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Magazines are in business to SELL COPIES; and as neanderthal as it is, SEX SELLS! Unfortunately, years of visual programming (by reading these pubs) set up unrealistic expectations and the unenlightened (and clueless!) go through life thinking this extreme exterior perfection is the gauge to their own happiness.

So the premise of the article: Does seeing a hot woman hit a man's insecurity button? Well . . . I think THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT IN THE MATING GAME! There's a fine line between feeling insecure - and feeling challenged! MEN ARE HUNTERS and a smart woman knows this! Your smile and F-factor (fuckability - the overall physical package) will draw him in. Your warmth, confidence, smarts and happiness about life in general will keep him there. Alot of women are focused more on the physical aspect and less on being the interesting, sensual, engaging person that real men are looking for! Previous posts indicate, 'looks are skin deep,' and to that I say, AGREED! Smart men know this and once attracted, they get by the looks pretty quickly - and want to know more. Smart women know this too -- they know their looks ARE their calling card - JUST this. Women come in all shapes and sizes, thank God, because so do men! 'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder' . . . and there's lots of folks, both men and women, doing the beholding! So, be comfortable with who you are and let your confidence show.

The call to WOMEN: Get into your best dating condition, both mentally and physically. If you want the best, you've gotta be your best. Get in touch with your softer side, your inner diva; do what makes you happy; take care of yourself - eat well and get in some physical activity everyday; read voraciously and follow your passions so that you'll be an interesting person. Stop trying so hard to find a man! It makes you look desperate! Remember that what you choose to wear when you go out is advertising. You may be attracting what you don't want! Be classy-sexy and you'll attract classy-sexy! Think about what you value in a partner and make that your criteria for evaluating ALL the men who will approach you. If they don't fit the bill, give them a gentle send-off 'cause you don't want to waste HIS time - nor YOURS. You create your own happiness - men don't want to feel this weight anyway. LISTEN to everything a man says upon first meeting - a man will tell you everything you need to know about his intentions if you'd only listen objectively! Be a class act and be kind to other women. Build a positive vibe - you may find a new friend - AND she may introduce you to Mr. Right!

The call to MEN: Ditto on getting into YOUR best dating condition. It's imperative that you put your best foot forward as there is only one chance for a first impression. Go after women who are your equals mentally. This levels the playing field - you'll be more comfortable and better equipped to impress her. Approach the woman who smiles back. If your looking to get laid for the night, be prepared for the brush-off. Women can feel a fraud a mile away - and remember, women talk and reputations precede so think about the dynamic you're setting up for your future. If you're looking for "quality," be "quality." Character, manners, intelligence, integrity and respect go a long way in making a good impression - and in keeping her interested. If you're NOT looking for quality, you'll find plenty of interested parties out there too; and that's ok as long as she's aware and accepts the agenda - so you both can act responsibly. My gyne, who's a guy, says "assume that everyone's infected with some sort of STD today." He says he sees alot going through his office. BUT, that's a whole different topic!

I'm sure I have alot more to say, but I've already said enough! Happy dating!!!

Barbara
5'5", 130, entrepreneur, blonde, blue-eyed, fit . . . and beautiful!