Old men chasing young women: A good thing

It turns out that older men chasing younger women contributes to human longevity and the survival of the species, according to new findings by researchers at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara.

Evolutionary theory says that individuals should die of old age when their reproductive lives are complete, generally by age 55 in humans, according to demographer Cedric Puleston, a doctoral candidate in biological sciences at Stanford. But the fatherhood of a small number of older men is enough to postpone the date with death because natural selection fights life-shortening mutations until the species is finished reproducing.

“Rod Stewart and David Letterman having babies in their 50s and 60s provide no benefit for their personal survival, but the pattern [of reproducing at a later age] has an effect on the population as a whole,” Puleston said. “It’s advantageous to the species if these people stick around. By increasing the survival of men you have a spillover effect on women because men pass their genes to children of both sexes.”

“Why Men Matter: Mating Patterns Drive Evolution of Human Lifespan,” was published Aug. 29 in the online journal Public Library of Science ONE. Shripad Tuljapurkar, the Morrison Professor of Population Studies at Stanford; Puleston; and Michael Gurven, an assistant professor of anthropology at UCSB, co-authored the study in an effort to understand why humans don’t die when female reproduction ends.

Human ability to scale the so-called “wall of death”—surviving beyond the reproductive years—has been a center of scientific controversy for more than 50 years, Puleston said. “The central question is: Why should a species that stops reproducing by some age stick around afterward?” he said. “Evolutionary theory predicts that, over time, harmful mutations that decrease survival will arise in the population and will remain invisible to natural selection after reproduction ends.” However, in hunter-gatherer societies, which likely represent early human demographic conditions and mating patterns, one-third of people live beyond 55 years, past the reproductive lifespan for women. Furthermore, life expectancy in today’s industrialized countries is 75 to 85 years, with mortality increasing gradually, not abruptly, following female menopause.

Grandmother hypothesis

In 1966, William Hamilton, a British evolutionary biologist, worked out the mathematics describing the “wall of death.” Since then, the most popular explanation for why humans don’t die by age 55 has been termed the “grandmother hypothesis,” which suggests that women enhance the survival of their children and grandchildren by living long enough to care for them and “increasing the success of their genes,” Puleston said. However, Hamilton’s work has been difficult to express as a mathematical and genetic argument explaining why people live into old age.

Unlike previous research on human reproduction, this study—for the first time—includes data on males, a tweak that allowed the researchers to begin answering the “wall of death” question by matching it to human mortality patterns. According to Puleston, earlier studies looked only at women, because scientists can reproduce good datasets for humans entirely based on information related to female fertility and survival rates.

“Men’s fertility is contingent on women’s fertility—you have to figure out how they match up. We care about reproduction because that is a currency by which force of selection is counted. If we have not accounted for the entire pattern of reproduction, we may be missing something that’s important to evolution.”

Men and longevity

In the paper, the researchers analyzed “a general two-sex model to show that selection favors survival for as long as men reproduce.” The scientists presented a “range of data showing that males much older than 50 years have substantial realized fertility through matings with younger females, a pattern that was likely typical among early humans.” As a result, Puleston said, older male fertility helps to select against damaging cell mutations in humans who have passed the age of female menopause, consequently eliminating the “wall of death.”

“Our analysis shows that old-age male fertility allows evolution to breach Hamilton’s wall of death and predicts a gradual rise in mortality after the age of female menopause without relying on ‘grandmother’ effects or economic optimality,” the researchers say in the paper.

The scientists compiled longevity and fertility data from two hunter-gatherer groups, the Dobe !Kung of the Kalahari and the Ache of Paraguay, one of the most isolated populations in the world. They also looked at the forager-farmer Yanomamo of Brazil and Venezuela, and the Tsimane, an indigenous group in Bolivia. “They’re living a lifestyle that our ancestors lived and their fertility patterns are probably most consistent with our ancestors,” Puleston said about the four groups. The study also looked at several farming villages in Gambia and, for comparison, a group of modern Canadians.

In the less developed, traditional societies, males were as much as 5-to-15 years older than their female partners. In the United States and Europe, the age spread was about two years. “It’s a universal pattern that in typical marriages men are older than women,” Puleston said. “The age gaps vary by culture, but in every group we looked at men start [being reproductive] later. At the end of reproduction, male fertility rates taper off gradually, as opposed to the fairly sharp decline in female fertility by menopause.”

Despite small differences based on marriage traditions, all women and most men in the six groups stopped having children by their 50s, the researchers found. But some men, particularly high-status males, continued to reproduce into their 70s. The paper noted that the age gap is most pronounced in societies that favor polygyny, where a man takes several wives, and in gerontocracies, where older men monopolize access to reproductive women. The authors also cite genetic and anthropological evidence that early humans were probably polygynous as well.

Older male fertility also exists in societies supporting serial monogamy, because men are more likely to remarry than women. “For these reasons, we argue that realized male fertility was substantial at ages well past female menopause for much of human history and the result is reflected in the mortality patterns of modern populations,” the authors say. “We conclude that deleterious mutations acting after the age of female menopause are selected against … solely as a result of the matings between older males and younger females.”

According to Puleston, the “grandmother hypothesis” may be true, but the real pattern of male fertility extends beyond this explanation. “The key question is: Does the population have a greater growth rate if men are reproducing at a later age? The answer is ‘yes.’ The age of last reproduction gets pushed into the 60s and 70s if you add men to the analysis. Hamilton’s approach was right, but in a species where males and females have different reproductive patterns, you need a two-sex model. You can’t correctly estimate the force of selection if you leave men out of the picture. As a man myself, it’s gratifying to know that men do matter.”

Grants from the U.S. National Institute on Aging supported this study.


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1,805 thoughts on “Old men chasing young women: A good thing”

  1. Old men over 55, PLEASE leave women under 40 alone. In some cases you must have money and something special to attract a younger woman. Most stable and financially independent young women are not interested in old men. There is nothing wrong with older women. You old men are NO PRIZE. Get over yourselves and keep it moving. Good Day!

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    • You date them then young and fun
      Young and fun , I date who I want, and do what I want
      But best of all it really is none of your business any way

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  3. I’ am 59 and I have a thing for a 20 year old woman at work, she’s an all around nice person to everyone as well as me but I like how she respects me and how she is so polite with me. Not to mention she’s naturally beautiful. But it seems like she’s still seeing here on again off again ex boyfriend who’s her age but doesn’t really seem to be established either. I still think they might live together at his grandpa’s house. She likes me but says she’s not interested romantically because were co-workers. But I’m still trying to figure out why she’s still with this you punk who really isn’t going anywhere in life from what I see. She on the other hand is going to be or she is manager in training. Do I still might have a chance with her? Or shall I get over her and move on, but how? My feelings are pretty deep for her. I actually think there’s a little more on her part as well themn just liking me as a fellow co-worker. What do you all think?

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  4. Many women nowadays like older men that have a lot of money even if they’re ugly or not since most women are very money hungry today no matter what the man looks like, especially if the man treats them like a queen. Then again which Golddiggers are everywhere these days unfortunately.

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  5. I’m a 55 year old male haven’t felt in love with my wife in awhile of 17 years. Now I found a young lady that is almost half my age and we are in love and he wands kids with me. I have no kids with my current wife. The current wife doesn’t want me to leave her but I’m thinking if I don’t leave I may regret not having to have mixed in with someone I feel real feelings for. It scares me to start anew life and to have kids at my age but I on the other hand feel excited

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  6. I’ve got a 60+ bitch at home that’s all saggy and floppy, sort of the beached whale look.
    I’m saggy also but I still appreciate a young lady who is built and beautiful. I also tell her that she is beautiful.

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  8. That’s not absolutely true. Spem count is less conceivable than ovulation for many young men. A lot of young women find it harder to conceive these days too. I’m male, my girlfriend is 30 years older than me, and we have great love life. I have no children exept hers. She had one after the other until there was over eight of them. Her lesson changed my life, not natural selection. Only children are subject to “primitivism” , as I call this subject. You wont see me start another family of my own sometime in the near future. Look what they do to their parents when they get old. I hope you can see how our roles get reversed occasionally? The only thing that’s leading our growth is the learning of love and care for the family. That doesn’t mean men should go around rush breeding before they die. The bigger picture is, where most women have respect for our bodies, most men degrade them. Sperm is a rush until we reach 41. A strong man is able to hold back from sexual desire. Weak men show off until they are bad examples of fatherhood and natural selection. Strong men always come out on top in the end. The older the better the alpha male.

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  9. How to tell a gay when a girl is 100% not interested?

    Listen men, women are giving signals that they don’t want any thing to do with either because you are too old, ugly, too short, poor, rich, bold, too tall. There is a reason why woman is not interested in you and she is giving signals that she doesn’t want to you, so follwing her around, using triks every thing to get to her is not helping. So you better leave her alone. She knows what she want. She doesn’t want to spend any time on you, so you better not to waste your time specially if you are older than 40 or 50, you don’t have a time to spend your time on someone doesn’t want to you.

    Why would an attractive, sexy, beautiful, smart, intellegent, emotional stable girl will want to be with you. What makes you to be better than the other men who wants her make you differnt. you should know you don’t have any chance.

    The attractive girl doesn’t want you because you are rich even if you are rich. the attractive girl doesn’t want to you if you are poor either. which is there is more to it than what you have what you don’t have, so you should know when she say, she has a h usband, boyfriend, doesn’t call you back ot text you back or stop emailing you back also ignoring you any time you try to talk to her because you are going after where she goes. Those reasons what she is doing must be enough to make you understand that she is not interested in you but you must to be dump that you don’t understand what she is trying to tell you but she doesn’t want to be rude.

    So just give up there no any reason for her that will make her to have any feeling for you. There is many reasong she doesn’t like about you but she can’t say it to your face so get over it .

    going every where where she goes and pretending is not making you any favor. you should know she doesn’t want you because she is not the one following you around. She is not the one calling or texting you. That makes you just damp ass who do not understand about people.

    Sorry, but that is the true, so live your life and don’t hope for that peoutiful attractive gire to be your girefriend or a wife because she she will not. She knows what she want she doesn’t need any dumb ass people following her around specially when she is not even interested.

    I am sure there are other girls every where they want a man like you. You can check to where she works or school, you will find there. They are very nice girls there they will be happy to be with you and your money. Just spend time on these ladies, they will be happy to be with you., don’t spend your time and your energy on some one who not interested in you……………………

    There is a reason why she is not answering or texting even not even using her phone and having a private phone number and she only used.

    by now you should understand. There is no way that attractive women will sleep with you specially if she was with someone attractive handsome man than you. some times you should figure out the girls previous relashionship she had.

    SORRY AND have FUN with time you have left and enjoy your life don’t wast it.
    I am SURE you will find one that will much with you.
    I am sure after you read this you will understand what to do next so you don’t have to follow some one is not interested in you.

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    • Sound like you are very lonely to busy worrying about things that aren’t your business to start with as long as young hotties want me they can catch me, I will let them. I want what I want, and i guess it must be what they want as well

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    • I would be interested where you got that information. I’m 66; half of that plus 7 makes age 40 a minimum. My wife is 24. Yes, a boomer and a millennial. Makes for an interesting life. Noteworthy is that she had a bad time with men for a long time — an immature boyfriend, an absentee divorced father, an older brother who stole from her and did not appreciate her. I’ve been married twice before and have learned a few things about behavior.

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  12. there should be a difference of at least 10 to 15 years between men and women..cause women gets old very fast while men are men..they never get old… so in my opinion = Old men chasing young women: A good thing (yea it is totally)

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  13. Guys over 35 have less perfect sperm and so they can produce less healthy offspring. So it would be a disadvantage for a younger woman to be with an older man.

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    • I thought it was only lower sperm count, not the condition of the cells themselves. It’s not las if older men produce mutants you know. I am 41 and would like to have more children, I am in the financial position to provide for them.

      I understand my role in evolution as a protector and provider, and I greatly appreciate womens’ roles as childbearers, mothers, pillars of emotional support for both men and children. I don’t think women should feel like this is demeaning. You should know that being a man isn’t as empowering in someways as you might think. A man’s life can be very demanding, and women in fact have much control over men; more than you probably realize. I have often felt controlled by women and their sexuality, but I am not bitter about it. In the right environment men and women can be mutual benefactors for each other.

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      • Women 35-year old (+) present increased risk for Downs Syndrome primarily, and men 40-year old (+) present risk for autism in offspring… statistically.

        And, as a man, I agree with your comment on empowerment… as when I hit 40, total loss of control happened in the home. If I tried to hold on tight to it, the more I lost it… and then it was too late. I separated from my wife of nearly 20 years last week. Were you to observe, it was clear who was in control, and it is quite uncomfortable to be in that spot… so, when I was asked to leave… I said “OK.”

        If you have kids, stop while you are ahead… what if you have some raging autistic child who screams and moans all the time – you would kick yourself for it. Good luck!

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  14. As long as you feel young and enthusiastic,age hardly matters.One should persue his passion with full vigour and courage if u mean it.

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  15. Drop the royal ‘we’ and get cracking?” What exactly do you mean by that?

    Wouldn’t mind having an explanation that was at least a paragraph long.

    By “we” I meant people in general, not a “royal we”.

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  16. yes. old men chasing young girls, they are dating..but in reality the young girls are writing the particular and exact “date” to escape with the property and jewels. When the old ones wake up they come to know about the truth, the realisation. They open their eyes really. .She says, “Damn”. ..Want another negative comment, i told you when you were sleeping, now you want another one? Get it, “Close the door”. Old says, “i believed you the chick, …She says, “thats what i wanted”.. am not a green chick.. my huntingcontinues…wait, call for me…yes darling, pass the address..switch off. She says, my bank balance is increasing. :)

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  17. It was an interestingly enough article. I don’t judge a book by its covers and have nothing against older men dating younger women, Nor the other way around. Anyway, i found a web site that has interesting information about male breeding and their preferences.
    It’s true that all men like younger women, but not because they breed better, but because they’re beautiful and willing.

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  18. I want everyone to know that being with an older man is not different from a younger man other than he is far more likely to have settled with his life and at the same time willing to stand by you.
    I am a woman 50 years old , married with a wonderful 18 year old son and a 76 year old husband.
    I have to admit that when we first were together I hid him because of society and what people would think. The only hurdle to cross was my family and they like me accepted slowly, but now could not imagine me with anyone else.
    It was I that chased him and I that encouraged him to fall in love with me. I was attracted and went for what I wanted.
    To this day I love him more than life. When I was 30 and he was 56 he seemed 56. Now that I am 50 he seems 45. Life is what is in the person and not only the eyes. He has a beautiful heart and mind and is my soul mate. Don’t think it wasn’t hard, but it was worth it.

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    • Thank you for your point, Sandra. I’m 25 and my fiance is 52. I chased him 4 years ago and can not bare the thought to be with someone else. Yes, the stares and judgements are annoying. But at least I’m happy with him. I’m not a gold digger and he is not a pedophile like everyone thinks. Tired of the stereotypes. Anyway, good to read your post. You and your husband take care:)

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      • old pervert! You should be ashamed. Take a look at your ugly face in the mirror before you chase young women. You’re disgusting. You stink! Nobody wants you.

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    • My step-father was 42 years older than my mother and fathered my brother at 70 years old. He was a decent man, didn’t drink or smoke and went to church everyday and rarely took time off work, you could set your watch by him.

      My mother had me when she was 15 years old so we are more like brothers and sisters in the way we communicate. I asked her why did she marry such an older man and she told me point blank…for security, because at 19 and being a single mother she didn’t have too many 20 something guys looking her way.

      Now the opposite of this is that my real father ended up living with a lady 11 years older than him with 6 children(all girls)and has stayed with her for over 40 years.

      Both marriages seemed happy. My mom claims my step-dad was a good lover too. However there was a little deception with my dad, he claimed to be 10 years younger and it wasn’t until a year or two into my parents relationship that he told her the truth, but by then age was just a number.

      Now I’m 48 and I live in Thailand and the oldest women I dated is 36 with the vast majority in their middle twenties. Most women in the world are disgusted that I don’t date women nearer my age and probably think I’m a perv but I feel it’s the most natural thing in the world for an older experienced man that has already made all the mistakes in life to be with a younger girl. I’m not with them for deep philosophical conversation, I have male friends that provide that. I’m with them because I don’t need viagra to perform in the bedroom. They do it for me, and 50 year old women do not. i don’t care if it’s Madonna.

      The thing about society is that it’s perfectly exceptable for rich and famous men to marry teenagers(think Tom Cruise) but if you are just a normal guy with an average job you are considered a creep. But the way it works is that if I win the lottery and have 10 million in the bank it doesn’t matter what I look like, society deems me a winner and fit to date supermodels.

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      • “The thing about society is that it’s perfectly exceptable for rich and famous men to marry teenagers(think Tom Cruise) but if you are just a normal guy with an average job you are considered a creep. But the way it works is that if I win the lottery and have 10 million in the bank it doesn’t matter what I look like, society deems me a winner and fit to date supermodels.”

        Excellent point….

        Jack, good on you for living the dream.

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  19. Yes, and then there’s my great grand ma, married or married off to, we don’t know. She was 13, he was 35. I’m sure she took care of him when he was sickly and died (at about 76) Then she had another 50 years to live. She had a boyfriend who moved in, her ‘cousin’ and she was healthy and spry into her old age. Didn’t make this up.

    I don’t know if my granny had birth control, but she lived through those reproducing years, unlike many women who died in childbirth before it was available, many who were treated like baby factories with no respect for their health and needs to recover between kids.

    Actually, I heard that husband of hers was a difficult fellow. I guess she lived a long life afterwards in part because he wasn’t around to harrass her and treat her poorly. She got a break.

    I understand in some cultures it’s older men for young women and older women for young men. Not everyone young is going to buy that. The hurt seems to be when older men or women are spouses who attain their new arm candy by ditching someone they’ve leftbehind, often out of the blue with little preparation. (not assigning blame here, unless they’ve been reassuring all along).

    The take away, don’t ever run yourself into the ground taking care of any partner when he/she is young and able bodied. If you love them enough, stay around when they are old. If they’ve mistreated, that is your call!

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  20. If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

    he he he +1

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  21. The researchers seem to be completely ignoring the fact that better nutrition means women are staying fertile longer and having babies at later ages – which is a strong indicator of a civilization living longer as a whole.

    If women are having babies in their forties, biology will keep them alive to care for those babies and subsequent grandchildren. The age of menopause will keep on pushing back. Women AND men will live longer.

    Sperm from young sperm is of a much higher quality than the sperm of older men. So, older women mating with young men – A good thing for humanity living longer!

    Hey, older women can form harems and stock them with young men (all for the good of humanity of course!)

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  22. However,you know in hunter-gatherer societies, which likely represent early human demographic conditions and mating patterns, one-third of people live beyond 55 years, past the reproductive lifespan for women.

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  23. I see a claim that most pre-agricutural cultures practiced polygyny:

    “early humans were probably polygynous as well.”

    If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

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  24. there is only one life stop hurting your feelings if it is such a relationship that gives u the pleasure go for it as long as it is legitimate you all know that what pleases you is what you go for

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  25. The real problem is that older women cant accept that men find younger women more attractive they are jealous and bitter. They are sexist against mens nature to desire the more attractive women so they make ageist and sexist remarks against men, because they cant compete. Evolution made us what we are men are supposed to have multiple partners and women are supposed to have children with a successful man- whatever age or race or ethnicity he is. I would tell those bitter women to accept science, and stop making decisions based on your out of control emotions.

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  26. I see a claim that most pre-agricutural cultures practiced polygyny:

    “early humans were probably polygynous as well.”

    If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

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  28. I am a forty five year old woman who is dating a 75 year old man. This has been the best experience of my life. Sex is great. As a matter of fact, better than any young man I have ever had because an older man is more experienced and knows all the right places to touch. Needless to say, I am a professional and he is a retired professional. He has taught me how to survive in the cutthroat corporate world on a managerial level. We have a meeting of the minds which is why I love him so. I have money and so does he. We just enjoy each others company with no strings attached. So I think that It is all an individual choice. I too made assumptions in the beginning like why would I want to date an old man, but you neve judge a book by its cover. I have been wrong.

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  29. So, misogyny is allowed in scientific publications now? And your bloggers are allowed to write like Nuts magazine columnists? Ahem. Content? Style? I thought you had editors for this sort of thing.

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  30. I’m not really sure why so many people have a problem with older men dating/marrying younger women. If you don’t like it then don’t do it. But who are you to judge anyone else? I am 27 and my husband is 63. We have two children ages 5 & 2 and we couldn’t be happier. We have been together for 9 years so obviously I’m not using him. He isn’t rich, in fact he doesn’t even work! I make the money in our house. I’m not some trailer trash and he isn’t an old horn dog. We are two normal upper class people. I use to feel insulted when people would talk about us but Now I don’t really care what people say. I make a good living as a model/actress which allows my husband to stay home and also takes away the one thing people automaticly assume about us, that I’m a gold digger!
    My point is don’t judge a book by it’s cover. Neither of us were planning to marry someone who was 10+ years age gap but it just happened. You can’t always choose who you fall in love with. Keep yourself open to new possibilities and you will be amazed at what life will present you.

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    • You are a model and actor and that is why you are with him. How many men do you sleep with other than him?

      Ask this question to yourself….I doubt your intentions….and don’t defend these bloody bastards who eye on the girls their grand daughter’s age.

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  31. I happend to stumble on this post by accident. I can see where it would look awkward for an old man, say someone old enough to be someones father or even older to date someone younger. Yea I can go along with that.

    Now I do believe it is another thing for someone just being a little older even if its a 10 year gap dating, being thats a common thing in most healthy normal relationships now. like if someone was 22 and they dated someone 32. No big deal on that one.

    I do say all of this on a neutral basis being I don’t judge. Also, if everything is really for the right reason being (TRUE LOVE) then there shouldn’t be no trouble, which I can see thats not the case most of the time.

    Thanks everyone, I am just being unbiased, and wanted to put some borders up. :)

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  32. Let’s face it, some young women are strange and fancy older men, and some young men are strange and fancy older women. No point in fussing about it unless it is one of your children, then go crazy.

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  33. I just turned 50. I don’t feel like 50, but it is what it is, I’m not intereated in dating 20 year olds. Just don;t have enough in common, and yeah, 20 year olds woukd be dating me for my money.

    But I do like women in their 30s. They’re mature enough to know whats going on, but not bitter at the world, yet.

    and thats the problem with women 40 and over. Most are bitter. And most talk like my grandma!

    So yeah, part of the attraction for younger women is that of reproduction. But here’s another one: women matures faster than guys. So for me, dating a woman 10-15 years younger is like dating someone closer to my maturity level.

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  34. You old geezers with saggy balls and greasy gray hair. Chicks that dig you have either:
    A) VERY low esteem
    B) Need $
    C) Don’t care about having good sex
    D) Are very good actresses
    E) All of the above

    The answer is ‘D’. And here’s some advice. Stop having delusions of grandeur and thinking you got some game. Freddy Krueger, Jason Vorhees,Michael Myers, and Chewbaca all have women lined up to sleep with them, too, for money. Women will sleep with anything if they think there’s a dollar bill attached to it. They will even pretend to enjoy the sex even though they probably wanna puke.

    I’ve never been with one of you and never will. You’re just too hard to look at, let alone imagine sleeping with. And this article? Keep dreaming, geezers.

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  35. Sorry, I told me daughter that she is to marry someone close to her own age not an old man who lived his life and has alot of baggage. Even I was smart enough to not take on another man’s (Older Man’s problems).

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    • As well as Ive learned to keep my options open and entertain those men I have interest in while Im dating someone.

      Why?

      It donesnt pay to be faithful anymore. Most women lose out.

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  36. i am a beautyful lady of 36. having 3 kids( 9, 7 & 5). my husband is 2 years younger than me. he is a marketing profetional. last 10 years ago i married. because i am a housewife so i spend alone with out my husband.i love sex but my husband spend almost 25 days outside from home. last 2years i listen of my marriage my husband took another wife in another place. so he spend lot of time with my new sister in my absence. i live in a rented house. my family expence
    bear by my husband. but it not enough for me and my family. so i finally i want to do myself. my house owener is a man of 65. having 2 wives. one is dead last year another is ill and take bedrest. but that old man of 65 is maintaining himself 45. in my probleme he says i have no child for my family. so he said you have give me a child i will aggry. so from last 2 years i made sexual realation atlist 2 in a day and pragant . last year i born a boy child of that old man. now my last husb and divorce me. now the old man is my new husband. now i feel my new husband(65) more powerful than last one(34). now 36 age i fell i am 55 . but my husband(65) seems 45. now i am praganate of 7 months of my sweet husband(65) and awaiting for another new coming baby. so i fell old man is very romantic in sexplay with experience.

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  37. Old dads should give silent treatment to their own daughters for not showing interest in older men, instead of giving silent treatment to other people’s daughters. They should encourage their young daughters to go with older men, especially older men with kids. They should also tell their young daughters that they are silly for showing interest in young men.

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    • It’s obvious, Soccer Tips, that you are NOT a parent – or not a decent one – and are just posting with your selfish dick.

      Men should not encourage their daughters to date some delusional old fart that has GROWN OLD and wishes to use some new, fresh person’s body parts!

      Listen up, you sick old pervs, we don’t care if you think young girls are attractive – your old rotten parts DON’T MATCH OURS.

      Try to get some with people LIKE YOURSELF.

      That’s what normal girls do! They look for people fairly close to their age!

      The messed up girls, the ones that have been abused and the ones that want to sell their body for money, those girls are will to be a whore with an old guy, and they will approach you!

      Leave the NORMAL girls alone, they don’t want you old raisins!

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  40. i am a 48 year old woman and divc.and i was marryed for years.why would (A) older man bragg,about committing asdultery? some might would wonder if that makes him feel like a really big man.i wonder,but not long.

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    • Ask the man that committed adultery how much is divorce will cost him as well as he may not find his Trophy.

      Lots of men have “Delusions of Granduer” and most middle aged Divorcees many times don’t find the Trophy they want. They go from woman to woman every 2-6 months

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  41. This just goes to show you that we’re much more like animals than many people would like to believe. Much of what we do is unconsciously motivated by primal urges and our higher brain functions think of creative ways to act on these urges. I’ll bet some old bankruptcy lawyers in Cleveland Ohio are having some fun with younger ladies too :)

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  42. Amy, you need to stop your lib-lady rantings and get ready for your NOW meeting. This article is not attempting to reach any moral conclusions. Rather, it simply explains new dimensions in the knowlege of human reproduction. I’m sorry that your husband ran off with a younger woman, or your daughter married an older man, but that does not alter the facts related to human reproductive dynamics. They are not moral judgements, simply facts and conclusions based upon sound, logical reasoning – nothing more, nothing less. They are not a primer for survival through male mid-life crisis. Take a deep breath – your fear-based predispositions are showiing.

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  43. Wow. obviously if men continue “mating” with younger/fertile women the population will have a “greater growth rate”, becasue they have been mating with more women over a longer period of time. can we say “No S#!t” together? I’m intrigued as to why this article trys to serve as some sort of justification for old men chasing young women. Yes, men with lots of money “high status” have ‘always’ been able to get whatever they want. this dose not need to serve as a guide for the rest of society. This is obviously written by a man. However, if the two are consenting adults, I do believe age shouldn’t matter (That’s “not science/ only oppinon”, BUT I’m NOT trying to justify it with Science).

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    • say that again,what goes on in the bedroom is between THE TWO ADULTS.and yes i do like science,but what does that have to do with it.society,some men date women 48 years and older like myself because,they know there will be NO seeds planted,everything has stopped.NO,MAYBBS! we can’t HAVE ANY! AND,SCIENCE,YES IT VERY VERY TRUE,LOVE MAKING IS BETTER NOW!And being a 48 year old women,WHAT is A OLDER MAN FOR ME?????

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  44. Have you seen the research that says that women who reproduce after age 45 will live much longer than those who cannot?

    Women who have long telomeres can live a long healthy life – and pass this benefit onto their offspring.

    Repoductive years will be lengthened in successive generations.

    If women do not mate in their later repoductive years (because the men are mating with young women) this benefit is missed.

    Both the eggs of women and the sperm of men deteriorates with age.

    It’s true that nature has set us men up to be expendable. Women are kept alive and kicking long after menopause – up to fifty or sixty years.

    Women get released from baby-making duties and kept alive (even longer than men.)

    The sperm of young men is the most valuable – without as much deterioration as men who are 35 and over. Older men are kept alive in case of catastrophe – where all the young men are away or dead.

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  45. It is amazing news and satisfies my mental urge that why I feel to have sex and attracted in my old age towards the younger one. I really felt shamed in this matter. But now excited to know that his is a scientific truth.

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  46. As men get older they see a decline in testosterone, a decline in fertility, and a greater chance of fathering children with genetic problems. Men’s testosterone levels ebb after age 25, sperm quality deteriorates with age, and there’s a higher rate of genetic defects than there is with the sperm of younger men. In recent years clinical trials have found links between the father’s age and genetically related conditions such as Down syndrome and schizophrenia.

    In a study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility, researchers interviewed nearly 2,000 women about how long it took them to conceive. Among women 35 and older, those whose male partners were 45 and older took five times longer to conceive than those whose partners were 25 or younger. The researchers also looked at what happens when young women (age 25 and under) have children with men 45 and older. Again, the researchers found a substantial, fourfold increase in the time it took couples to conceive – meaning the man’s age was a factor independent of the woman’s age.

    Just because he can make sperm doesn’t mean it’s high-quality sperm. As men age, the volume, motility (a.k.a. speed), and quality of their sperm decline. In 2001, the journal Fertility & Sterility published one of the largest reviews of male fertility to date. The authors found that between ages 30 and 50, the average man’s sperm declines by up to 30 percent in volume, swims up to 37 percent slower, and is five times more likely to be misshapen. Shape is important because it correlates with the sperm’s genetic content. A higher number of misshapen sperm equals a greater potential for genetic abnormalities.

    Some genetic abnormalities, like dwarfism, have long been associated with fraternal age, but we didn’t give these problems much scientific attention because they’re relatively rare.

    On the evidence that sperm from older men is more likely to have genetic abnormalities, some European countries have prohibited men from becoming sperm donors after reaching a certain age.

    A man’s waist size is directly proportional to his testosterone level. All fat cells break down testosterone, but belly fat destroys testosterone the fastest, because visceral fat is broken down into estrogen more quickly than other types of fat. Estrogen basically cancels out testosterone in this situation – so the higher a man’s waist measurement, the lower his testosterone level.
    “One of the best markers we have of the male biological clock is an increase in DNA-damaged sperm. At age 25, only 5 percent of a man’s sperm has DNA damage; by age 35, that percentage has grown to 20 percent. That’s a fourfold increase in just ten years. As the percentage of damaged sperm increases, the odds of fertilization decrease.” – Narendra Singh, associate professor in the Department of Bioengineering at the University of Washington, Seattle

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    • To the point!!! THREE thumbs up!!! :-)

      The writer of that article must have wanted to interpret the ‘facts’ in own way… hahah

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    • None of that research matters or even pertains to the research the author posted. Just because the motility of sperm and testosterone are both decreased, doesn’t mean anything to the article. The research in the article says something very simple (but doesn’t say it well enough): when older men reproduce it adds (overall) to the longevity of the society. Why? Because they lived that long, and that longevity will be passed to their offspring. Motility and sperm count doesn’t matter at all, concerning this.

      As far as testosterone being “directly proportional to his testosterone level”, that is pure bunk. Haha. Where do you get this stuff? NO STUDY has even concluded that weight is “directly proportional” to testosterone level. That is a fact. Speaking of facts… the fact is, this isn’t your post. This post was cut and pasted from somewhere else on the ‘Net:

      http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-male-biological-clock-its-tick-tick-ticking-too_1490614.bc

      Sadly, this isn’t anything new. One person posts bunk and then dozens cut and paste it, pretending they wrote it, in the meantime passing along more erroneous information.

      As far as “bad sperm” this is why God (or nature if you prefer) designed the female vagina to be such a hostile place to sperm. Only the best sperm make it to the egg, and only the best of the best make it inside.

      Other studies of older men having children with younger women showed no (statistically) higher incidence of defects in offspring than with younger men. The studies show it is the combination of older men with older women that causes the problem. An older woman will have a lower chance of children with defects if she mates with a younger man, but the rates are still astronomical compared to the reverse situation (a young woman with an older man).

      It is very easy to sort a man’s sperm for healthy candidates and inseminate, it doesn’t even require removing the egg to fertilize, the sorted sperm can be directly introduced into the vagina with a syringe (or turkey baster) ;-) However, the opposite is VERY expensive and much more involved.

      Bottom line, there are very few problems with older men having children with younger women, and those problems can be easily, and (relatively) inexpensively remedied (if one is worried). However, older women having children with younger men (and especially older men) is very, very high risk, and the remedy (if one is available) is incredibly expensive. When you combine that real info with the results from this study, it’s clear that older men having kids with younger women is really a win-win situation for everybody (including the children and society in general).

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  47. YOU ALL idiot BASTARDS.Most you guys really sick.Specialy people from africa most off them scam looking for some idiot people.

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  48. desde hace 2 años salgo con un hombre 24 años mayor, y puedo asegurar que con el he tenido el mejor sexo de mi vida. ¿sera la experiencia?

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  49. My experience is so peretty. I got second marry at the age of 42. my second wife is only 24.still we are happy enough in mind and body. When I was 45 then i got more creasy about sex and trying to find a mature lady between 28-32. I got one through cell phone who was so beautiful that i can,t experse at all. I am not at all good looking man. we had relation until she was creasy to marry me and i leave when she disclose it to my daughter. now i am 56. I have now three girl friend all of them are bellow 35 and one is really 23. Still we are enjoying mind and body and i am enjoying with my second wife as well. very interisting thing I become more creasy with my wife after meeting any of my girl friend.

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    • You must be a “creasy” ladies man, Golpoo. I wonder how attractive you’ll be to these women when you start Golpoo’ing your pants. An older man with younger woman, I have no problem with that, but some doof coming in here and bragging about committing adultery with three different women, that’s just “creasy” and sleazy and more lousy than I can “experse”.

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  50. My third and last wife. She’s 27 and I am 42.. She seeked me and she makes three times my income..She never had a boyfriend or relation or anything,,,How could I be so lucky??? As we walk down the street she turns all heads,,,Wow what a bomb shell she is. Her unwavering loyality is so amazing to me. Maybe it has something to do with her culture (filipino) or maybe cause her parents are thirteen years apart, an it’s normal for her… I really don’t know,, we are just a perfect match in mind and body….That’s my scientific input,,,,,Happy New Year

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  52. Am Originally from Ghana but will be coming to Canada very soon and also am looking for an old woman who is looking for a young guy, you can email me via bbstoway@gmail.com and i will get back to you asap if you are interested, Have a wonderful day.

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  53. i am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 51 years old now..our age gap is 25 years..i do believe that man at age of 40 and above the habit when it come to sex is like a teenager…..

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  54. Hello
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    Although my wife is a house hold wife and she feel sex desire after his period that is alleast two or three days

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  55. I AM A VERY BEAUTIFUL LADY AGED OF 25 NOW. LAST 8 YEARS I MARRIED TO A OLD MAN. I BELONGES TO A POOR FAMILY. MY FATHER IS A PEON OF A PRIVATE AGRICULTURAL FACTORY. MY MOTHER IS A HOUSE WIFE. I HAVE 3 YOUNGER SISTER. MY PARENTS ARE VERY POOR . SO THEY ALWAYS WORRIES ABOUT MY MARRIAGE. MR. SINGAL IS ONE OF THE LAND LORD OF OUR VILLAGE. HE HAVE 2 WIVES. HIS AGE IS 61 YEARS. HE IS MY FATHER’S CHILD HOOD FRIEND.HE IS VERY ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL. BERCAUSE I AM A BEAUTIFUL LADY HE WANT’S TO MARRIE ME. HE TOLD MY FATHER THAT HIS OTHER TWO WIVES
    NOW OLD. I WANT TO MARRIE TO YOUR ELDER DAUGHTER MEANS WITH ME. HE SAYS I ALSO HELP TO YOUR OTHER DAUGHTER FOR FINANCIAL SUPPORT FOR MARRIAGE. MY PARENTS AGGRYED IN HIS PROPOSAL AND FINALLY MY PARENTS GIVE MY HAND TO THAT OLD MAN OF61. AFTER MY MARRIES MY MOTHER SAYS THAT YOU DO NOT FELL YOUR HUSBAND IS OLD MAN . BECAUSE OLD MAN GIVES YOU VERY MUCH SEX PLEASURE. I AM ALSO ASTONISHED THAT IN MY FIRST NIGHT MY OLD HUSBAND PUTOFF ALL MY DRESS LIKE SARIES,BLOUSE AND MY BRA. WHEN I AM IN BAREBOUDY HE PUT HIS PANNIS INTO MY VAGINA AND PUSH UPS AND DOWN HEALSO PUT MY NIPLE INTO HIS MOUTH. HE MADE TWICE TO THRISE SEX PLAY WITH ME. LAST 8 YEARS AGO. NOW I AM MOTHER OF 3 DAUGHTER AND A SON HE IS NOW 70 . STILL HE PLAY HIS SEX WITH ME TWICE A DAY NOW. MY HUSBAND OTHER 2 WIVES NOW ACEPT ME AS THERE SISTER . THEY TOLD ME THAT WE BOUTH HAVE 4 CHILD . BUT YOU HAVE 4 CHILD . SO OLD MAN ALWAYS PUT HIS PENNIS IN TO YOUR VAGINA. SO YOU DELIVERED 4 CHILDERN IN 8 YEARS. I TOLD THEM MY OLD HUSBAND IS MORE YOUNGER THEN US( THREE WIVES) NOW WE THREE WIVES ARE OLD BECAUSE NOW WE HAVE MANY CHILDREN. I ALSO PRAGANATE OF FIVE MONTH WAITING FOR MY 5TH DELIVARY.SO NOW I AM OLD WOMAN BUT MY 70 YEAR’S HUSBAND IS YOUNG BOY. SO I FELL OLD MAN NEVER OLD. IN SEXPLAY. THEY ALWAYS YOUNG , YOUNG AND YOUNG.

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  56. I hope this research gets more publicity for men in my age bracket this is just the sort of news we want to hear at Christmas! I guess the only drawback is we have to be mindful of the implications and get ready to take a paternity test when asked!

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    • From a science point of view. Well the vagina starts to get loose and dry as the women ages and is unable to produce offspring after 40yrs. A penis is still the same shape as you age well into your fifties and still can produce offspring for a long time,,,maybe this is why older men are most likely to be with the tight a juicy baby making women!! Just my point of view!!!

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  59. Nowadayz age is no more a criteria when it comes to matters of the heart.I love older women coz they know what they want plas experience in makin love.Am 20 call me +254738894322

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  60. I am not agree with it because it happens only in rare cases or a very few people. rest of the old guys are not stronger than young guys.

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    • Coming improvements to medicare insurance will reap some benefits some recipients — but will help make coverage costlier for people with higher incomes. Thanks to some extent to this unique year’s health-care change, everythinggoogle dude

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  62. Each to their own, there is no right and no wrong. I am 23, dating a man 50 years. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
    A few of the ‘younger’ men on here have proven EXACTLY why s woman may go for an older man.
    They have been judgmental, immature and most of all presumptuous. They think they know what a woman wants, when in reality… they have not a clue. Older men have experience, knowledge & understanding- which is invaluable. No one has the right to judge a relationship.

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    • Those out there complaining,,,Don’t be mad cause you can”t have her ,,,cause your only helping “Men” like me,,,for this I can only convey gratitude to you all!!!!

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  63. if man in 60 feel love story with girl in 20 …we can say she loves him for his money… but..if she loves him true love from heart …he will feel 2 sweet feelings first the sweet feelings of love between man and woman… second he will feel that he is 25 in age while he is 60..so in sex he will be more excited because his lover with fresh body of age 20…but he will feel so jealous about her from other men…may be he will suspect that she can play with other men more strong in sex…but if you can do it.. i think to marry age 20 is better than age 50……

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    • My wife is 28 yrs younger than I. Enough with all this speculation. I live it and love it. I am 49 look 36, when people speak with me they think I am 25. I have the body of a 30yr old, the energy of a 25 yr old and the mind of a 50 yr old.

      Sex nightly parties weekly. and all this without the money.
      Confidence my freind is the attractiion not the money.

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    • Funny how this comment comes up after all these…other inappropriate comments.
      “Keep up the good work!”

      I did enjoy the read though…interesting, since the age gap between the guy I love is a mere 8 years.

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  65. no one young women will date older men unless there is some business but it woun’t be for long to be seen with older men. Becausse old men are useless. they don’t have confident on themselves and try to date young women. for what?

    YOunget women prefer younger women who can do better sex and having fun out side not just sitting home watching foot ball or base ball with alcohol on their hand. which are with big belly sitting in a sofa for ever.

    Money can’t change with the young women feel who she want. Old men are so old old. even if they have money the money will not help them, it maight help them for a while but not for long run.

    so older men foucus on your old women just like you. you alway scare for any thing you want because you don’t feel good and don’t have condident.

    so young women prefer younger women because there is many good reasons why they like younger guys. their look perfect their body inside their close perfect sex perfect every thing perfect. but older men they are old on the out side and inside under their cloths are old body. so who want that old body.

    there are millons reasons why younger man is better than old with big belly or with wrincle belly.

    young women and young men will have a good sex when they are reaaly both in love. but with older men you can’t be in love because there is many reasond why women can’t be in love with old man who doesn’t have confident on himself even if the old men pretend to be have a confident.

    younger women will never like older men to date unless there is a busness going on to be just freind.

    younger men are hot with is much which much with young women
    old men are not not not hot but sugi which much with old men just like them.

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    • I have a flatter better body than 80% of the younger at my gym. Who ever you are, I would likely pass on you and you would wonder why I passed on you. Well I passed on you becasue your girl freind found my intellect and look along with my confidence more interesting than being with another young empty minded girl speaking of school, boys and clothes. She seeks a person who can stimulate beyond that below her waiste.

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    • I actually like older man and I don’t give a damn about their money. I have a superior education, I’m an independent person and I don’t want anyone’s money. Youngs guys may have more sexual desire but if don’t know how to satisfy a women and if they’re selfish it’s better to not have sex at all. So I stick with middle age guys…thank you very much!
      I don’t like going to the disco and getting drunk so…I’ll stay at home in the arms of my MAN not a BOY. They have more feelings than young guys trust me.

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      • Hello I was reading your post and I love it. I am a 27 year old goin on 28 n a month and my fiance is 45 and I wouldn’t have it any other way! He is amazing to me, he is my best friend, my cousin, my homeboy everything…. He always has my back jus as I have his. The sex is wonderful better than I had it with younger guys! He makes sure I’m satisfied before anything! He actually cares about my feelings! I cabt wait ti become his wife next year! He has a vasectomy wit two adult children, and I have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship but he treats my son as if he is his own! I loove this man with everything I have! I jus wanted to comment because your post reminded me of my relationship wit my boo! Thanks… U and urs have a blessed life together

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    • My wife is 27yrs old and I am 42. When we first got to know each other we did not even know what we looked like or what the age we were to each other. We chatted for a long time and fell in love. When she sent me pictures it turned out she was a bomb shell,,,and even more lucky for me she was a virgin at the time. Finally my last (third) wife who truely loves me for dear life.. It’s just about how the women is raised and her culture.. Most women here in the states are all screwd up. If it’s for the money why is her income twice mine? If I am old and dirty and all of the above mentioned,,,why did she seek me? I asked her this in the beginning,,,she said “It’s because the guys my age only want to cheat,,play and make tears…So here I am helping this world again by spreading my great gene’s for one last time,,(two great kids by my first wife,,,and two more with my second) and with my sexy filipina maybe another two or three as “she” wishes…..

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      • I love this post I am 28 wit a 45 year old fiance and I love him to death he is respectful, loving and everuthing I can ask for n a man and I will never leave him! I hope you two have a wonderful amd blessed long life together!!!!

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    • Why do you just assume that old men do not have any confidence in themselves? I am 23 and dating a 60 year old man who takes care of himself inside and out. He exercises daily, eats healthy unprocessed food, very rarely goes out and gets fast food, has never smoked, and drinks occasionally. He is as fit as a 30 year old, NOT WRINKLY at all, and even though he’s retired he owns about five houses and rents them out to people doing his OWN remodeling. He does all the yard work, helps decorate for the holidays, and we both have a lot in common surprisingly. I didn’t just go out and start “looking” for older men. We both just found each other and started out as friends and became lovers. We are both very happy with each other and that’s all that matters.

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  66. LAST 10 YEARS AGO I TAKE MATURITY. NOW I AM 23 YEARS OLD.
    LAST 4 YEARS AGO I MARRIED IN AGE OF 19. WITH A OLD MAN AGE OF 55. THE OLD MAN IS RICH PERSON . MY FATHER IS IS FRIEND OF MY HUSBAND. AND WORK ON HIS MILK FARM. MY FATHER WAS THE SUPERVISER OF THAT COMPANY. LAST 5 YEARS THE OLD MAN CAME TO MY HOUSE FREQUENTLY . HIS FIRST WIFE HAVE NO ISSUE SO HE TALK TO MY FATHER I WANT TO MARRIE TO YOUR DAUGHTER. MY FATHER IS POOR AND I HAVE 5 SISTER AND ONE YOUNG BROTHER. BECAUSE I AM ELDER DOUGHTER OF MY FATHER AND MOTHER THEY WANTS IF I MARRIED TO THE OLD MAN HE HELP TO MY FAMILY FINANCIAL MATTERS. SO MY PARENTS AGGEE AND GET ME MARRIED TO THE OLD PERSON OF 55. NOW I AM THE SECOND WIFE OF MY HUSBAND. NOW 4 YEARS LATTERS I AM MOTHER OF 2 DAUGHTER 3/2 AND NOW I ALSO PRAGANATE OF 6 MONTHS FOR 3 ISSUE. NOW MY HUSBAND MADE MORE THAN TWICE SEX-INTERCOURSE WITH ME FOR AT LEAST 30. WHEN HIS PENNIS ENTER INTO MY VAGINA ITS LIKE A BIG LONG GAZAR INTO MY VAGINA. MY HUSBAND ALSO HELPS FINANCIAL TO MY FAMILY . NOW MY TO SISTER MARRIED FOR MY HUSBAND’S FINANCIAL HELP. NOW I AM MOTHER OF 3 CHILD IN 4 YEARS. SO I THINK MY HUSBAND NOT A MAN OF 59 HE IS JUST 35 AND I FELL BECAUSE I AM NOW MOTHER OF 3 CHILD. NOW I FEEL 32. SO I NEVER FELL OLD MAN IS OLD IN SEXPLAY. JUST YOUNG WIFE CO-OPERATE HIM IN SEXPLAY HE GIVES YOU LOT OF SEX PLEASURE……

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  67. I AM A BEAUTIFUL LADY OF 27 . LAST FIVE YEARS AGO I STAY WITH MY ELDER SISTER WHO IS MARRIED LAST 6 YEARS. MY ELDER SISTER AGE IS 31 AND MY JIJA AGE IS 53 . MY SISTER HAS NO ISSUE FOR GYANIC PROBLAME . HER TUBE IS BLOCKED. MY JIJA ‘S MOTHER AND JIJA WANTS A CHILD . BECAUSE MY JIJA IS THE ONLY SON OF HIS PARENT. MY JIJA’S MOTHER’S WANT FOR ANOTHER MARRIAGE FOR MY JIJA. LAST 2 YEARS AGO ONCE MY SISTER SAID ME YOU GIVE ME A CHILD . I SAY’S HOW. MY SISTER SAID YOU MADE SEXUAL RELATION WITH YOUR JIJA AND GIVE ME CHILD. I WAS YOUNG THAT TIME AND WANT’S FOR TEAST OF SEXUAL PLEASURE. I AM AGGREE WITH MY SISTER PROPOSAL. ON THAT NIGHT MY JIJA BECAME MY FIRST HUSBAND
    AND PUTOFF MY DRESS WIH BRA .. FIRST HE PUT MY BREAST IN TO HIS MOUTH AND BUT HIS RIGHT HAND MIDDLE FINGER INTO MY VAGINA AND PUT UPS AND DOWN AFTER SOME I AM ALSO PUT MY JIJA WOW.. WHAT A PLEASURE I NEVER THINK MY JIJA MAN OF 55 GIVES ME SO MUCH SEXPLEASURE .. THERE AFTER I MADE EVERY DAY SEXRELATION WITH MY JIJA NOW I AM A MOTHER OF 1 YEAR DAUGHTER . NOW I AM ALSO PRAGENATE
    OF 4 MONTH AND WAITING FOR A ANOTHER CHILD . MY DIDI ALSO MADE SEXUAL RELATION WITH MY JIJA NOW I MARRIED WITH MY JIJA . NOW HE IS MY HUSBAND AND WE BOTH SISTER ARE HIS WIVES. WE LEAVE TOGETHER . MY DIDI ALSO LOVE MY DAUGHTER LIKE HER DAUGHTER. SHE ALWAYS TOLD ME YOU MADE SEXUAL REALATION EVERY DAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND.. I DO THAT NOW I THINK MAN NEVER OLD…

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  68. hey guys if you are looking for a girlfriend i am the one i am 24 years old so call me my number is 9894922239 so call today.

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  69. last 3 years ago i am a woman of 24 years. i belongs to a poor family . my father is a
    farmer and my mother is a house wife. i have four sister. i am elder doughter of my family. after my graduation i join a private nursing home . my boss is a surgon and head of that nursing home. his age
    is 57 . maximum times i have attened night sift. my boss is sexual person . many times he use nurse for his bed patner. when i join a old nurse staff say that this old man is very sexual . and you just now new
    so beware of him but i said he is a old man of 57 what he can do?
    just 15 days latter on i a night the old doctor call me to his chamber . i will think something serious so i went to his chamber in night 1 p.m.
    when i enter his room he shutdown the door of his chamber and take me to his bed i am very much afraid and said him i am a poor lady
    working here for my family poverty. he said i will marrie you and i will
    support to your family. on that day he made sexual-relation with me . i dont think that a old man of 57 gives me sexual pleasure. now i am 27 years and a mother of a 1 year son. now the oldman is my husband now his age is 60. but now he also make 1/2 sexual relation with me. now i think my husband is just 16 and i am verymuch sexual satisfied. some days ago our old nurse staff tell me that what happen
    the old man is old or young i said stop didi i was not mature at that time the old man make me old woman because now i am a mother of a 1 year son. so i am old woman now he is just father of a 1 year son so he is young man of 16. didi said you also make yourself young for your husband other wise he go for a another lady. i say no he made twice sexual relaton with me. now i feel old man never old he becames more romantic in old age. i am physically satisfied with my husband… so man never old.

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  70. i am a lady of 28 years. i am in a job last 2 years ago . i am appoint as a personal secretary of my company boss. he is a old man of 55 years. i am belonges to a poor family and i have 3 sister. parentes are no more last 5 years ago. now i am the only earning person. my boss have a daughter who is married last 3 years ago. now she settle in u.k. with his husband. my boss’s wife is nomore last 8 years ago. because i am his personal sectary he told me his family matters.
    i also told him of my family story that i ave 3 sister and i am the earning person. he told me i will make you my wife. i aggred his proposal last year . last year i married a old man of 55 . he is 27 years older than me . but he gives me sexual pleasure 3/4 times like a young boy of 18. now i am a mother of a son 4 months ago. he gives me sexual pleasure and now my husband settled my 3 sister for higher study. now he is feel like a young boy of just 18. now i am sexualy satisfied.. so finally i think age does not come between love and sexual satisfication.

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  71. i am now 21 years old woman . i made bad relation with my jija science
    2 years . and i became praganate 3 times and aborson them. last year i am married a old man of age 54 last year . he is 35 years older than
    me. now i have a doughter 2 months ago. i am satisfied with my husband. he loves me more when i tell him that i have bad relation
    with my jija in my early days. but now i only take sexual relation with my husband only. now i made 2/3 times sexual relation with my husband and also satisfied me. he loves me and i love him… so age
    does not matter in sexual life.

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  72. I’m with a guy whose 36 & we’re happy despite the fact that he is 14 years older than me doesn’t matter to me. It by nomeans make him younger or makes me feel much older. However if two adults decide that they want to be together let them b… It’s their relationship. If you don’t agree with datin an older man then don’t. You can’t really speak for someone else.

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  73. It is frightening how many of these comments are by people who have no idea what the article is saying. Can’t they tell the difference between theoretical research and their own dating preferences?

    Good grief, people, all the guy is saying is that, according to “evolutionary theory,” people shouldn’t live much past childbearing age, and here’s a clue to why they do. Not that YOU ought to hook up with somebody’s grandpa.

    Unless you want to, of course.

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  74. This is nothing new and it will keep going on for the rest of time. As men get older middle age crisis or whatever you want to call it sets in and you get these guys chasing younger women. Does it make you younger? No, but it is a distraction to getting old :) ebook software

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  76. not a a qood thinq AT ALL & im what 16. Yeah get a clue ; they need to go to school & college.Like that saying thats true : qirls go to college to get more nollege & boys go to jupiter to get more stupider Lmfaohh itsz like your dauqhter datinq a WAY older dude i dont think you would like that.

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  77. Thatsz in your mind ; youh probably rape liddo kiddsz; sowwwy but thats the truth. a 1 year old should date a 20 year old yuck – jusss not riqht.

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  78. Ewww no old man datinq younq qirlsz thatsz like fuqcken rapist dude and why would some qirl wunna date dude like super old; like 20 datinq a 50 – 70 yuckky ! he needsz 2wo qo to jail like real talk

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  79. Not only old men, if you have born as men then most of the person should chase cute and young girls, Why not old men ? They are having good feeling over in that age only.

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  80. Interesting article. Personally I feel sick of the young girls with old men. How can yo kiss old man, it must b really difficult. I am lucky I am a man in my late twenties.
    I think usually women and young girls are duffer as compared to men. Men usually exploit young girls. It is not that old men know how to please young girls. It is crap. Young men are the best match for good pleasurable relationship.
    I had some bad experiences of young girls. So I stayed away, still in search of a decent one. I think men have more choice, if they are not married. If a man is financially and health wise stable, he can enjoy good relationships for longer period of time.

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  81. The big question of this article: why humans live longer than the age of reproduction?

    Well, what do you think of it?Human beings,how we got on this plannet is still a mistery. As I read in different sources there were secret people who lived much longer than 400 years, and probably in the future this will be very much possible as well for everybody. Our grand-grand nephews.

    Anyway, I know an old high-status male over 70, who is indeed active chasing women, unfortunately he doesn’t treat them right, so no, you don’t necessary find an understanding person in an old man if you are younger, on the contrary, but this was not the point of this article, the idea was if this old man succeds to pass on genes, meaning having babies in older age, yes he does, but these are exceptions, really only 2% of men above 65 make kids with younger partners, they get to be in the news. So their contribution to human kind is insignificant.

    But I’m glad this era is over. Now thanks God people are starting to be equals.

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  82. Sorry..That was in German!!

    You have a Really interesting view. I have not thought about it so. Here are a few really good tips that I have to remember that. Keep up the good with your work. Maybe I should make it like you. All the best! Anna

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  83. I am 26 and my husband is 62. We have been together for over 8 years and we have two children together. He isn’t rich! I read these post about younger women only with older men for money. That is crap! We aren’t poor but we sure the heck aren’t rich. I am with my husband because I love him! He is a wonderful man. When i was 18 i didn’t like the men my age. I wanted a MAN not a boy! I wanted to be respected and loved. That is why I married an older man, and I couldn’t be happier! If i was just with him for money I sure as heck would not still be married to him for so long! All you haters need to get a reality check! It isn’t new for older men to be with younger women!
    PS: Our sex life is very good! Anyone who thinks having sex with an older man is awful, you haven’t tried it! Older men have been around the block a few times and know how to please a woman!

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  84. yeah i’m 28 now, but when I was 18/19 years old, i got into a series of BAD relationships with guys in their late 20s and early 30s. now, all of the guys my age or slightly older who are hunting younger girls now are defective. literally. current/former drug addicts, drunk former frat guys, mental health issues. the only reason they go for the younger ladies is because they think they’re easy. maybe this formula works for slight age gaps or different cultures, but more than 5 years age gap in 21st century USA does NOT work.

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  85. If you are an actual scientist or at least an skeptical, you don’t believe anything that is passed as “science”. When it comes to evolutionary psychology, almost anything can be blindly explained by anyone. There are many articles out there than challenge EP’s theories and point out how their assumptions are, in fact, unscientific.

    Oh and as a younger women, I feel disgusted when an old man hits on me, give me the younger hot guy any day. I make my own money and I’m secure. I don’t want someone to take care of me, I’d rather have some hot sex instead.

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    • You hit the nail right on the head honey…these old men who want to get a hold of some teen or 20 something girl are trying now to use bogus science as a way to justify there perversion.

      Get grip boys …you are only deluding yourself…

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  86. This article is, like everything else in this world, against women, as simple as that. Women live longer than men and this means that they have to live their last 20 30 years of life all alone. Of course guys will love this, because in all reality, they don’t give an eff about their women. Who cares if they live lonely and sad for 30 years? as long as they satisfy me sexually and change my diapers when I’m old.

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  87. Hey, I figure old men have earned the right to chase young women or old women if they want. It is hard work getting old. And im only 30! Lol.

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  88. Interesting article. I’ve never heard such opinion. I agree that people who are lonely in life pass away earlier. But if you have young children you don’t have many choices, of course if you are not an egoist. You have to live and to be in a good form as long as it is possible.

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  89. It is 75% true that a man of old age want to have a relation with the young age woman. Because some divorced men not only want to remarry, in fact they are in need of a woman who can manage his life. Moreover when we talk about sexual relation then I will say that ‘yes’ old men wants to have sex with young women of sexy figure for their pleasure.Read more about love and relationship onhttp://www.datingadvice911.com/index.php#showhead23

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  90. I’m 56, with two grown children from a previous marriage, and recently discovered my 37 year old fiancee’ is pregnant – with twins. She had been considered “infertile” but we still took precautions – unplanned, shocking…then after thought – delightfully pregnant. Why is it that women seem to want to bash older men for wanting to continue to LIVE – not retire and “smell the roses” and gradually drift into old dried up men? I believe these twins will likely add many years to my life – the human species need a purpose to continue living other than retiring and drifting off into the sunset. I plan to be around when they produce grandchildren. I take care of myself, my parents lived well into their 80s and I regard the twins as a rejuvenation – not a decision made to prove I am still a man – although, I have to admit, I am feeling my oats! Sue me and deal with it!

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    • Disgusting – in 20 years your fiance will be changing your diapers and putting the twins thru college – what a great guy you are

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    • Hmmmm to the 56 year old guy that just found out he will be father of twins. I can hear you beating on your chest in pride from here LOL! Well write in again AFTER these kids are born and you are running around after 2 year olds with sticky fingers and smelly diapers and you have no freedom or down time anymore!!
      I go over and spend the day with my adorable grandchildren (I am 58) and I can tell you from personal experience, I love them all dearly…….but I cannot WAIT to get home to my peaceful life again. My heart goes out to ya!! I think mother nature duped you….she always does!

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  91. Very interesting article. It has long been interested in human evolution, the theory of rank and reproduction. I think that the age of breeding males is strongly dependent on the kind of sex life he led during his life, he was engaged in sports nutrition and have little connection with his ancestors.

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  92. William Hamilton stating that women enhance the survival of their children and grandchildren by living long enough to care for them really makes sense because it is instinctual.

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  93. What a load of crap. There are already way too many people in the world so we certainly don’t need to “guard our genes.” Maybe now we have the answer-get rid of all those youth chasing old men trying to prove their virility. Gag.

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    • Totally agree Bennie, I think you’re on to something! Wonder how we get that started – I’m soooo with you! How can anyone looki at Hugh Hefner and do anything but gag – and how does Catherine Zeta Jones roll over, see Michael Douglas w/ his bad plastic surgery face and not run screaming for the hills???

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  94. I’ll answer in a full post. Too many ideas, in fact. I was thinking about this very thing yesterday as I walked past the display case at my employer and some of my childhood favorites were on display (the author was a major benefactor to us)–I always ask new employees whether they’ve read her books and sadly, the answer is no.

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  95. I think you’ve made some truly interesting points. Not too many people would actually think about this the way you just did. I am really impressed that there is so much information about this subject that have been uncovered and you did it so well, with so much class. Good one you, man!

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  96. if age doesnt matter thats like say paedos can do anything then
    there should be some age limit some were to stop older men taking advantage of young girls. would it be okay fo some guy older then 30 to start dating a girl younger then 15? but anyway dont single older women use young guys for sex ??

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  97. I am 28 and my girlfriend is 17 now ….. we are in love from a year … we are planning to get married after 2 years … is this age gap will affect her in any way … like health , sexually, are etc….. Please help me …..

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  98. Age shouldnt matter except to the people actually IN any given relationship. What concerns me far more is the atrocious spelling and grammar in most of these posts – if this is the best the US education system can produce (assuming many of you are in fact American) – then the country is in real trouble. Learn to spell & express yourself people – it’s important!

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  99. Someone mentioned earlier that one should not discriminate against another based on age….then what are men who won’t consider ‘going with a woman over 25″ doing?” Disgusting. This suggests that the principal motivation for them in the pursuit of a relationship is not for emotional connection, but for the acquisition of some passive, pretty- looking sex object. If the motivations were honorable, then age would not be a factor. Older men date much younger women….but the reverse is much rarer… it makes me sick, and sometimes when I think of these attitudes, I feel utterly depressed. It’s dehumansing women. Knowing this, I have no idea why women get involved with men. I have not been hurt by any man, but I watched many friends be heartbroken by guys who are only interested in sex. There are men out there who can override this purported ‘isntinct’…and form meaningful, loving relationships with women of their own age and experience. DECENT, evolved men.

    I am not a lesbian, or a militant feminist- I am a young woman that many of you guys would consider ‘hot’, …well I’m certainly “young and fertile enough”…evidently that’s all my fellow females and I exist for, and the basis on which our merit as human beings is judged. The things I hear have made me consider NEVER going near a man ever again. I cannot believe that in this day and age, when we think we’ve advanced so far, that we dehumanise fellow human beings to such an extent, and that society is so accepting of this…because society is favorable to men.

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  100. It’s only good when the OLD MAN is not married. But when Infidelity sets in,.and the bastard decided to leave his wife for a younger woman, is it still a good thing?

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  101. Moani is 100% correct. She literally stole the words right out of my mouth. As for Martin, I believe you are thinking about teenage girls having intercourse with older men? No, no – this article is referring to 20-30 year old women actually marrying men 40-50 and choosing to have a relationship with them. Not 15 year old girls being forced to married 30+ year old men. That’s insanity.

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  102. I am dating some one who is 20 years old and I am 48 . I am very happy with things the way they are with her . We met at school, and thru the course of a semester we found we had so many things in common and we fell in love. Its now been over 6 months we have been living together. We both really care for each other and find our relationship very rewarding. I found with older women a lot of resentment and anger issues that come from having children and being married and only take care of there kids and not there spouses needs. Older women expect so much and give so little to there spouse that they let themselves go and become bitter toward there spouse when they do some attention. I believe that they become so used to pushing there spouse off to the side for so long they become acustom to expecting someone to drop to there feet forever. So many are on the boarder of being narsasistic. I myself am really turned off by these behaviors and look for someone who wants to be cared for and at the same time care for me and not just a one way street. I am not sure if the relationship will last but I know she cares for me as much as I care for her. As I read through these posts I see a lot of jelosy and resentment. Get over the age thing and quit judgeing others for there relationships and get your own and if you give the attention to your spouse he will be there forever and quit pushing him off to the side for everyone else.

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      • F…, How presumptuous and arrogant can you possibly be?

        Ivan said nothing about having left his wife. This article is not about encouraging a man to leave his wife. I only found this article myself, because I got an unusual answer to a question about a woman’s age, “Too young.” Now my mind of course appended an implied “for you”, but I was wondering if it is possible that this was just a playful dig or a serious signal against me asking her out.

        As for leaving a wife, I would never do that. I am totally *for* life-long marriage, but in my case my wife died. She was 39 and I am a fit and young 47. What I unfortunately find these days is women who have little respect for the institution of marriage. So, some of the commenters here imply that it is hideous for someone like me to be interested in a single, never married woman? Most women my age are already married. Of course I have to consider women 30 years old or younger. I will never show interest in another man’s wife.

        It is perfectly natural for a young woman to marry a healthy older man, established in his life. The modern epidemic of divorce distorts this, flooding the pool of potential mates, women claiming to be single, with middle aged women whose husbands are still alive, and who are unfortunately not endowed with the charms possessed by the younger women who are the natural candidates for marrying available men.

        I certainly am not discriminating simply by age. There are women my age who would be wonderful marriage candidates, but they are few and far between, and furthermore, they are most likely to be the faithful wife in an existing marriage.

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        • Well from a girl’s perspective, I am 20 years old and my boyfriend just turned 36 today. I am very happy with him. I have never had this strong of a connection with any of my “closer in age” previous boyfriends. We actually plan to get married and have children after I finish college. We currently live together and love each other more than I thought possible. He is the world to me and I don’t care what other people may say about his age it doesn’t matter to me. He has met my family and my dad actually likes him the most out of all my previous boyfriends. So to each his own but a young girl and an older man can be very happy and if you don’t agree just go out and actually see how many couples with this age difference are in love and happy like me and so many others. If you want to let age determine who you can be with, you are most likely missing out on the love of your life. Hope this helps:)

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  103. Well to be honest, I want to mention my opinion:
    1- Girls become mature sooner than boys.
    2- psychologically girls reach their relationship desires sooner than boys.
    3- there is a large difference between a man and a woman which some how arises from their age.
    So we can conclude that for marriage or any relationship positive age gap in a standard value will satisfy both man and woman.

    As I have consulted some psychologists, the best age gap is between 4-7 years when the man is older than the woman.
    Many people observe less or more, although it cannot be a rule. But it is the best recommended age gap which can bring satisfaction. For further notice you can investigate this issue psychologically.
    When there is a logical age gap both people rely on each other, both morally and personally. Girls become mature sooner than boys, and they suffer menopause at age of 50, so what should a 50 year old man do with rest of his life if he married a woman with no age gap? But if at that time his wife is already 40 years old then it makes sense, they won’t have problems, and of course you should not only consider the age gap but also the personality of two people should be in balance.
    There is a simple formula: the age of the woman to the age of man should be 3 to 4. It means if you have the age of a girl multiply by 4/3 and if you have the age of a boy multiply by 3/4 to get the partners’ age: for example a 21 year old girl is better to marry a 28 year old man… a 26 year old girl should marry a 34 year old man… Of course that’s not the exact age gap! But in common it manifests to be the best age gap.

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  104. The data is interpreted as showing women having a particular reproductive span–upon which human lifespan is dependent–and men having a longer reproductive span that allows humans to live somewhat longer if older men reproduce with younger women. But you could also see it as men perhaps actually decreasing human lifespan by selecting for shorter reproductive span of women, so selection doesn’t weed out the genes in women that cause harmful effects past women’s major reproductive years. Perhaps if men would select older women, women’s reproductive span might end a bit later with each generation of people and gradually increase human longevity. If both sexes were reproducing at later ages, the increased longevity genes (or the lack of life-shortening genes) would be coming from both sexes rather then just men.

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    • This is a very interesting theory. Maybe we will see the results of this in the near future. It’s now becoming acceptable in society for older women to have relationships with younger men without repurcussion. Hopefully it is not just a “fad”. I don’t think so. I’ve always wondered why women, the caregivers of our young, evolved in such a way that we lost our reproductive ability at middle age, whereas men never really do at all. My husband left me in our middle age for a woman in her 20’s, had 2 children with her. How I wish I could have had the same choices, the option. Yes, there is in-vitro available, but it is a scientific reproduction, not the natural ability that older men have.

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  105. well, when i was young, the age different was very emportant…today i am 60 …when in peru , on the amazon river in( iquitos )i meet a very nice young women…we say each other every day, and became very close..she was very easy to fall in love with. every time i would get close to her,my heart would skip a beat….i always let her have her own space, but she was always on my mind,,,one day she came to me and ask why i never tryed to make a move on her,,,i smiled and told her i was to (old) for her!!!! she lafted and said ( i my country old means good strong life..)… her family loves me, i felt like i was reborn!!!wow i beleave i truly was.!!..we are now married and have a one and a half year old boy….he and she are the only thing i think off, she filled a hole that was so emty for so long..i can only beleave, that GOD kissed me. oh one thing more…….my wife is 30 and shes always has good things to say………….jack

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      • Seriously Carmen, you need to get a clue. First, there is no law anywhere about what age you can have a girlfriend. Second of all, if he is 38 years old and having sex with his 17 y/o girlfriend then guess what? That is legal in most places! *most* states in USA have 16, not 18 as the age of consent for sex. In Canada, the age of consent for sex was 14 for a very long time, and was only raised to 16 recently, with much controversy.
        I suggest you quit discriminating against people based on their age.

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  106. There’s no doubt that this topic is controversial. Just look at all the comments it has generated. This page alone has jumped to a page rank of six. The studies cited are interesting and the topics covered are wide ranging.

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  107. Is that a new excuse to leave your wife? The next time someone cheat on their wife, they can say it’s for good of mankind and direct their wife to this article.

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  108. “Why are people so caught up with age differences in the relationships of other people?” It’s a huge question for me, as I have always been attracted to older men. Since a young age I have gravitated to much older men, naturally, and have been in some very beautiful relationships with men nearly twice my age. I am 25 yrs old- and more important to me than age is the ability to communicate and emotional availability and maturity which I find more frequently with people of experience. Beyond the physical attraction, there is a spiritual attraction as well. (not sure if you science-minded people can relate to that, hopefully so) I am intrigued by these findings. To all who are opposed to such age differences- maybe we should start worrying about something more serious like the divorce rates of younger married couples and their impacts on society.

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  109. u think any of Mohammeds wives were his age? i bet all were way younger! my fiance is 31 years younger than me. we’ve known each other 20 years, been engaged for 1 1/2. my x was 24 years younger than me and it lasted 8 fun hot years. HornDogs Unite! viva las chicas extranheras!

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    • Yeah horndogs….unite with each other (in bed)! lol.
      A-holes like you are why so many women become lesbians or nuns. As for mohammed — he was just another egomaniacal man with a personality disorder. I hope your fiance wakes up to the idiot you really are before she takes the marital plunge with you…..you probably also believe it’s okay to beat your wife to keep her in line, right Ahab? When the women are so much younger than you, it’s easier to control them, isn’t it?! They don’t know any better yet. PS: What a Real Man you must be! You can’t spell and your grammar is even worse. Yes, excellent genes involved here!

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  110. Evolutionary theory says that individuals should die of old age when their reproductive lives are complete, generally by age 55 in humans, according to demographer Cedric Puleston, a doctoral candidate in biological sciences at Stanford. But the fatherhood of a small number of older men is enough to postpone the date with death because natural selection fights life-shortening mutations until the species is finished reproducing.

    “Rod Stewart and David Letterman having babies in their 50s and 60s provide no benefit for their personal survival, but the pattern [of reproducing at a later age] has an effect on the population as a whole,” Puleston said. “It’s advantageous to the species if these people stick around. By increasing the survival of men you have a spillover effect on women because men pass their genes to children of both sexes.”

    “Why Men Matter: Mating Patterns Drive Evolution of Human Lifespan,” was published Aug. 29 in the online journal Public Library of Science ONE. Shripad Tuljapurkar, the Morrison Professor of Population Studies at Stanford; Puleston; and Michael Gurven, an assistant professor of anthropology at UCSB, co-authored the study in an effort to understand why humans don’t die when female reproduction ends.

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  111. I think the article is interesting. It’s a fact of our evolutionary programming that men (old and young) like younger women (because they are healthy enough to survive child birth). Women (young and old) like men that can provided safety and provide for her and a baby. If a man lives to be older, that in some way shows the female he has the ability to survive. He must know something that younger men may not know, that knowledge will help her and her baby also survive. We can not, even in our modern civilized world, go against our evolutionary programming. In todays world the values we inherit from our culture tell us older men and younger women mating is bad or immoral. Modern culture has only been around a few thousand years. Mankind has been surviving and evolving for hundreds of thousands of years.

    Nena – you are absolutly wrong !! People are driven by their primal instincts. We have no choice.

    Why are women attracted to confident men? Primal instincts for better survival.

    Why are women attracted to men who are rock stars and athletes? Primal instincts for better genes. If other women want him he must have good genes.

    Why are women attracted to men you have a life, have a plan, and are in control? Primal Instincts.

    Why when women start dating man they like do they snoop through his house, cell phone, and car looking for clues about him and his relation with other women? Primal instinct drives her to do this to determine if he will be there for her in the future (like after they have a baby).

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    • y does that piss you off charles? are you jealous? does it bother you that love actually exist? my wife is 26 years my jr! she came on too me! and there has never been any chasing young women with me! i actually take care of my self and work out every day of my life as far back as i can remember, wich is a very long time! age doesnt matter with mature people! jealousy resides in insecure people! i bet your right hand gets a work out!!! get out sometimes and get a life and be yourself and maybe you will find that special one! being pissed and sarcastic will do nothing except gives you caluses!!!

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      • @Gary: Cool down! Though I very much agree with you, I guess everyone has their right to have their own views…
        @Carl: You are really, really right! primal instincts runs in all of us!
        Hope this article doesn’t offends anyone… I find it great!

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  112. So, we will change the old saying that ” Old cows eat young grass” to ” Young vines climb old trees”. Interesting topic indeed.

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  113. I think it’s an unfortunate choice of words to write that a man is “chasing” a younger woman as if they were two squirrels. In the discussion of evolutionary theory, it is important to be sensitive to stereotypes that portray inaccurate analyses of otherwise excellent research subjects who would be happy and willing to contribute to this meaningful work and show just how healthy they are, in fact, to the world!

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    • Well it depends Tammy – if you are 12 then NO it is not OK – if you are over 21 then it is fine. I am 38 and would never go with a woman over 25 – and I get plenty of sex and I have never had a problem with the age gap.

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  114. “Many rich men aren’t that smart, just motivated and egotistical. ”

    It’s that motivated “I can do it better than anyone else” ego that got us beyond the cave and into the Industrial Revolution and all that came after it, without which none of us would be commenting on this blog, and the drugs which I need every day wouldn’t have been invented.

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  115. Looking at things from a global, scientific standpoint can give theory and meaning to what’s going on. It’s important to understand why things are happening so that we can work with the natural ways of the world, and not break ourselves trying to work against them. I’ve found, though, that on a more individual level, there is actual chemistry between two people who choose to have an intimate relationship.

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  116. This article is good evidence for why so many rich men have stupid children. Many rich men aren’t that smart, just motivated and egotistical. Egotistical and Narsisitic personality traits are symptoms of mental health flaws that should not be passed on to future generations. The only way for civilization to evolve is to stop excessive reproduction and to base mate selection on more than physical looks.

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  117. I think people are taking this scientific research hugely out of context. First of all, most people are not just driven by their primal instincts – we all live in a modern world and city life, etc get in the way of being “primal”. Secondly, many of the so-called “older men” out there are just gross – who cares if they have money? They’re still mostly gross. There are some older men that look after themselves and actually look good, but being in a long-term, happy and satisfying relationship has nothing to do with how old a guy is or how young a woman is – it has to do with how compatible and committed you are to one another.

    At a first glance, it may seem to be a good symbiosis: financially stable older man with young & attractive woman who “needs” someone to look after her. But things can change… the younger woman might get bored, might realize that money isn’t going to make her happy. The man might also be bored of having to constantly tend to and look after someone younger. Fast forward to 10 years after the relationship ensued and the picture may be significantly different.

    Myself, I refuse to date anyone who falls into any of the above. Just looking for a nice guy who doesn’t fall into the trappings of materialism – not to say that he doesn’t have a professional and decent career, but just that it’s not something that makes him arrogant or a player. A good heart is where it’s at!

    Peace

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  118. “Old men chasing young women: A good thing”

    Well it is if we catch them… :-)

    (Otherwise it’s just embarrasing).

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  119. Moani is 100% correct. She literally stole the words right out of my mouth. As for Martin, I believe you are thinking about teenage girls having intercourse with older men? No, no – this article is referring to 20-30 year old women actually marrying men 40-50 and choosing to have a relationship with them. Not 15 year old girls being forced to married 30+ year old men. That’s insanity.

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    • hello am a single woman that am in luv with you and i wath a man that can talk care of me. that we geif me a trun love

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  120. It’s becoming more of a trend now! If thing continue going this way, what will be left for young boys, all the women are going to go to old ones! Perhaps, young boy will forcefully have to go after the old ladies!

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    • Now that is actually a fascinating dynamic.. It actually would work out. See, older more mature and successful men take the young women out of the picture. Consequently young men, at least for a few years, look to older women for companionship. The older women get the benefit of having a young stud, and teach the “boys” a thing or two about love, life, and sex, until the “boys” become real men. Then all parties are better equipped to make relationship choices.

      Speaking as someone who just a couple years ago left the ‘young man’ phase, this would have been a far better way to spend my late-teens, early-20s, rather than being pissed off and bitter at all the lovely girls around my age who were dating guys in their 30s, 40s, and beyond.

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  121. I absolutely agree with this blog. I am a 23 year old woman and I love dating older men. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me and my ex-husband was 9 years older than me. I don’t know how this happened. I think I had gotten tired of hearing the age-ol’ line, “I’m too young for a committment,” from the younger bunch. And I found that older men have come to the realization that they are, well, getting old. When a pretty, young woman comes into the picture, they’re dedicated and loving. Rather a young man will have the idea that there is no rush to settle; there are much more fishies to fish for.

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    • Moani – you can’t be serious – that is not an age gap! We are talking about 15 – 20 year age gaps not 8 and 9! As you are 23, would you date a man of 45?

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  122. I only date older men when I want to go shopping. They are at least good for that. Honestly, I’m not really interested in marrying them or even being seen with them in public. I want a hot young guy my own age, who wouldn’t? It’s just a fact. Older men are nice & can usually afford to take me to nice places and treat me to special gifts and things that I want.
    I think they are aware of this trade off. They get to spend time with someone half there age and they enjoy this more than anything. It gives them some kind of ego boost. The sad thing is, it is a false boost, they should chase women there own age or closer to it if they want a serious partner.

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  123. I personally prefer older men myself too, I am 31yr old female and have dated 40 year old and 52 year old, and sex has never been as good, i mean older men have more experience, are more mature, and are more secure in life. I am definitely not a gold digger, but I like to be taken care of. as a matter of fact im single right now so if any older men wanna chat email me santabarbaragirl4god@gmail.com

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  124. I personally prefer older men myself too, I am 31yr old female and have dated 40 year old and 52 year old, and sex has never been as good, i mean older men have more experience, are more mature, and are more secure in life. I am definitely not a gold digger, but I like to be taken care of. as a matter of fact im single right now so if any older men wanna chat email me santabarbaragirl4god@gmail.com

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  125. Well, l’m 35 single. And l do like old men, especially if they are in their 40’s. Some are very interesting, some are patiens, good listeners, loving, caring, gentle, sweet, tender and have a interesting topics to talk., because of their experience. I never get bored with an old men, l really prefer old men :) any old cute men here? ;-)

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  126. Yea we all like them younger, i was 25 yrs old once myself and yes it depends on the age yes it is definetely gold digging. If you are that age now of course you will not say it is, been there did that. Now could someone tell me when is the age for women to not want want sex. Lets get the women some younger too. Sounds good to all of us. lets just get along. Have a good day all lol

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  127. hi, I am a 29 year old male. I am very handsome and good looking, with slimathletic body and log staright hair. I must agree I had not made a proper relationship sex with a woman yet. Bcz I was very shy in my teens and very reserved in my twenties. I only had a brief one week affair with a lady who was 47 years old when I was in Bradford, u.k. That was my only sexual experience of life. I left her after I realized that she was exploiting me.
    Is it normal, I do not know what to say but my sexual life is so empty I can not explain. Now working as a Mechanical engineer, I still am very shay and reserved. Can any lady or person help me getting out of my shyness please.
    u can contact me at
    vickheart@gmail.com

    vick.

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  128. To : Haley
    About your post:
    “June 4, 2010 at 2:03 am
    I am 25/F and would love to meet an older man. So many of my friends place harsh judgments and so many misunderstand that for gold-digging. ”

    There you go. You are admitting that your friends are against it. LOTS of us girls are against it! It’s gross, the dirty old men are gross. SO – you are into old guys, you are not the majority – you are either a gold-digger or have a dad issue – whatever – YOU should keep those old guys busy then, because the rest of us girls do NOT want them!

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    • You’re only getting older…and there is nothing sadder than a saggy middle aged woman not yet able to deal with her youth gone. She was nothing but a pretty face…and capitalized on it…..but now has nothing.

      Your time is coming. Enjoy it while you can. Age is patient, and it will not waiver as it washes over you.

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  129. At 40 I started going out with a 23 year old woman. She made it clear to me my age was no problem to her. I had to pinch myself that it was really happening. The thing was – yes I found her extremely attractive – but it was her that did the choosing. It has been amazing in every sense!

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  130. Honestly, and I’ve been wanting to say this since I was a teen. You old geezers are just plain ugly to look at. A few professional accomplishments (which most anyone can accomplish) does NOT make you cute, and does “not” compensate for looks.Stop allowing your looks to go downhill just because you’ve earned a couple of bucks. And stop blowing yourselves up as “good in bed” to younger girls when you are just average at best ( young girls don’t have enough sexual experience to be able to compare you or know if it’s good or not).

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  131. i am 21yrs old whos having sex with an older man whos 36 yr old…its amazing…he makes me feel like a woman. Ive always been attracted to older men so i agree=)

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  132. If this is true then why as a younger woman have I never been attracted to older men? Articles like this, reaffirm in my mind that many evolutionary scientists disregard female physical attraction as something irrelevant. People like who they like whatever the age, but my instinct tells me to go for guys my own age or younger. Apparently as women, were are attracted to power, wealth and security, so does that mean as a woman there is something wrong with me for being attracted to men with handsome faces and six packs? It is perhaps the ‘sexy son’ theory which makes more sense, where women who choose physically attractive mates are more likely to give birth to attractive children who will have a higher possibility of attracting mates, thereby continuing her genes. The human instinct has been around a lot longer than wealthy men and their millions. Physically fit men over time have been substituted for the size of a wallet and nice cars, but these things mean nothing when it comes to the gene pool. Humans are animals, and the female of the species is attracted to physically strong males. Whatever the theory, I personally find power and wealth a turn off. For me security comes from knowing you got the one that you wanted, to want you back. I want to fancy the man I end up with. If women throughout history have typically gone for older males that can look after them, it’s because they did not have much choice. Now many women don’t need to be looked after, therefore they are more choosy about the youth and physical attributes of their mates. However, it is still the easier option for women to choose to be looked after in society, a notion that had been ingrained in the minds of people for a long time. The idea of picking a man simply to look after me is really depressing. Also, just because a man is older does not make him wiser, just means he’s been around longer. This is not to say a young woman should not go out with an older man, but more that a woman should not assume that he’ll be nice because of this. Just as an older woman going out with a younger man should not assume he’s just out for fun. Also, when a man divorces his wife of many years, and usually remarries a younger woman, I would hate to be that younger woman, knowing I was part of his predictable and cliched mid- life crisis. People should be together because they are in love and equally fancy each other, whatever their age.

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  133. FINALLY A GOOD ARTICLE! I am 25/F and would love to meet an older man. So many of my friends place harsh judgments and so many misunderstand that for gold-digging. Older men are sexier, wiser, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I just wish they would actually hit on younger women. Don’t be afraid there are attractive young females who wish to be with an older man. I’m 25, and the last man I dated was 44! It was the hottest I have ever had.

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  134. Men of higher status usually has the financial means to get a younger women and therefore proof of reproductive capability at an older age. This does not mean other men do not have the capability, they just have less of a chance to proof in statistic.

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  135. Do some men look older than before when they lost too much weight.for some men loosing weight make them look younger for some men make them older. why is the result not the same?loosing some weight is good for health but the out come is not the same to every one.

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  136. Greetings from London! Thank you very much for such great content you provide to us! There is no much similar websites around! Keep up the good work! ;)

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  137. why men keep try try try…………..many different techinque and I dea to get the women can’t have. can’t they give up?They can lie to get a kiss but to get SEX is not so easy to fool a women with their lie and different attitude that they show. Sometimes they act like a nice men and sometimes they act like jerk. Most time they thought like they owe the girl and want to have control over the woman.what do you do with these kinds of men? YOU CAN’T FORCE SOME ONE TO LOVE YOU.The heart can tell who to love or not so forcing is not going to work. You can love someone but if they don’t love you back it is not their probem to fix or to change their heart. It is their heart and mind that can tell them who to love, not B/E someone want or tell who to love.when you love someone you don’t care about any thing which is religion, money, ethinc even age or family. If you don’tmatch thse things, doesn’t stop you from loving some one and in the other hand because you are ALIKE these things doesn’t mean you will love someone.

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  138. Hi, I am a 28 year-old woman married to a 51 year-old man. We are both divorced, and have children from our previous marriage. The first time we met, I was 16 and he was 38. Our relationship lasted for about 4 years, but he was married at the time, and I decided that was not I wanted for my life. So, we broke up and went separate ways. I met someone else, got married and had 2 kids. I was married for about 6 years. He on the other hand, met other women, but was never happy, he eventually got a divorce from first wife. After 7 years living in a different country, me in the US and him in Brazil. We have decided that is time for us to live this love, and live life to the fullest together. He is the love of my life, and I know that he loves me, too. I make him feel younger and he makes me feel secure and loved. We have a lot in common and have a great sex life. I don’t care of what others will think about us. It is all about being happy.

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  139. Wow!!!! You must have had a “DISGUSTING” experience. Careful, I feel there is more going on with you. You are stricking out at anyone or anything. There is a saying “as within, so without”. I see more emotions, than reason. TAKE CARE.

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  140. The younger women that these older men pick on that show always flake off after the first date, leaving the older men to wonder why. The “older man/younger woman” saying is a myth.
    I know several guys over forty, almost in their fifties, who are still waiting for that unsual younger woman to come along and marry them. Why? Because they want to have children.
    Another subject would be the unsual young woman who marries a much older guy while in her twenties, only to divorce him in her late twenties to early thirties, and find that now that she is in her thirties, she would much rather marry someone her own age, but can’t find a guy her own age to marry her, because the men her age want marry someone in their twenties. Meaning, “women who waste their youth on older men”.

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  141. Some of these replies sound like young girls who are complaining about woman that marry or date older men. You need not be rich to date younger woman. I have travel to more than 70 countries and in many countries I have dated woman 20 or 30 years younger than myself. Why! Number one is respect for a woman and not trying just having a sexual relationship with them. Some I dated because they were terrific tennis players, other because they were intellectually fascinating. The Pedophile comment sounds like a girl that couldn’t fine a relationship because of a narrow minded view of all things in life. If you think you are better than someone else because you are older or younger or because your choices are different than others you have a lot to learn before you are mature enough for any relationships. Many books have been written and few really know why people fall in love. Security, maturity, supporting each other in times of need, humor the list goes on and on. Women have sent me over a glass of wine to just say hi, other have come over and ask if they could take me to lunch, others have ask if I would mind if they kissed me! Others want nothing to do with me. Woman and men choose each other for more different reason then there are words to explain their reasons. I could care less if a woman is old or young or they have a great figure, or are gorgeous to the eye. Think of woman like Brittney Spears. What man in his right mind, with all her money, beauty, age and shape, that is mature would even consider a long term relationship with any woman or man with habits, illnesses and behavior such as hers. There were hundreds of young woman I could have dated that were in great shape, that I would have never considered dating because of their attitudes in life, which they are entitle to have and own their own feelings. To attack others that think differently than I is nuts. If not being with a person that is older than you are or younger than you are is not what you want in life you have a right to choose, but why be angry at people that find happiness. If a young woman wants security, with an older man who can provide it what is the big deal! Younger woman most likely dated me because they had fun, they felt relaxed and safe with me, they understood the importance of honesty and directness, I knew and express that some woman use men for money and sex. Older men are more relaxed and to be honest better lovers. Older men are more likely to break a young girls heart because younger woman fall in love to easily with being treated with respect, and a partner that is less likely to cheat on them. For you young woman reading this be careful it takes more than a great shape, gorgeous eyes and being vivacious to land an older and wiser catch. Younger woman must be very clever to land any good catch in life young or old but especially older!!

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  142. Some of these replies sound like young girls who are complaining about woman that marry or date older men. You need not be rich to date younger woman. I have travel to more than 70 countries and in many countries I have dated woman 20 or 30 years younger than myself. Why! Number one is respect for a woman and not trying just having a sexual relationship with them. Some I dated because they were terrific tennis players, other because they were intellectually fascinating. The Pedophile comment sounds like a girl that couldn’t fine a relationship because of a narrow minded view of all things in life. If you think you are better than someone else because you are older or younger or because your choices are different than others you have a lot to learn before you are mature enough for any relationships. Many books have been written and few really know why people fall in love. Security, maturity, supporting each other in times of need, humor the list goes on and on. Women have sent me over a glass of wine to just say hi, other have come over and ask if they could take me to lunch, others have ask if I would mind if they kissed me! Others want nothing to do with me. Woman and men choose each other for more different reason then there are words to explain their reasons. I could care less if a woman is old or young or they have a great figure, or are gorgeous to the eye. Think of woman like Brittney Spears. What man in his right mind, with all her money, beauty, age and shape, that is mature would even consider a long term relationship with any woman or man with habits, illnesses and behavior such as hers. There were hundreds of young woman I could have dated that were in great shape, that I would have never considered dating because of their attitudes in life, which they are entitle to have and own their own feelings. To attack others that think differently than I is nuts. If not being with a person that is older than you are or younger than you are is not what you want in life you have a right to choose, but why be angry at people that find happiness. If a young woman wants security, with an older man who can provide it what is the big deal! Younger woman most likely dated me because they had fun, they felt relaxed and safe with me, they understood the importance of honesty and directness, I knew and express that some woman use men for money and sex. Older men are more relaxed and to be honest better lovers. Older men are more likely to break a young girls heart because younger woman fall in love to easily with being treated with respect, and a partner that is less likely to cheat on them. For you young woman reading this be careful it takes more than a great shape, gorgeous eyes and being vivacious to land an older and wiser catch. Younger woman must be very clever to land any good catch in life young or old but especially older!!

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  143. David Letterman and Rod Stewart can have babies with younger females because they are wealthy and have status in society. You old guys, please don’t think you can get a young girl with (your) assets being less than 1 million. I know an older guy at work, in his 50s, that married a 20 year old from another country. It was so ridiculous, I felt very sorry for the man. The women (or girl) took his total retirement,and house and now he has to work until he is 70 to regain a portion of his retirement. They are divorced and she is now married to a guy her own age. Unless, you are David Letterman- don’t go for anyone more than 10 years younger than yourself. Believe me, this girl will wake up one day and ask herself if the stability is really worth it and split.

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  144. When you were 20 they weren’t even born. There is term called Pedophile — Look it up sometime! I wouldn’t talk to any old men in the real world –don’t think that just because you’re sitting anonymously behind the computer gives you the right to cyberstalk women online. You are sick and disgusting in my opinion. BYE!!

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  145. This is a good article. We are living so much longer than our ancestors. We have yet to see the long term inplications of older parents on their children’s DNA.

    Only time will tell.

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  146. older man younger woman ..works as good as older woman younger man …if you can suplie an easier life to them they will make consessions…iam 46 and slept with much older and 10 years younger..and i assure you …lol much younger is a lot more satisfing…than you have to take in consideration…what works in the long run i think 5 years up or down give and take a few…will be most resonable …when there is a huge age gap that older person only thinks of themselfs and they know it and make silly excuses…here is the cenario the woman is 50 and her old man 75 dies she is now to old to find someone decent lol because all the old daddys want 35…so the reminder of her life will be spent alone …how wonderful …and all this to make some old gezzer feel better about himself…always remember there is a price to pay for everything and sometimes we dont even have the minimum payment at hand …when a fool is in his 40ties and has not come into himself he will die a fool…

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  147. Let me start out questioning some of the premises some of you have written. Using the term OLD, as in musty… passé, out of date, dilapidated, wrinkled, etc. All of this has the inevitable ring to it of “ageism”. Yes there seems to be a need to rethink all the issues around age. I have found that the term OLD, carries with it the stigma, that when someone wants to be considerate, they right away attach some sort of condescending statement, such as ” however, not you….”; or “in your case it is different”; or, “well some people are young at your age..”, etc. etc. It smacks too much like all the same sort of cliches that are also present when dealing with race, religion, sexual preferences, nationality, handicapped, etc. Lets get real, the culture is one were all such “differences” are never the source for empathy, respect or even knowledge about the other.

    I am 72, and my fiancee is 27. Not even the fact that she will outlive me, is a given. I sure hope she does, but who is there to say that she is providentially protected from any mishap in life. So let us focus on the important issues of why two people come together and spend every possible waking hour together. We work together, we play together, we travel, and party together. We discuss and look out after each other with all the care and dedication that two people who love each other can do. Is she better off with me, than with someone closer to her age? or am I better off with her rather than someone closer to my age? The answer to both our questions is of course yes. Because if that “other” person would be there, we would not be with each other. Are we guaranteed that this will always be the case? of course not, but age has nothing to do with that fact. It has more to do with getting along well, with each other.

    Some of the comments here about women fancying an older man because of his wealth, is like the comment of an older man fancying a women because of her shape. There is no shame in a woman valuing the fact that she feels protected economically ( even female lions stay with their lion king in order for him to be their protector), or inversely, why not celebrate the beauty of a young woman who is in good shape? Of course I like the good shape of my partners body, but then if that was the only thing that brought us together, I assure you our relationship would very soon slip away. Probably replaced by someone in even better shape. Remember, there can always be some one richer and someone prettier around the bend.

    But as none of this is a competition, but rather the excitement of living together, and sharing life in all of its unfolding diversity and splendor, one should be humble enough to understand that all that one can aspire it to have as a companion someone with whom to celebrate that relationship day in day out. I would venture to say, that one of the advantages of age, is that I have no longer any sort of crisis as to who I am, men my age, already know who they are, for better or worse, we are better in tune with our foibles and limitations than at an earlier stage in life. That enables us both, to allow my partner to take center stage with regard to such issues. She of course still has to find he own voice and meanings in life. Feeling loved and protected, certainly contributes to her sense of self, and finding her own true voice. Being in love is also about making room for each others frailties.

    It’s quite obvious she hears and sees better than I, and thus at times becomes my guide through those moments when her abilities become important to me. As you can see, our relationship is built around the fact that we both contribute to the relationship, and we contribute all sorts of different talents and abilities, expertise and knowledge, from vantage points that are at a considerable distance from each other and their unique vision which makes them complementary to each other.

    And if you wonder about us having sex, yes we do and enjoy it very much on a quite regular basis. This is only to respond to those who imagine that our relationship has to inevitably be a platonic one.

    Good luck to you all, may you enjoy life as much as we both do.
    A 72 year old man, and a 27 year old woman. ( did you observe how complementary those numbers look?).

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  148. Let me start out questioning some of the premises some of you have written. Using the term OLD, as in musty… passé, out of date, dilapidated, wrinkled, etc. All of this has the inevitable ring to it of “ageism”. Yes there seems to be a need to rethink all the issues around age. I have found that the term OLD, carries with it the stigma, that when someone wants to be considerate, they right away attach some sort of condescending statement, such as ” however, not you….”; or “in your case it is different”; or, “well some people are young at your age..”, etc. etc. It smacks too much like all the same sort of cliches that are also present when dealing with race, religion, sexual preferences, nationality, handicapped, etc. Lets get real, the culture is one were all such “differences” are never the source for empathy, respect or even knowledge about the other.

    I am 72, and my fiancee is 27. Not even the fact that she will outlive me, is a given. I sure hope she does, but who is there to say that she is providentially protected from any mishap in life. So let us focus on the important issues of why two people come together and spend every possible waking hour together. We work together, we play together, we travel, and party together. We discuss and look out after each other with all the care and dedication that two people who love each other can do. Is she better off with me, than with someone closer to her age? or am I better off with her rather than someone closer to my age? The answer to both our questions is of course yes. Because if that “other” person would be there, we would not be with each other. Are we guaranteed that this will always be the case? of course not, but age has nothing to do with that fact. It has more to do with getting along well, with each other.

    Some of the comments here about women fancying an older man because of his wealth, is like the comment of an older man fancying a women because of her shape. There is no shame in a woman valuing the fact that she feels protected economically ( even female lions stay with their lion king in order for him to be their protector), or inversely, why not celebrate the beauty of a young woman who is in good shape? Of course I like the good shape of my partners body, but then if that was the only thing that brought us together, I assure you our relationship would very soon slip away. Probably replaced by someone in even better shape. Remember, there can always be some one richer and someone prettier around the bend.

    But as none of this is a competition, but rather the excitement of living together, and sharing life in all of its unfolding diversity and splendor, one should be humble enough to understand that all that one can aspire it to have as a companion someone with whom to celebrate that relationship day in day out. I would venture to say, that one of the advantages of age, is that I have no longer any sort of crisis as to who I am, men my age, already know who they are, for better or worse, we are better in tune with our foibles and limitations than at an earlier stage in life. That enables us both, to allow my partner to take center stage with regard to such issues. She of course still has to find he own voice and meanings in life. Feeling loved and protected, certainly contributes to her sense of self, and finding her own true voice. Being in love is also about making room for each others frailties.

    It’s quite obvious she hears and sees better than I, and thus at times becomes my guide through those moments when her abilities become important to me. As you can see, our relationship is built around the fact that we both contribute to the relationship, and we contribute all sorts of different talents and abilities, expertise and knowledge, from vantage points that are at a considerable distance from each other and their unique vision which makes them complementary to each other.

    And if you wonder about us having sex, yes we do and enjoy it very much on a quite regular basis. This is only to respond to those who imagine that our relationship has to inevitably be a platonic one.

    Good luck to you all, may you enjoy life as much as we both do.
    A 72 year old man, and a 27 year old woman. ( did you observe how complementary those numbers look?).

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  149. Well, just to add something, I think the original poster’s assertion is valid in terms of a possible link between AUTISM and older men. I’m a women and expecting a baby, and I will tell you it’s not talk shows, but genetic counselors who purport that men over 45 have a risk of mutations in their sperm; this is based on science.

    I know of many more children who’ve been conceived by men over 45 who are healthy and normal, but I do know of at least one little boy who is autistic who was born to a couple with an older father. Of course this is purely anecdotal; however, since you say in your post, “Throughout my lifetime, I’ve known of many people whose father was older than 40 or 50 when they were born, and none of these people had birth defects or any kind of learning disability” that my personal observation must be valid even if not part of a scientific study. I know no other autistic children personally.

    I for one am happy to see two people get together and be happy; I don’t care about the age thing. I don’t think it’s for me, but then, I’m in a great relationship with my husband who’s essentially my age, so I’m not looking. But I think that being with someone is different than creating a child with them, and I think it’s great that more attention from the scientific community is being given to what risks, if any, there are to reproducing children when parents are older.

    As for the knuckle-dragging mouth breathers on Springer, you and I know that’s more likely bad behavior by people deemed, for the most part, within the range of “normal” in capacity to learn (perhaps at the low end of the range, but …). Why people choose to “learn” the acceptability of behavior that lands them on those shows, who can say.

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  150. Yea it’s an interesting subject that i’ve seen around the bars and it’s more and more popular. Not sure what to think about it other than it’s somethign different. I do feel it as a materialistic thing, be it getting some booty or getting some money (men or women). Here’s an article: http://blogs.dailycents.com/?p=791

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  151. im 22 and the men i have dated have always been older, recently a 30 yr old. Some of them yes arent over all matured but its almost the same problem with younger men there are good apples and bad ones. I just i suppose have had better luck with older men… but wouldent deny a younger intellegent man a chance.

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  152. As one of the older men mating with the younger females I must remind the younger guys that one day, if they are lucky and smart (with decent genes, of course) they could be in the same position.
    That does make me wonder though… that could be natures purpose, to weed out the Darwin Award winners. That is, giving the stupid, clumsy, and generally inferior ones a few years to weed themselves out.
    I have tried to date women my own age but am put off by their grandmotherly attitude. My next long term partner will be someone closer to my own age but she will have to be pretty special.

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  153. I’m really interested to know who funded this study. (cough) Older white guy? (cough)

    I have to be perfectly honest here. I don’t want to take offense but this study sounds rather pointless. I could conduct an entire study on how older men produce obese children because they are too old to toss the ball around with them so the kids get fat and die of heart disease. It’s really just a compilation of data that I have twisted around to prove a point laced with a few big words and some funding from several demographics who can’t stand older men.

    I can only speak from my experience, but the younger women I knew that were dating older men were looking for money. I actually hooked up with a girl once who had an older boyfriend. While we were having sex she went on about how unattractive he was and how he looked like an “aging clown.” She just wanted some “security.” Sadly she was not the only woman I encountered who felt that way.

    I’m a huge fan of older women myself, I think they are very very sexy, so I imagine that there has to be women out there who feel the same way about older men. But the majority of them don’t. Sorry. Women are not some highly evolved beings who only see love and are blind to anything else. We want hot fresh young boys and we want them now!

    Sad thing for the ladies looking to get some cash from an older fellow. He can pretty much put his money in a Trust where he is the sole director. And when he dies she won’t get a dime. Maybe if she has a few of his kids she’ll get some scraps but probably not much these days.

    Sad thing for the older men stalking the younger ladies looking to feel young-ish again, take a look at the list of Millionaires these days. They have an entire list devoted to people under the age of 25 and a rising number of women on that list as well. So older men aren’t the only ones forking out the cash these days.

    GOOD thing for younger guys…
    3 Pros And Cons of Dating A Younger Guy

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  154. I’ve read various articles about babies born to older men being more likely to have birth defects, and like myself, there are skeptics in the science community who chalk these so-called studies off as another chauvinistic attempt to promote the vanity of the younger father. Throughout my lifetime, I’ve known of many people whose father was older than 40 or 50 when they were born, and none of these people had birth defects or any kind of learning disability. I’ve read articles that suggest that schizophrenia is a fabricated mental illness for American psychiatrists to line their own pocket. Let’s be real. When you watch TV talk shows like Jerry Springer and see all these mental retards and social degenerates born to young parents, it causes you at least to question the authenticity of such studies claiming that older men run greater risk of producing genetically mutated babies. Celebrities like Tony Randal, David Letterman, and numerous musical entertainers are making babies well into their 50s, 60s, and even 70s, and none of these kids ever seem to have any problems with them. I used to work in social services, and it was my experience that kids born to young parents always seemed to be more likely to fall into drug abuse or other patterns of anti-social behavior. Another point I would like to bring up is that many countries like Japan and Middle Eastern countries encourage men to make babies at older ages, but none of those countries seem to have problems with genetically mutated babies. Could it be something that chemists are putting in the United States of America’s Levitra supply? To scientists who promote this belief of older men making birth defect babies, stop promoting rumors.

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  155. I am 50 and my lovely wife is 29. Our son is one and I run circles around the 20 year olds that I lead overseas (USMC). Yes she keeps me in a younger frame of mind but more importantly she can keep up with me. My ex-wife was looking forward to the life of retirement and I refused to. Sorry.
    I plan on living as long as I can and be an example to my children on being useful to family and society.
    We have a great relationship, enjoy the same things, and respect each other highly. She is my angel. It works fine if both are mature, especially the man.
    Oh yes, I have a one year old grandson too. My children have no problems with the facts.

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    • Hey, if you take care of yourself and you are lucky, you can get another young one when this present wife reaches menopause. By then you will be only 70.

      This article and all the comments are proof that romantic love is a joke. We need to admit that we are only animals with the desire to reproduce no different than the common rat or roach. The only way to evolve as humans, we need to stop excessive reproduction and base it on more than physical looks. I used to wonder why so many rich men had stupid children.

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  156. This article and most people don’t acknowledge or know that sperm accumulate mutations with a man’s age.

    “It is very possible that Paternal Age is the Major Predictor for autism—“Harry Fisch, MD

    Harry Fisch is the author of The Male Biological Clock, The Patient’s Guide to Vasectomy Reversal, The Patient’s Guide to Varicocele Repair and Managing The Vasectomy Patient. He is one of the nation’s leaders in the diagnosis and treatment of male infertility and microsurgical vasectomy reversal. Dr. Fisch is director of the Male Reproductive Center and directs urologic microsurgery in the Department of Urology at Columbia University Medical Center of New York Presbyterian Hospital in New York City. He is also professor of clinical urology at Columbia University, where he was recently named Teacher of the Year in his department.For over fifteen years, Dr. Fisch has focused his research, practice, and surgery on male infertility and reproduction.

    “In the past several years, studies worldwide have found that with each passing decade of their lives and with each insult they inflict on their bodies, men’s fertility decreases, while genetic risk to offspring slowly mounts. The range of findings is staggering: Several studies have shown that the older the man, the more fragmented the DNA in his ejaculated sperm, resulting in greater risk for infertility, miscarriage or birth defects. Investigations out of Israel, Europe, and the United States have shown that non-verbal (performance) intelligence may decline exclusively due to greater paternal age; that up to a third of all cases of schizophrenia are linked to increasing paternal age; and that men 40 and older are nearly six times more likely to have offspring with autism than men under age 30. Other research shows that the risk of breast and prostate cancer in offspring increases with paternal age. ”

    http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20070830-000004.xml

    http://www.docguide.com/news/content.nsf/news/852571020057CCF68525737D005D52C4

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  157. Evolution is a lie, so this finding is a joke. The best possible companion anyone, man or woman, can have is with a person within 7 years of their own age. All the much older man and much younger women relationships that I known of were usually over with in 5-7 years. And most of the women cheated during the relationship.

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  158. I’m a woman, 50, absolutely and completely head over heels in love with a man who is turning 75 later this year. I own my own home and have my own stuff. No, I’m not looking for him to look after me. What I love is his intelligence, experience, appreciation for life and his overwhelming respect for me. Dating men my own age fell flat for me. I got tired of having them try to impress me with how much they had, convince me of what a good catch they were and just generally offering poor conversation that centered around, you guessed it, themselves. Really people…it’s simply about making a meaningful and loving connection with someone. And the sex? Well, the sex is out of this world. He’s just so damned grateful….

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  159. Young men have higher death rates than young women due to wars/tribal battles and dangerour occupations like cathching wild animals.

    Older men have gathered more wealth than younger men on average so increase the probability of survival of their offspring.

    Grand mothers and grand fathers are handy to take care of the grandchildren whilst their children are doing the hard physical work…..Terry W.

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  160. I am 73, happily married 51 years. I have always loved my wife completely. She does not love me but that is not the point. I took a vow and I will keep it. I have been madly in love with a woman who is only 24, beautiful, and and ideal woman. I could never tell her that I love her. I feel that she would probably go after me. I love both women but I could never hurt either one, telling my wife or the young woman. It would be wrong to go for the young woman, wrong to dump the wife. I could not do either maybe it is because I love them both too much to hurt either. I believe young men do not really appreciate the love of a woman. Not sexual lust type, but deep love for the woman as a person. Maybe I am just too old to savvy what the world holds out for temptation.

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  161. I am 22 and seeing a man that is 43.
    Having previously been strongly opposed to a typical older male – younger female relationship, I find it strange to have completely evolved on the subject.

    My man is the one having problems with it. Perhaps because he has daughters, or it could be because I am just too good to be true.

    Anyways, if people have a connection they have a connection, this man is fit (more so than I), well-spoken, successful, and amazing in the sack.

    Not for a minute do I feel like I’m with an ‘old man’… perhaps I have an older soul, but I think if there’s chemistry there is chemistry.

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  162. If women really want the best genes then the best solution is to mate with a healthy older man – at least 80. Women who are most evolved to detect genetic fitness will find these men the most attractive. If they are influenced by western cultural norms of not picking such an older man then they are screwing themselves in evolutionary terms. A guy in his 20s might _look_ fit but may have some genetic flaw that will result in him keeling over next year …

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