Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours

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Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: “adequate,” from 3-7 minutes; “desirable,” from 7-13 minutes; “too short” from 1-2 minutes; and “too long” from 10-30 minutes.

“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers said. “”Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. ”

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

“This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction,” said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. “With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions.”

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey’s research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

“If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine,” Corty noted.


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68 thoughts on “Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours”

    • first things first, masturbate once before sex, get the first impatient nut out of the way. secondly, if you can’t control it on your own, then use distractions, and don’t think / pay attention to whats going on, instead think about something else, sing a song in your head, look around the room and think about the stuff there, some people like to think about things that may be a turn off. third, when you feel yourself getting close but you don’t want to finish yet, then by all means slow down, even take a break and use other appendages to pleasure with.

  6. Yep, on average, our first session of baning each night only lasts between 11 and 15 minutes, but the second one take between 45 minutes to one hour. My woman only likes to try for #3 or more sessions on weekend nights, because she gets quite tired and sore, and it takes about 1 hour with heavy pumping and sweat to finish project #3. Our record was 7 sessions in 1 night, but we didn’t get much sleep that night, and were very dehydrated. She does not like to do that many times anymore.

  7. Yep.. I’ve done it for 45 minutes.. I think that was my record. My vagine was as sore as anything, but it was GREAT.

  8. THAT IS ACCORDING TO SURVEY BUT TO ME DURATION KEEP ON CHANGING WITH AGE OR STATE OF MIND?? I USED TO TAKE HOURS BUT NOW ONLY 1O-20 MINUTES I WAS WORRIED NOW I WILL RECONSIDER…….

  9. thought provoking entry. Thank you for taking the opportunity to approach this topic. I was looking for the facebook like button to add this entry to my feed.. do you have one?

  11. i’ve been searching some stuff about this theme..and i got to say, im shocked :o, ive only and sex a few times and the last one lasted something like 2 hours xD (seriously)

  12. I don’t know what your survy says but I want to give my hounest data here . I have penis sized of 5.25 or little more. ME AND MY PARTERS INTERCOURSE LAST 45 MINS EVERY DAY I DO FULL PUMPING ALL THE TIME MANY TIME LAST MORE THAN HOUR .

  15. It is obvious that sex need strenght for you to have it well to your desire, from penetration to ejaculation it does not take TWO minutes for me to pour out my hot sperm what do i do? Do i need to take drugs if yes what are the drugs. Be cool

    • same here. UI hate it most is is just f****** 1min. I disvirgin the girl and her viagina tastes like what i never felt before. I am new in sex game though.

  18. This might sound like a joke but if you want a woman to have multiple orgasms ask her to squeeze her Ass during sex. just try it once.

  19. that is so serious I long for a length satisfying sex. Another man worked on me for several hours, then I wondered if he was on drugs. I tresure a friendly sex. sex is all that we need. even if it is short no problem, satisfaction is the concern.

  20. me and my fiancé we in the beginning was just a quick 90 seconds before it was over, one thing we talk about it was that if we have more sex and just dont do once a 1 more like 3-4 a week we might change that, so than this entire week i swear i went from 3 to 7 minutes than next day it went from 5 to 10 than 15-30 but i dint like it though cause a 30 minutes of sex is everyone dream but you want both of you guys to have a sexual pleasure of the orgasm so a 5-10 minutes of hardcore sex and loving will do it just do more often and you’ll last longer, we had a fight today because it took me 43 or 45 minutes before i came…”it aint my fault”

    • Yeah, my BF and I discovered this too. He usually lasts about 5-15 seconds, but I actually haven’t bothered asking about it because he’s so completely lacking in any sort of half-baked sexual competence that I’d just as soon he get it over with so I can go to sleep. :-/

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