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This short article is about a study that found 237 reasons people have sex, and it lists 17 of them. How Bill can say he "sees sex much differently than most of my generation" without seeing the other 220 reasons is beyond me. He may be surprised (and change his opinion of the study) if he read the complete study. The complete list can be found at: http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/Group/BussLAB/measures/why_have_...

As a sexually active male it is important to me to be knowledgeable about sex, have safe sex, and how people view their sexual activity, or lack-there-of for that matter. It is studies such as this that help to inform the public about sexual life, even if they give only a small glimpse of the larger picture. This study is particularly interesting because it focused on college students. I believe that health officials, whether they be proponents of abstinence, the availability of birth control, or controlling the spread of disease, will all benefit from this study because it addresses the reasons people may be having sexual activity. There is intrinsic value in just knowing the psychological and physiological reasons people engage in intercourse, or other sexual acts.
I think your particular understanding of sex is valid, and you say it is unique because you separate yourself from the rest of your generation. It is precisely that uniqueness which must be recorded in order to have comprehensive sexual education. Public health must be considered when evaluating the academic and practical implications of this study. Whatever your own views about sex life may be, it is a voice that needs to be heard alongside all the others. For young women or men who feel insecure in their sexuality (not only their orientation, but practice) it is essential for their mental health that they are aware that their views are not alone. There is value in just knowing that your own sexuality, or apprehensions, are normal, or at least, not individual, but that there are others like you, people who write on the subject, and groups that meet to share that interest or help to deal with the guilt you may associate with your personal sex life. I think that apprehension about sex exists in everyone, and it shows that people do place a value on sex. That they value you it in a way other than your own is not justification for considering their motives cheap or base. I’m not saying that having sex to promote your career isn’t without moral qualms, but it does not change the fact that this person places a value in sex.
You also assert that this study undermines good values and proves that society has had an erosion of those values over the years. I’m not going to say that our culture promotes the greatest morality, but I believe our morality is based on growth and experience throughout history. We learned that burning people at the stake was morally reprehensible, as was our treatment of the poor in society, a changing situation born out of the hardship of the great depression. In the past 50 years our society has began to engage in candid discussions about sex because treating it as taboo was irresponsible as the age of sexual engagement became lower and the STD rate has increased. Studies like this are precisely what must happen to preserve sexual value and morality because that morality has shifted to a less oppressive and more inclusive understanding about sex life. The more we know about sexual life in America the better prepared we will be to address teen pregnancy, self-debasing sexual activity, and promote healthy living by understanding sexual motivations.
As a seminary student it is important to me to be a good minister in my field. I cannot help people with their problems unless information like this is available to me. The legitimacy of this study is testified to by the procedures themselves, the recording of the evidence, and the fact that the experiment and its results can be repeated. It meets every criterion for academic credibility, and as a minister it is my duty to provide the best advice that I can for anyone who seeks it. It is studies like this that help a person in my position to be up-to-date on these uncomfortable situations that people must contend with. If I am to strive to give the best advice that I can for the well-being of my future students, or congregants, I need to have resources like this study be available to me.
Please feel free to respond to this, Bill, or anyone else who has a problem with my position. I believe our dialogue can also help people to understand their own sexuality and that it is not healthy to keep their opinions or urges bottled inside themselves.

"To give someone an STD"??? Yo, that's crazy. Wrap it up!

Screwing is screwing, Bill. Stop being such a tightwad

This is not science. If you gave this same survey to a bunch of people from "The Greatest Generation", especially ones that have been married 40, 50, or more years you would get much different answers and values attached to sex. If this study proves anything, it's the erosion of values in our society. Please stop passing this crap off as science and legitimate research, and view it for what it is. For the record, I'm a young 30-something that sees sex much differently than most of my generation. It's shameful that you continue to undermine good values. Instead of looking at the reasons why people have sex, try looking at the reasons why they don't value it and cheapen it and temselves.