it even more satisfied, we can go at it for 3 hours, having the best of times, I know this may sound kinda silly but we keep a chart of how many times we have sex a month, it averages out at 2.5 times a day, I wouldnt trade my wife for anyone in the world she is by far the best sex partner ive had or will ever have Yes being in my 50s is a plus and having the best wife in the world just makes its better.

  27. Anonymous February 20, 2010 at 6:52 am #

    I think about sex all the time. I’m very inventive about coming up with sexy things to do. I do wish I knew then what I know now but mostly because I’d like to have a younger body.

    I don’t have the stamina I used to but athleticism is really a rather small part of sex and I still have enough stamina to more than do the job.

    The older I get the more powerfully I react to femininity, and having polled other older guys, that is the consensus.

    Increasingly, my orgasms begin (not end) with ejaculation, which is followed by five to ten waves of physical ecstasy. In other words, my orgasms are better than they were when I was younger.

    I recently got a prescription for Viagra because my erections would fade if the session was much more than a quickie. 25 mg makes me rock-solid for an hour. Better living though chemistry, don’t you know.

    My only problem is that my wife is turning 50, has already gone through menopause and is pretty dead below the waist. We work things out and I can still bring her to climax, but her interest is mostly gone while mine, while different these days, is unabated.

    I’d hate to have to trade her in, but am I supposed to throw away the remaining 5 years of good sex I could have, for… for what, exactly?

  28. Anonymous January 15, 2010 at 1:42 pm #

    He might be a lot older than I am however he calls me his little girl and makes sweet love to me. I love him and his gray hair is sexy. I like the way he takes his time and makes me feel nice. I find my self begging for daddy to come over and make me happy. The best lover ever older men are sweet and caring.

  29. pshah86 November 29, 2009 at 11:54 am #

    thats the way men are in their 50’s….i have the same problem….
    Adult Game

  30. Anonymous November 1, 2009 at 10:43 pm #

    Im now talking to a man who just turned 50. He doesnt look, his body is in good shape and his energy level is high!! Ok this is exciting!! Im just afraid I dont know what to do since Ive never been sexually involve with someone in their 50’s. Should I expect anything different with foreplay, kissing( do men in their 50’s love tongue kissing?), how long should I expect it too last or does it just depend on the stamina of my mate?

  31. Anonymous October 29, 2009 at 10:36 pm #

    For all of those who think Male performance Products are just for older guys, please read.

    Unfortunately there are prescription drugs out there that say “may cause sexual side effects.” I took one of these prescrption drugs and now that has ruined my ability to do the deed without assistance. It sucks that this happens, but not being able to get it up is not the fault of the person nor does it make them less of a man. Many times its because of physiological problems or medical reasons.

    I started taking the Dr Max Powers HGH Spray and it had allowed me to carry on a somewhat normal sexual life. It seems to be a very natural way to boost male sex drive and erections without harmful side effects.

    My point is people: Go the more natural alternative way like the Dr Max HGH Spray. I sure wish I found it sooner that the prescription stuff I took.

    I highly recommend it. Thank you

  32. Anonymous March 15, 2009 at 12:55 pm #

    I am in my fifties and I need sex all the time.My wife has moderate sex life and she rocks when she is willing but the frequency is a bit less. Sex in late age rocks since you become an expert in style, pose, and a lot more. In twenties you may have a rocerection but that last for few minutes. In fifties you may have a painless erection and that lasts for even an hour!!

  33. Anonymous March 12, 2009 at 9:28 am #

    As a mid-60s dude, I’ll say this: I can jump as high as I ever did, I just can’t hang as long. Sex is better to me and I have a woman 20 years my junior who would tell you she’s never had any better either. Course, I’m a natural born stud, which makes a lot of difference.

  34. Anonymous June 27, 2008 at 9:22 pm #

    I am 46 year old female and love to have sex all the time ,but my boyfriend is 56 and don’t like to have sex. What to do to make him want sex more ?

  35. Anonymous November 23, 2009 at 3:55 pm #

    You may need another boyfriend. When people decide to give up sex, they aren’t thinking of their partner, they’re thinking of themselves (personal issues). Trust me, fixing other people doesn’t work. Move on.

  36. Anonymous March 25, 2008 at 4:54 am #


    I am enjoying sex with wife, but my seman come out very fast then my wife. My age 38 yrs. My wife age 28 yrs. Sir I like to know about it, why it happen to me. If you have any suggestion than let me know. If you have medicine than also I like to know about it.

    Thanking you.

  37. February 22, 2006 at 6:24 am #

    I agree with the survey- real life, age, and health all play a big factor in sexual performance, but with my caring partner sexual satisfaction is better than ever for me at 51. She is soon to be 28 and isn’t the least bit dissatisfied with our sex life. By 51 you learn lots of different ways to give your partner satisfaction, and you know what they say about which is a person’s largest sex organ… it’s easy to get excited when you have a partner who stimulates your brain along with the other sex organs and makes things fun.

  38. February 21, 2006 at 8:45 pm #

    As a mid-60s dude, I’ll say this: I can jump as high as I ever did, I just can’t hang as long. Sex is better to me and I have a woman 20 years my junior who would tell you she’s never had any better either. Course, I’m a natural born stud, which makes a lot of difference.

  39. watersailor44@AOL.COM February 21, 2006 at 10:50 am #

    Did the survery query the respondents to the age(s) of their sexual partners?

    Did an older man with a younger woman have a more satisying sexual experience, vs, a sexual partner the same age or older?

  40. February 20, 2006 at 7:19 pm #

    As a sort of reductio ad absurdem to this study, why not look a bit farther?

    Men in their twenties have more sexual pleasure than anybody else, but are not “satisfied” because they aren’t bagging three different women per weekend.

    Men in their 80s are lucky to get it up monthly; they’re “satisfied” because they can get more action than they want or need.

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