Old men chasing young women: A good thing

September 13, 2007
Blog Entry, Health, Life & Non-humans

It turns out that older men chasing younger women contributes to human longevity and the survival of the species, according to new findings by researchers at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara.

Evolutionary theory says that individuals should die of old age when their reproductive lives are complete, generally by age 55 in humans, according to demographer Cedric Puleston, a doctoral candidate in biological sciences at Stanford. But the fatherhood of a small number of older men is enough to postpone the date with death because natural selection fights life-shortening mutations until the species is finished reproducing.

“Rod Stewart and David Letterman having babies in their 50s and 60s provide no benefit for their personal survival, but the pattern [of reproducing at a later age] has an effect on the population as a whole,” Puleston said. “It’s advantageous to the species if these people stick around. By increasing the survival of men you have a spillover effect on women because men pass their genes to children of both sexes.”

“Why Men Matter: Mating Patterns Drive Evolution of Human Lifespan,” was published Aug. 29 in the online journal Public Library of Science ONE. Shripad Tuljapurkar, the Morrison Professor of Population Studies at Stanford; Puleston; and Michael Gurven, an assistant professor of anthropology at UCSB, co-authored the study in an effort to understand why humans don’t die when female reproduction ends.

Human ability to scale the so-called “wall of death”—surviving beyond the reproductive years—has been a center of scientific controversy for more than 50 years, Puleston said. “The central question is: Why should a species that stops reproducing by some age stick around afterward?” he said. “Evolutionary theory predicts that, over time, harmful mutations that decrease survival will arise in the population and will remain invisible to natural selection after reproduction ends.” However, in hunter-gatherer societies, which likely represent early human demographic conditions and mating patterns, one-third of people live beyond 55 years, past the reproductive lifespan for women. Furthermore, life expectancy in today’s industrialized countries is 75 to 85 years, with mortality increasing gradually, not abruptly, following female menopause.

Grandmother hypothesis

In 1966, William Hamilton, a British evolutionary biologist, worked out the mathematics describing the “wall of death.” Since then, the most popular explanation for why humans don’t die by age 55 has been termed the “grandmother hypothesis,” which suggests that women enhance the survival of their children and grandchildren by living long enough to care for them and “increasing the success of their genes,” Puleston said. However, Hamilton’s work has been difficult to express as a mathematical and genetic argument explaining why people live into old age.

Unlike previous research on human reproduction, this study—for the first time—includes data on males, a tweak that allowed the researchers to begin answering the “wall of death” question by matching it to human mortality patterns. According to Puleston, earlier studies looked only at women, because scientists can reproduce good datasets for humans entirely based on information related to female fertility and survival rates.

“Men’s fertility is contingent on women’s fertility—you have to figure out how they match up. We care about reproduction because that is a currency by which force of selection is counted. If we have not accounted for the entire pattern of reproduction, we may be missing something that’s important to evolution.”

Men and longevity

In the paper, the researchers analyzed “a general two-sex model to show that selection favors survival for as long as men reproduce.” The scientists presented a “range of data showing that males much older than 50 years have substantial realized fertility through matings with younger females, a pattern that was likely typical among early humans.” As a result, Puleston said, older male fertility helps to select against damaging cell mutations in humans who have passed the age of female menopause, consequently eliminating the “wall of death.”

“Our analysis shows that old-age male fertility allows evolution to breach Hamilton’s wall of death and predicts a gradual rise in mortality after the age of female menopause without relying on ‘grandmother’ effects or economic optimality,” the researchers say in the paper.

The scientists compiled longevity and fertility data from two hunter-gatherer groups, the Dobe !Kung of the Kalahari and the Ache of Paraguay, one of the most isolated populations in the world. They also looked at the forager-farmer Yanomamo of Brazil and Venezuela, and the Tsimane, an indigenous group in Bolivia. “They’re living a lifestyle that our ancestors lived and their fertility patterns are probably most consistent with our ancestors,” Puleston said about the four groups. The study also looked at several farming villages in Gambia and, for comparison, a group of modern Canadians.

In the less developed, traditional societies, males were as much as 5-to-15 years older than their female partners. In the United States and Europe, the age spread was about two years. “It’s a universal pattern that in typical marriages men are older than women,” Puleston said. “The age gaps vary by culture, but in every group we looked at men start [being reproductive] later. At the end of reproduction, male fertility rates taper off gradually, as opposed to the fairly sharp decline in female fertility by menopause.”

Despite small differences based on marriage traditions, all women and most men in the six groups stopped having children by their 50s, the researchers found. But some men, particularly high-status males, continued to reproduce into their 70s. The paper noted that the age gap is most pronounced in societies that favor polygyny, where a man takes several wives, and in gerontocracies, where older men monopolize access to reproductive women. The authors also cite genetic and anthropological evidence that early humans were probably polygynous as well.

Older male fertility also exists in societies supporting serial monogamy, because men are more likely to remarry than women. “For these reasons, we argue that realized male fertility was substantial at ages well past female menopause for much of human history and the result is reflected in the mortality patterns of modern populations,” the authors say. “We conclude that deleterious mutations acting after the age of female menopause are selected against … solely as a result of the matings between older males and younger females.”

According to Puleston, the “grandmother hypothesis” may be true, but the real pattern of male fertility extends beyond this explanation. “The key question is: Does the population have a greater growth rate if men are reproducing at a later age? The answer is ‘yes.’ The age of last reproduction gets pushed into the 60s and 70s if you add men to the analysis. Hamilton’s approach was right, but in a species where males and females have different reproductive patterns, you need a two-sex model. You can’t correctly estimate the force of selection if you leave men out of the picture. As a man myself, it’s gratifying to know that men do matter.”

Grants from the U.S. National Institute on Aging supported this study.

Old men chasing young women: A good thing

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  1. rich June 21, 2014 at 9:40 pm #

    hmmm I have a 32 yr old wife , I am 48 , we have a child on the way and I am loving every min of it

  2. Nat February 12, 2014 at 6:41 pm #

    I’ve got a 60+ bitch at home that’s all saggy and floppy, sort of the beached whale look.
    I’m saggy also but I still appreciate a young lady who is built and beautiful. I also tell her that she is beautiful.

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  4. EhiozeChris October 8, 2013 at 8:25 am #

    That’s not absolutely true. Spem count is less conceivable than ovulation for many young men. A lot of young women find it harder to conceive these days too. I’m male, my girlfriend is 30 years older than me, and we have great love life. I have no children exept hers. She had one after the other until there was over eight of them. Her lesson changed my life, not natural selection. Only children are subject to “primitivism” , as I call this subject. You wont see me start another family of my own sometime in the near future. Look what they do to their parents when they get old. I hope you can see how our roles get reversed occasionally? The only thing that’s leading our growth is the learning of love and care for the family. That doesn’t mean men should go around rush breeding before they die. The bigger picture is, where most women have respect for our bodies, most men degrade them. Sperm is a rush until we reach 41. A strong man is able to hold back from sexual desire. Weak men show off until they are bad examples of fatherhood and natural selection. Strong men always come out on top in the end. The older the better the alpha male.

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  11. John July 21, 2012 at 11:46 pm #

    Women 35-year old (+) present increased risk for Downs Syndrome primarily, and men 40-year old (+) present risk for autism in offspring… statistically.

    And, as a man, I agree with your comment on empowerment… as when I hit 40, total loss of control happened in the home. If I tried to hold on tight to it, the more I lost it… and then it was too late. I separated from my wife of nearly 20 years last week. Were you to observe, it was clear who was in control, and it is quite uncomfortable to be in that spot… so, when I was asked to leave… I said “OK.”

    If you have kids, stop while you are ahead… what if you have some raging autistic child who screams and moans all the time – you would kick yourself for it. Good luck!

  12. Tyler Eugene Nelson June 28, 2012 at 5:22 am #

    Make sure they’re not too young. You’ll have to get married. Oh, and don’t be creeper either

  13. jason June 27, 2012 at 4:25 am #

    there should be a difference of at least 10 to 15 years between men and women..cause women gets old very fast while men are men..they never get old… so in my opinion = Old men chasing young women: A good thing (yea it is totally)

  14. Jon May 13, 2012 at 2:25 am #

    I thought it was only lower sperm count, not the condition of the cells themselves. It’s not las if older men produce mutants you know. I am 41 and would like to have more children, I am in the financial position to provide for them.

    I understand my role in evolution as a protector and provider, and I greatly appreciate womens’ roles as childbearers, mothers, pillars of emotional support for both men and children. I don’t think women should feel like this is demeaning. You should know that being a man isn’t as empowering in someways as you might think. A man’s life can be very demanding, and women in fact have much control over men; more than you probably realize. I have often felt controlled by women and their sexuality, but I am not bitter about it. In the right environment men and women can be mutual benefactors for each other.

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  16. adriandrummond March 14, 2012 at 7:58 am #

    You decided nothing., You were born a lesbian.

  17. Danno March 14, 2012 at 6:41 am #

    Doubt you would call it misandry if the research mentioned in the article ended up with an opposite result.

  18. Danno March 14, 2012 at 6:37 am #

    So, tell me my dear, is biology with all its bio-chemical processes misogynistic?

  19. Danno March 14, 2012 at 6:34 am #

    But, alas the young men want young women as well. So, no harems stocked with young men for older women. um..sorry.

  20. Danno March 14, 2012 at 6:28 am #

    “The thing about society is that it’s perfectly exceptable for rich and famous men to marry teenagers(think Tom Cruise) but if you are just a normal guy with an average job you are considered a creep. But the way it works is that if I win the lottery and have 10 million in the bank it doesn’t matter what I look like, society deems me a winner and fit to date supermodels.”

    Excellent point….

    Jack, good on you for living the dream.

  21. funki March 6, 2012 at 1:11 am #

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  22. ana February 27, 2012 at 5:06 am #

    The title of this site makes me sick. I’m so glad I’ve decided to become a lesbian.

  23. Leslie February 21, 2012 at 1:47 pm #

    Guys over 35 have less perfect sperm and so they can produce less healthy offspring. So it would be a disadvantage for a younger woman to be with an older man.

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  25. mj January 17, 2012 at 1:37 am #

    As long as you feel young and enthusiastic,age hardly matters.One should persue his passion with full vigour and courage if u mean it.

  26. Mandy January 5, 2012 at 11:09 pm #

    If I catch you glancing my way, old man, you’ll lose your fuckin’ eyeballs. And if you follow me, I’ll cut off your balls.

  27. Panax December 22, 2011 at 12:10 am #

    Drop the royal ‘we’ and get cracking?” What exactly do you mean by that?

    Wouldn’t mind having an explanation that was at least a paragraph long.

    By “we” I meant people in general, not a “royal we”.

  28. Hugh December 16, 2011 at 7:49 am #

    old pervert! You should be ashamed. Take a look at your ugly face in the mirror before you chase young women. You’re disgusting. You stink! Nobody wants you.

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  30. naughty December 13, 2011 at 9:55 pm #

    yes. old men chasing young girls, they are dating..but in reality the young girls are writing the particular and exact “date” to escape with the property and jewels. When the old ones wake up they come to know about the truth, the realisation. They open their eyes really. .She says, “Damn”. ..Want another negative comment, i told you when you were sleeping, now you want another one? Get it, “Close the door”. Old says, “i believed you the chick, …She says, “thats what i wanted”.. am not a green chick.. my huntingcontinues…wait, call for me…yes darling, pass the address..switch off. She says, my bank balance is increasing. :)

  31. Jane December 9, 2011 at 5:20 am #

    It was an interestingly enough article. I don’t judge a book by its covers and have nothing against older men dating younger women, Nor the other way around. Anyway, i found a web site that has interesting information about male breeding and their preferences.
    It’s true that all men like younger women, but not because they breed better, but because they’re beautiful and willing.

  32. Jack Cann December 5, 2011 at 6:30 pm #

    My step-father was 42 years older than my mother and fathered my brother at 70 years old. He was a decent man, didn’t drink or smoke and went to church everyday and rarely took time off work, you could set your watch by him.

    My mother had me when she was 15 years old so we are more like brothers and sisters in the way we communicate. I asked her why did she marry such an older man and she told me point blank…for security, because at 19 and being a single mother she didn’t have too many 20 something guys looking her way.

    Now the opposite of this is that my real father ended up living with a lady 11 years older than him with 6 children(all girls)and has stayed with her for over 40 years.

    Both marriages seemed happy. My mom claims my step-dad was a good lover too. However there was a little deception with my dad, he claimed to be 10 years younger and it wasn’t until a year or two into my parents relationship that he told her the truth, but by then age was just a number.

    Now I’m 48 and I live in Thailand and the oldest women I dated is 36 with the vast majority in their middle twenties. Most women in the world are disgusted that I don’t date women nearer my age and probably think I’m a perv but I feel it’s the most natural thing in the world for an older experienced man that has already made all the mistakes in life to be with a younger girl. I’m not with them for deep philosophical conversation, I have male friends that provide that. I’m with them because I don’t need viagra to perform in the bedroom. They do it for me, and 50 year old women do not. i don’t care if it’s Madonna.

    The thing about society is that it’s perfectly exceptable for rich and famous men to marry teenagers(think Tom Cruise) but if you are just a normal guy with an average job you are considered a creep. But the way it works is that if I win the lottery and have 10 million in the bank it doesn’t matter what I look like, society deems me a winner and fit to date supermodels.

  33. April December 4, 2011 at 9:14 pm #

    Thank you for your point, Sandra. I’m 25 and my fiance is 52. I chased him 4 years ago and can not bare the thought to be with someone else. Yes, the stares and judgements are annoying. But at least I’m happy with him. I’m not a gold digger and he is not a pedophile like everyone thinks. Tired of the stereotypes. Anyway, good to read your post. You and your husband take care:)

  34. Hugh December 1, 2011 at 5:18 am #

    I’m so happy for you, ugly 50 yr old Sandra. Good on you for marrying an old piece of shit.

  35. Tashason November 30, 2011 at 2:43 am #

    Zesante contact me via e-mail. All e-mails I receive are.Neither of us were planning to marry someone who was 10+ years age gap but it just happened.

  36. Sandra November 26, 2011 at 4:03 am #

    I want everyone to know that being with an older man is not different from a younger man other than he is far more likely to have settled with his life and at the same time willing to stand by you.
    I am a woman 50 years old , married with a wonderful 18 year old son and a 76 year old husband.
    I have to admit that when we first were together I hid him because of society and what people would think. The only hurdle to cross was my family and they like me accepted slowly, but now could not imagine me with anyone else.
    It was I that chased him and I that encouraged him to fall in love with me. I was attracted and went for what I wanted.
    To this day I love him more than life. When I was 30 and he was 56 he seemed 56. Now that I am 50 he seems 45. Life is what is in the person and not only the eyes. He has a beautiful heart and mind and is my soul mate. Don’t think it wasn’t hard, but it was worth it.

  37. WYG October 3, 2011 at 5:23 pm #

    This video is a good visual of why older men like younger women. http://youtu.be/xAwdyg3I1j8

  38. Crispy but Not Forgotten September 19, 2011 at 11:54 am #

    Yes, and then there’s my great grand ma, married or married off to, we don’t know. She was 13, he was 35. I’m sure she took care of him when he was sickly and died (at about 76) Then she had another 50 years to live. She had a boyfriend who moved in, her ‘cousin’ and she was healthy and spry into her old age. Didn’t make this up.

    I don’t know if my granny had birth control, but she lived through those reproducing years, unlike many women who died in childbirth before it was available, many who were treated like baby factories with no respect for their health and needs to recover between kids.

    Actually, I heard that husband of hers was a difficult fellow. I guess she lived a long life afterwards in part because he wasn’t around to harrass her and treat her poorly. She got a break.

    I understand in some cultures it’s older men for young women and older women for young men. Not everyone young is going to buy that. The hurt seems to be when older men or women are spouses who attain their new arm candy by ditching someone they’ve leftbehind, often out of the blue with little preparation. (not assigning blame here, unless they’ve been reassuring all along).

    The take away, don’t ever run yourself into the ground taking care of any partner when he/she is young and able bodied. If you love them enough, stay around when they are old. If they’ve mistreated, that is your call!

  39. kvartiri_posutochno July 18, 2011 at 5:43 am #

    If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

    he he he +1

  40. Bean July 5, 2011 at 5:39 am #

    The researchers seem to be completely ignoring the fact that better nutrition means women are staying fertile longer and having babies at later ages – which is a strong indicator of a civilization living longer as a whole.

    If women are having babies in their forties, biology will keep them alive to care for those babies and subsequent grandchildren. The age of menopause will keep on pushing back. Women AND men will live longer.

    Sperm from young sperm is of a much higher quality than the sperm of older men. So, older women mating with young men – A good thing for humanity living longer!

    Hey, older women can form harems and stock them with young men (all for the good of humanity of course!)

  41. chiropractor chattanooga June 26, 2011 at 10:14 pm #

    However,you know in hunter-gatherer societies, which likely represent early human demographic conditions and mating patterns, one-third of people live beyond 55 years, past the reproductive lifespan for women.

  42. believe June 20, 2011 at 7:53 pm #

    hi im 20years old and i like chating with old mens

  43. Sally June 15, 2011 at 8:03 pm #

    Hee hee hee hee hee ……..

  44. storm June 15, 2011 at 7:24 am #

    I hate men especialy old men. Men are bullies.

  45. biletul zilei June 11, 2011 at 2:00 pm #

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  46. Cevdet Bey ve Oğulları June 9, 2011 at 9:01 am #

    I see a claim that most pre-agricutural cultures practiced polygyny:

    “early humans were probably polygynous as well.”

    If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

  47. billy June 5, 2011 at 2:05 pm #

    there is only one life stop hurting your feelings if it is such a relationship that gives u the pleasure go for it as long as it is legitimate you all know that what pleases you is what you go for

  48. David June 2, 2011 at 5:54 am #

    The real problem is that older women cant accept that men find younger women more attractive they are jealous and bitter. They are sexist against mens nature to desire the more attractive women so they make ageist and sexist remarks against men, because they cant compete. Evolution made us what we are men are supposed to have multiple partners and women are supposed to have children with a successful man- whatever age or race or ethnicity he is. I would tell those bitter women to accept science, and stop making decisions based on your out of control emotions.

  49. Dinora May 25, 2011 at 2:49 am #

    You are a model and actor and that is why you are with him. How many men do you sleep with other than him?

    Ask this question to yourself….I doubt your intentions….and don’t defend these bloody bastards who eye on the girls their grand daughter’s age.

  50. Classifieds May 24, 2011 at 8:20 am #

    heh, good points on this debate here. comments seemed to mostly agree. thanks for posting

  51. Kelly K,. May 24, 2011 at 7:09 am #

    that was craxy!

  52. Cath Jones May 23, 2011 at 6:46 am #

    Very interesting article, though a bit misogynistic, as others have pointed out! Still, I enjoy reading the Evolutionary Psychology perspective

  53. stacy May 22, 2011 at 12:48 pm #

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  54. money mutual May 22, 2011 at 9:26 am #

    Women are the ones with the power. Men have no power over women.

  55. tania May 20, 2011 at 12:13 am #

    Get a fuckin’ life old man!

  56. stan May 15, 2011 at 1:05 am #

    Get a perspective!

  57. Ian May 7, 2011 at 5:39 am #

    I see a claim that most pre-agricutural cultures practiced polygyny:

    “early humans were probably polygynous as well.”

    If all the women wer impregnated by a smaller number of men, does this mean that there were a large minority, or even a majority of men who did not pass their genes on to the next generation at all? How could a society like that possibly work?

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    I am a forty five year old woman who is dating a 75 year old man. This has been the best experience of my life. Sex is great. As a matter of fact, better than any young man I have ever had because an older man is more experienced and knows all the right places to touch. Needless to say, I am a professional and he is a retired professional. He has taught me how to survive in the cutthroat corporate world on a managerial level. We have a meeting of the minds which is why I love him so. I have money and so does he. We just enjoy each others company with no strings attached. So I think that It is all an individual choice. I too made assumptions in the beginning like why would I want to date an old man, but you neve judge a book by its cover. I have been wrong.

  60. Josie April 24, 2011 at 2:42 pm #

    So, misogyny is allowed in scientific publications now? And your bloggers are allowed to write like Nuts magazine columnists? Ahem. Content? Style? I thought you had editors for this sort of thing.

  61. Me27 April 24, 2011 at 1:14 am #

    I’m not really sure why so many people have a problem with older men dating/marrying younger women. If you don’t like it then don’t do it. But who are you to judge anyone else? I am 27 and my husband is 63. We have two children ages 5 & 2 and we couldn’t be happier. We have been together for 9 years so obviously I’m not using him. He isn’t rich, in fact he doesn’t even work! I make the money in our house. I’m not some trailer trash and he isn’t an old horn dog. We are two normal upper class people. I use to feel insulted when people would talk about us but Now I don’t really care what people say. I make a good living as a model/actress which allows my husband to stay home and also takes away the one thing people automaticly assume about us, that I’m a gold digger!
    My point is don’t judge a book by it’s cover. Neither of us were planning to marry someone who was 10+ years age gap but it just happened. You can’t always choose who you fall in love with. Keep yourself open to new possibilities and you will be amazed at what life will present you.

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  66. Ignorance is Bliss March 30, 2011 at 12:53 am #

    I happend to stumble on this post by accident. I can see where it would look awkward for an old man, say someone old enough to be someones father or even older to date someone younger. Yea I can go along with that.

    Now I do believe it is another thing for someone just being a little older even if its a 10 year gap dating, being thats a common thing in most healthy normal relationships now. like if someone was 22 and they dated someone 32. No big deal on that one.

    I do say all of this on a neutral basis being I don’t judge. Also, if everything is really for the right reason being (TRUE LOVE) then there shouldn’t be no trouble, which I can see thats not the case most of the time.

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  70. Jerry March 26, 2011 at 8:22 pm #

    I just turned 50. I don’t feel like 50, but it is what it is, I’m not intereated in dating 20 year olds. Just don;t have enough in common, and yeah, 20 year olds woukd be dating me for my money.

    But I do like women in their 30s. They’re mature enough to know whats going on, but not bitter at the world, yet.

    and thats the problem with women 40 and over. Most are bitter. And most talk like my grandma!

    So yeah, part of the attraction for younger women is that of reproduction. But here’s another one: women matures faster than guys. So for me, dating a woman 10-15 years younger is like dating someone closer to my maturity level.

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  72. Sweet Young Thing March 24, 2011 at 10:10 am #

    You old geezers with saggy balls and greasy gray hair. Chicks that dig you have either:
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    I’ve never been with one of you and never will. You’re just too hard to look at, let alone imagine sleeping with. And this article? Keep dreaming, geezers.

  73. Dee March 24, 2011 at 4:04 am #

    Ask the man that committed adultery how much is divorce will cost him as well as he may not find his Trophy.

    Lots of men have “Delusions of Granduer” and most middle aged Divorcees many times don’t find the Trophy they want. They go from woman to woman every 2-6 months

  74. Dee March 24, 2011 at 4:01 am #

    As well as Ive learned to keep my options open and entertain those men I have interest in while Im dating someone.


    It donesnt pay to be faithful anymore. Most women lose out.

  75. Dee March 24, 2011 at 3:58 am #

    Sorry, I told me daughter that she is to marry someone close to her own age not an old man who lived his life and has alot of baggage. Even I was smart enough to not take on another man’s (Older Man’s problems).

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  80. Girl March 11, 2011 at 12:55 am #

    It’s obvious, Soccer Tips, that you are NOT a parent – or not a decent one – and are just posting with your selfish dick.

    Men should not encourage their daughters to date some delusional old fart that has GROWN OLD and wishes to use some new, fresh person’s body parts!

    Listen up, you sick old pervs, we don’t care if you think young girls are attractive – your old rotten parts DON’T MATCH OURS.

    Try to get some with people LIKE YOURSELF.

    That’s what normal girls do! They look for people fairly close to their age!

    The messed up girls, the ones that have been abused and the ones that want to sell their body for money, those girls are will to be a whore with an old guy, and they will approach you!

    Leave the NORMAL girls alone, they don’t want you old raisins!

  81. Soccer Tips March 6, 2011 at 2:23 am #

    Old dads should give silent treatment to their own daughters for not showing interest in older men, instead of giving silent treatment to other people’s daughters. They should encourage their young daughters to go with older men, especially older men with kids. They should also tell their young daughters that they are silly for showing interest in young men.

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    i am a 48 year old woman and divc.and i was marryed for years.why would (A) older man bragg,about committing asdultery? some might would wonder if that makes him feel like a really big man.i wonder,but not long.

  87. miss vita m.king February 24, 2011 at 1:44 pm #

    say that again,what goes on in the bedroom is between THE TWO ADULTS.and yes i do like science,but what does that have to do with it.society,some men date women 48 years and older like myself because,they know there will be NO seeds planted,everything has stopped.NO,MAYBBS! we can’t HAVE ANY! AND,SCIENCE,YES IT VERY VERY TRUE,LOVE MAKING IS BETTER NOW!And being a 48 year old women,WHAT is A OLDER MAN FOR ME?????

  88. Ryland February 23, 2011 at 10:22 am #

    This just goes to show you that we’re much more like animals than many people would like to believe. Much of what we do is unconsciously motivated by primal urges and our higher brain functions think of creative ways to act on these urges. I’ll bet some old bankruptcy lawyers in Cleveland Ohio are having some fun with younger ladies too :)

  89. thetoad February 22, 2011 at 6:47 am #

    Amy, you need to stop your lib-lady rantings and get ready for your NOW meeting. This article is not attempting to reach any moral conclusions. Rather, it simply explains new dimensions in the knowlege of human reproduction. I’m sorry that your husband ran off with a younger woman, or your daughter married an older man, but that does not alter the facts related to human reproductive dynamics. They are not moral judgements, simply facts and conclusions based upon sound, logical reasoning – nothing more, nothing less. They are not a primer for survival through male mid-life crisis. Take a deep breath – your fear-based predispositions are showiing.

  90. Amy February 18, 2011 at 10:47 am #

    Wow. obviously if men continue “mating” with younger/fertile women the population will have a “greater growth rate”, becasue they have been mating with more women over a longer period of time. can we say “No S#!t” together? I’m intrigued as to why this article trys to serve as some sort of justification for old men chasing young women. Yes, men with lots of money “high status” have ‘always’ been able to get whatever they want. this dose not need to serve as a guide for the rest of society. This is obviously written by a man. However, if the two are consenting adults, I do believe age shouldn’t matter (That’s “not science/ only oppinon”, BUT I’m NOT trying to justify it with Science).

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  93. Mike Donnell February 14, 2011 at 6:24 pm #

    Have you seen the research that says that women who reproduce after age 45 will live much longer than those who cannot?

    Women who have long telomeres can live a long healthy life – and pass this benefit onto their offspring.

    Repoductive years will be lengthened in successive generations.

    If women do not mate in their later repoductive years (because the men are mating with young women) this benefit is missed.

    Both the eggs of women and the sperm of men deteriorates with age.

    It’s true that nature has set us men up to be expendable. Women are kept alive and kicking long after menopause – up to fifty or sixty years.

    Women get released from baby-making duties and kept alive (even longer than men.)

    The sperm of young men is the most valuable – without as much deterioration as men who are 35 and over. Older men are kept alive in case of catastrophe – where all the young men are away or dead.

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  95. Michael David February 8, 2011 at 6:18 pm #

    You must be a “creasy” ladies man, Golpoo. I wonder how attractive you’ll be to these women when you start Golpoo’ing your pants. An older man with younger woman, I have no problem with that, but some doof coming in here and bragging about committing adultery with three different women, that’s just “creasy” and sleazy and more lousy than I can “experse”.

  96. Michael David February 8, 2011 at 6:11 pm #

    None of that research matters or even pertains to the research the author posted. Just because the motility of sperm and testosterone are both decreased, doesn’t mean anything to the article. The research in the article says something very simple (but doesn’t say it well enough): when older men reproduce it adds (overall) to the longevity of the society. Why? Because they lived that long, and that longevity will be passed to their offspring. Motility and sperm count doesn’t matter at all, concerning this.

    As far as testosterone being “directly proportional to his testosterone level”, that is pure bunk. Haha. Where do you get this stuff? NO STUDY has even concluded that weight is “directly proportional” to testosterone level. That is a fact. Speaking of facts… the fact is, this isn’t your post. This post was cut and pasted from somewhere else on the ‘Net:


    Sadly, this isn’t anything new. One person posts bunk and then dozens cut and paste it, pretending they wrote it, in the meantime passing along more erroneous information.

    As far as “bad sperm” this is why God (or nature if you prefer) designed the female vagina to be such a hostile place to sperm. Only the best sperm make it to the egg, and only the best of the best make it inside.

    Other studies of older men having children with younger women showed no (statistically) higher incidence of defects in offspring than with younger men. The studies show it is the combination of older men with older women that causes the problem. An older woman will have a lower chance of children with defects if she mates with a younger man, but the rates are still astronomical compared to the reverse situation (a young woman with an older man).

    It is very easy to sort a man’s sperm for healthy candidates and inseminate, it doesn’t even require removing the egg to fertilize, the sorted sperm can be directly introduced into the vagina with a syringe (or turkey baster) ;-) However, the opposite is VERY expensive and much more involved.

    Bottom line, there are very few problems with older men having children with younger women, and those problems can be easily, and (relatively) inexpensively remedied (if one is worried). However, older women having children with younger men (and especially older men) is very, very high risk, and the remedy (if one is available) is incredibly expensive. When you combine that real info with the results from this study, it’s clear that older men having kids with younger women is really a win-win situation for everybody (including the children and society in general).

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  104. Ed January 21, 2011 at 9:16 pm #

    As men get older they see a decline in testosterone, a decline in fertility, and a greater chance of fathering children with genetic problems. Men’s testosterone levels ebb after age 25, sperm quality deteriorates with age, and there’s a higher rate of genetic defects than there is with the sperm of younger men. In recent years clinical trials have found links between the father’s age and genetically related conditions such as Down syndrome and schizophrenia.

    In a study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility, researchers interviewed nearly 2,000 women about how long it took them to conceive. Among women 35 and older, those whose male partners were 45 and older took five times longer to conceive than those whose partners were 25 or younger. The researchers also looked at what happens when young women (age 25 and under) have children with men 45 and older. Again, the researchers found a substantial, fourfold increase in the time it took couples to conceive – meaning the man’s age was a factor independent of the woman’s age.

    Just because he can make sperm doesn’t mean it’s high-quality sperm. As men age, the volume, motility (a.k.a. speed), and quality of their sperm decline. In 2001, the journal Fertility & Sterility published one of the largest reviews of male fertility to date. The authors found that between ages 30 and 50, the average man’s sperm declines by up to 30 percent in volume, swims up to 37 percent slower, and is five times more likely to be misshapen. Shape is important because it correlates with the sperm’s genetic content. A higher number of misshapen sperm equals a greater potential for genetic abnormalities.

    Some genetic abnormalities, like dwarfism, have long been associated with fraternal age, but we didn’t give these problems much scientific attention because they’re relatively rare.

    On the evidence that sperm from older men is more likely to have genetic abnormalities, some European countries have prohibited men from becoming sperm donors after reaching a certain age.

    A man’s waist size is directly proportional to his testosterone level. All fat cells break down testosterone, but belly fat destroys testosterone the fastest, because visceral fat is broken down into estrogen more quickly than other types of fat. Estrogen basically cancels out testosterone in this situation – so the higher a man’s waist measurement, the lower his testosterone level.
    “One of the best markers we have of the male biological clock is an increase in DNA-damaged sperm. At age 25, only 5 percent of a man’s sperm has DNA damage; by age 35, that percentage has grown to 20 percent. That’s a fourfold increase in just ten years. As the percentage of damaged sperm increases, the odds of fertilization decrease.” – Narendra Singh, associate professor in the Department of Bioengineering at the University of Washington, Seattle

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  142. Nigel Hill December 18, 2010 at 11:46 pm #

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  172. Living the good life December 7, 2010 at 1:09 pm #

    Why do you just assume that old men do not have any confidence in themselves? I am 23 and dating a 60 year old man who takes care of himself inside and out. He exercises daily, eats healthy unprocessed food, very rarely goes out and gets fast food, has never smoked, and drinks occasionally. He is as fit as a 30 year old, NOT WRINKLY at all, and even though he’s retired he owns about five houses and rents them out to people doing his OWN remodeling. He does all the yard work, helps decorate for the holidays, and we both have a lot in common surprisingly. I didn’t just go out and start “looking” for older men. We both just found each other and started out as friends and became lovers. We are both very happy with each other and that’s all that matters.

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  223. Anonymous November 3, 2010 at 12:24 pm #

    no one young women will date older men unless there is some business but it woun’t be for long to be seen with older men. Becausse old men are useless. they don’t have confident on themselves and try to date young women. for what?

    YOunget women prefer younger women who can do better sex and having fun out side not just sitting home watching foot ball or base ball with alcohol on their hand. which are with big belly sitting in a sofa for ever.

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    so young women prefer younger women because there is many good reasons why they like younger guys. their look perfect their body inside their close perfect sex perfect every thing perfect. but older men they are old on the out side and inside under their cloths are old body. so who want that old body.

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    young women and young men will have a good sex when they are reaaly both in love. but with older men you can’t be in love because there is many reasond why women can’t be in love with old man who doesn’t have confident on himself even if the old men pretend to be have a confident.

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    is 57 . maximum times i have attened night sift. my boss is sexual person . many times he use nurse for his bed patner. when i join a old nurse staff say that this old man is very sexual . and you just now new
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    the old man is old or young i said stop didi i was not mature at that time the old man make me old woman because now i am a mother of a 1 year son. so i am old woman now he is just father of a 1 year son so he is young man of 16. didi said you also make yourself young for your husband other wise he go for a another lady. i say no he made twice sexual relaton with me. now i feel old man never old he becames more romantic in old age. i am physically satisfied with my husband… so man never old.

  244. julie October 4, 2010 at 1:38 pm #

    i am a lady of 28 years. i am in a job last 2 years ago . i am appoint as a personal secretary of my company boss. he is a old man of 55 years. i am belonges to a poor family and i have 3 sister. parentes are no more last 5 years ago. now i am the only earning person. my boss have a daughter who is married last 3 years ago. now she settle in u.k. with his husband. my boss’s wife is nomore last 8 years ago. because i am his personal sectary he told me his family matters.
    i also told him of my family story that i ave 3 sister and i am the earning person. he told me i will make you my wife. i aggred his proposal last year . last year i married a old man of 55 . he is 27 years older than me . but he gives me sexual pleasure 3/4 times like a young boy of 18. now i am a mother of a son 4 months ago. he gives me sexual pleasure and now my husband settled my 3 sister for higher study. now he is feel like a young boy of just 18. now i am sexualy satisfied.. so finally i think age does not come between love and sexual satisfication.

  245. sumitrarani October 4, 2010 at 12:42 pm #

    i am now 21 years old woman . i made bad relation with my jija science
    2 years . and i became praganate 3 times and aborson them. last year i am married a old man of age 54 last year . he is 35 years older than
    me. now i have a doughter 2 months ago. i am satisfied with my husband. he loves me more when i tell him that i have bad relation
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  248. Lena 22 October 3, 2010 at 8:32 pm #

    I’m with a guy whose 36 & we’re happy despite the fact that he is 14 years older than me doesn’t matter to me. It by nomeans make him younger or makes me feel much older. However if two adults decide that they want to be together let them b… It’s their relationship. If you don’t agree with datin an older man then don’t. You can’t really speak for someone else.

  249. jssc October 3, 2010 at 4:59 pm #

    It is frightening how many of these comments are by people who have no idea what the article is saying. Can’t they tell the difference between theoretical research and their own dating preferences?

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    Unless you want to, of course.

  250. Dirty Old Man October 2, 2010 at 5:42 am #

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  252. Her ♥ October 1, 2010 at 8:32 am #

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  253. Her ♥ October 1, 2010 at 8:31 am #

    Thatsz in your mind ; youh probably rape liddo kiddsz; sowwwy but thats the truth. a 1 year old should date a 20 year old yuck – jusss not riqht.

  254. Her ♥ October 1, 2010 at 8:29 am #

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  256. Herold September 30, 2010 at 6:35 am #

    Not only old men, if you have born as men then most of the person should chase cute and young girls, Why not old men ? They are having good feeling over in that age only.

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  258. vick September 28, 2010 at 11:41 pm #

    Interesting article. Personally I feel sick of the young girls with old men. How can yo kiss old man, it must b really difficult. I am lucky I am a man in my late twenties.
    I think usually women and young girls are duffer as compared to men. Men usually exploit young girls. It is not that old men know how to please young girls. It is crap. Young men are the best match for good pleasurable relationship.
    I had some bad experiences of young girls. So I stayed away, still in search of a decent one. I think men have more choice, if they are not married. If a man is financially and health wise stable, he can enjoy good relationships for longer period of time.


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  263. Anonymous September 28, 2010 at 4:30 pm #

    You hit the nail right on the head honey…these old men who want to get a hold of some teen or 20 something girl are trying now to use bogus science as a way to justify there perversion.

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  264. Alex September 28, 2010 at 10:28 am #

    The big question of this article: why humans live longer than the age of reproduction?

    Well, what do you think of it?Human beings,how we got on this plannet is still a mistery. As I read in different sources there were secret people who lived much longer than 400 years, and probably in the future this will be very much possible as well for everybody. Our grand-grand nephews.

    Anyway, I know an old high-status male over 70, who is indeed active chasing women, unfortunately he doesn’t treat them right, so no, you don’t necessary find an understanding person in an old man if you are younger, on the contrary, but this was not the point of this article, the idea was if this old man succeds to pass on genes, meaning having babies in older age, yes he does, but these are exceptions, really only 2% of men above 65 make kids with younger partners, they get to be in the news. So their contribution to human kind is insignificant.

    But I’m glad this era is over. Now thanks God people are starting to be equals.

  265. hater September 27, 2010 at 10:55 am #

    your poor “as heck” of an English says a lot more about your situation than you think

  266. me! September 26, 2010 at 11:49 am #

    I couldn’t agree more. older men certainly earn the right. and I’m 29.

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  269. Deb26 September 23, 2010 at 10:12 am #

    I am 26 and my husband is 62. We have been together for over 8 years and we have two children together. He isn’t rich! I read these post about younger women only with older men for money. That is crap! We aren’t poor but we sure the heck aren’t rich. I am with my husband because I love him! He is a wonderful man. When i was 18 i didn’t like the men my age. I wanted a MAN not a boy! I wanted to be respected and loved. That is why I married an older man, and I couldn’t be happier! If i was just with him for money I sure as heck would not still be married to him for so long! All you haters need to get a reality check! It isn’t new for older men to be with younger women!
    PS: Our sex life is very good! Anyone who thinks having sex with an older man is awful, you haven’t tried it! Older men have been around the block a few times and know how to please a woman!

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  272. sara September 22, 2010 at 12:46 am #

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  273. Anonymous September 21, 2010 at 10:05 am #

    So what about a man in his late forties who has a preference for girls in the late twenties early thirties age groups?

  274. 70's dreamer September 20, 2010 at 4:20 pm #

    Hmmmm to the 56 year old guy that just found out he will be father of twins. I can hear you beating on your chest in pride from here LOL! Well write in again AFTER these kids are born and you are running around after 2 year olds with sticky fingers and smelly diapers and you have no freedom or down time anymore!!
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  275. halomv September 15, 2010 at 10:53 am #

    yeah i’m 28 now, but when I was 18/19 years old, i got into a series of BAD relationships with guys in their late 20s and early 30s. now, all of the guys my age or slightly older who are hunting younger girls now are defective. literally. current/former drug addicts, drunk former frat guys, mental health issues. the only reason they go for the younger ladies is because they think they’re easy. maybe this formula works for slight age gaps or different cultures, but more than 5 years age gap in 21st century USA does NOT work.

  276. Anonymous September 10, 2010 at 9:07 pm #

    If you are an actual scientist or at least an skeptical, you don’t believe anything that is passed as “science”. When it comes to evolutionary psychology, almost anything can be blindly explained by anyone. There are many articles out there than challenge EP’s theories and point out how their assumptions are, in fact, unscientific.

    Oh and as a younger women, I feel disgusted when an old man hits on me, give me the younger hot guy any day. I make my own money and I’m secure. I don’t want someone to take care of me, I’d rather have some hot sex instead.

  277. Anonymous September 10, 2010 at 8:49 pm #

    This article is, like everything else in this world, against women, as simple as that. Women live longer than men and this means that they have to live their last 20 30 years of life all alone. Of course guys will love this, because in all reality, they don’t give an eff about their women. Who cares if they live lonely and sad for 30 years? as long as they satisfy me sexually and change my diapers when I’m old.

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    Totally agree Bennie, I think you’re on to something! Wonder how we get that started – I’m soooo with you! How can anyone looki at Hugh Hefner and do anything but gag – and how does Catherine Zeta Jones roll over, see Michael Douglas w/ his bad plastic surgery face and not run screaming for the hills???

  280. funnygirl August 27, 2010 at 8:28 pm #

    Disgusting – in 20 years your fiance will be changing your diapers and putting the twins thru college – what a great guy you are

  281. 8 weeks pregnant August 27, 2010 at 4:22 pm #

    Hey, I figure old men have earned the right to chase young women or old women if they want. It is hard work getting old. And im only 30! Lol.

  282. Event SE August 22, 2010 at 1:26 am #

    Interesting article. I’ve never heard such opinion. I agree that people who are lonely in life pass away earlier. But if you have young children you don’t have many choices, of course if you are not an egoist. You have to live and to be in a good form as long as it is possible.

  283. bluehost August 21, 2010 at 8:05 am #

    it makes you young!

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  285. sucker August 20, 2010 at 9:13 am #

    what a load of crap… young kids having grand dad as fathers. man are real jokers

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  290. Steve August 15, 2010 at 10:20 am #

    I’m 56, with two grown children from a previous marriage, and recently discovered my 37 year old fiancee’ is pregnant – with twins. She had been considered “infertile” but we still took precautions – unplanned, shocking…then after thought – delightfully pregnant. Why is it that women seem to want to bash older men for wanting to continue to LIVE – not retire and “smell the roses” and gradually drift into old dried up men? I believe these twins will likely add many years to my life – the human species need a purpose to continue living other than retiring and drifting off into the sunset. I plan to be around when they produce grandchildren. I take care of myself, my parents lived well into their 80s and I regard the twins as a rejuvenation – not a decision made to prove I am still a man – although, I have to admit, I am feeling my oats! Sue me and deal with it!

  291. handsomeguy August 12, 2010 at 8:51 am #

    I Agree this is a load of crap …. i prefer older females ….much more exciting .. not ALL of us are breeders ….

  292. handsomeguy August 12, 2010 at 8:49 am #

    I Agree this is a load of crap ….
    i prefer older females ….much more exciting ..
    not ALL of us are breeders ….

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    Very interesting article. It has long been interested in human evolution, the theory of rank and reproduction. I think that the age of breeding males is strongly dependent on the kind of sex life he led during his life, he was engaged in sports nutrition and have little connection with his ancestors.

  295. Bizcorp August 6, 2010 at 2:32 am #

    The problem with women is you can’t live with them …and you also can’t live without them :P

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  301. alber July 31, 2010 at 12:00 pm #

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  302. and the Jets July 30, 2010 at 6:55 pm #

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  303. Bennie July 30, 2010 at 11:50 am #

    What a load of crap. There are already way too many people in the world so we certainly don’t need to “guard our genes.” Maybe now we have the answer-get rid of all those youth chasing old men trying to prove their virility. Gag.

  304. waiting chairs July 29, 2010 at 11:17 pm #

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  305. non-woven bag July 29, 2010 at 11:16 pm #

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  307. stefan July 29, 2010 at 10:34 am #

    if age doesnt matter thats like say paedos can do anything then
    there should be some age limit some were to stop older men taking advantage of young girls. would it be okay fo some guy older then 30 to start dating a girl younger then 15? but anyway dont single older women use young guys for sex ??

  308. stefan July 29, 2010 at 10:23 am #

    your sick

  309. Raj July 29, 2010 at 1:38 am #

    I am 28 and my girlfriend is 17 now ….. we are in love from a year … we are planning to get married after 2 years … is this age gap will affect her in any way … like health , sexually, are etc….. Please help me …..

  310. robin July 28, 2010 at 9:06 am #

    Well from a girl’s perspective, I am 20 years old and my boyfriend just turned 36 today. I am very happy with him. I have never had this strong of a connection with any of my “closer in age” previous boyfriends. We actually plan to get married and have children after I finish college. We currently live together and love each other more than I thought possible. He is the world to me and I don’t care what other people may say about his age it doesn’t matter to me. He has met my family and my dad actually likes him the most out of all my previous boyfriends. So to each his own but a young girl and an older man can be very happy and if you don’t agree just go out and actually see how many couples with this age difference are in love and happy like me and so many others. If you want to let age determine who you can be with, you are most likely missing out on the love of your life. Hope this helps:)

  311. Ian July 28, 2010 at 2:18 am #

    F…, How presumptuous and arrogant can you possibly be?

    Ivan said nothing about having left his wife. This article is not about encouraging a man to leave his wife. I only found this article myself, because I got an unusual answer to a question about a woman’s age, “Too young.” Now my mind of course appended an implied “for you”, but I was wondering if it is possible that this was just a playful dig or a serious signal against me asking her out.

    As for leaving a wife, I would never do that. I am totally *for* life-long marriage, but in my case my wife died. She was 39 and I am a fit and young 47. What I unfortunately find these days is women who have little respect for the institution of marriage. So, some of the commenters here imply that it is hideous for someone like me to be interested in a single, never married woman? Most women my age are already married. Of course I have to consider women 30 years old or younger. I will never show interest in another man’s wife.

    It is perfectly natural for a young woman to marry a healthy older man, established in his life. The modern epidemic of divorce distorts this, flooding the pool of potential mates, women claiming to be single, with middle aged women whose husbands are still alive, and who are unfortunately not endowed with the charms possessed by the younger women who are the natural candidates for marrying available men.

    I certainly am not discriminating simply by age. There are women my age who would be wonderful marriage candidates, but they are few and far between, and furthermore, they are most likely to be the faithful wife in an existing marriage.

  312. MisterMike July 26, 2010 at 6:23 pm #

    Age shouldnt matter except to the people actually IN any given relationship. What concerns me far more is the atrocious spelling and grammar in most of these posts – if this is the best the US education system can produce (assuming many of you are in fact American) – then the country is in real trouble. Learn to spell & express yourself people – it’s important!

  313. Cat July 26, 2010 at 4:20 pm #

    Someone mentioned earlier that one should not discriminate against another based on age….then what are men who won’t consider ‘going with a woman over 25″ doing?” Disgusting. This suggests that the principal motivation for them in the pursuit of a relationship is not for emotional connection, but for the acquisition of some passive, pretty- looking sex object. If the motivations were honorable, then age would not be a factor. Older men date much younger women….but the reverse is much rarer… it makes me sick, and sometimes when I think of these attitudes, I feel utterly depressed. It’s dehumansing women. Knowing this, I have no idea why women get involved with men. I have not been hurt by any man, but I watched many friends be heartbroken by guys who are only interested in sex. There are men out there who can override this purported ‘isntinct’…and form meaningful, loving relationships with women of their own age and experience. DECENT, evolved men.

    I am not a lesbian, or a militant feminist- I am a young woman that many of you guys would consider ‘hot’, …well I’m certainly “young and fertile enough”…evidently that’s all my fellow females and I exist for, and the basis on which our merit as human beings is judged. The things I hear have made me consider NEVER going near a man ever again. I cannot believe that in this day and age, when we think we’ve advanced so far, that we dehumanise fellow human beings to such an extent, and that society is so accepting of this…because society is favorable to men.

  314. Mrs. Smith July 26, 2010 at 7:07 am #

    very well said, Thank you!

  315. Mrs. Smith July 26, 2010 at 7:03 am #

    exactly..it’s a shame that they are actually promoting this kind of behavior.

  316. F_youR5elF July 26, 2010 at 6:59 am #

    this is why you left your wife…who’s selfish now?

  317. Mrs. Smith July 26, 2010 at 6:55 am #

    It’s only good when the OLD MAN is not married. But when Infidelity sets in,.and the bastard decided to leave his wife for a younger woman, is it still a good thing?

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  321. thomas July 19, 2010 at 7:33 am #

    why not give it a shot, it might woke and to be a man you got to beat the man!!!!!

  322. neverfull July 19, 2010 at 1:37 am #

    Moani is 100% correct. She literally stole the words right out of my mouth. As for Martin, I believe you are thinking about teenage girls having intercourse with older men? No, no – this article is referring to 20-30 year old women actually marrying men 40-50 and choosing to have a relationship with them. Not 15 year old girls being forced to married 30+ year old men. That’s insanity.

  323. Angelique July 15, 2010 at 12:48 pm #

    Yeah horndogs….unite with each other (in bed)! lol.
    A-holes like you are why so many women become lesbians or nuns. As for mohammed — he was just another egomaniacal man with a personality disorder. I hope your fiance wakes up to the idiot you really are before she takes the marital plunge with you…..you probably also believe it’s okay to beat your wife to keep her in line, right Ahab? When the women are so much younger than you, it’s easier to control them, isn’t it?! They don’t know any better yet. PS: What a Real Man you must be! You can’t spell and your grammar is even worse. Yes, excellent genes involved here!

  324. M July 15, 2010 at 12:29 pm #

    Now that is actually a fascinating dynamic.. It actually would work out. See, older more mature and successful men take the young women out of the picture. Consequently young men, at least for a few years, look to older women for companionship. The older women get the benefit of having a young stud, and teach the “boys” a thing or two about love, life, and sex, until the “boys” become real men. Then all parties are better equipped to make relationship choices.

    Speaking as someone who just a couple years ago left the ‘young man’ phase, this would have been a far better way to spend my late-teens, early-20s, rather than being pissed off and bitter at all the lovely girls around my age who were dating guys in their 30s, 40s, and beyond.

  325. Mahina Piha July 15, 2010 at 12:22 pm #

    This is a very interesting theory. Maybe we will see the results of this in the near future. It’s now becoming acceptable in society for older women to have relationships with younger men without repurcussion. Hopefully it is not just a “fad”. I don’t think so. I’ve always wondered why women, the caregivers of our young, evolved in such a way that we lost our reproductive ability at middle age, whereas men never really do at all. My husband left me in our middle age for a woman in her 20’s, had 2 children with her. How I wish I could have had the same choices, the option. Yes, there is in-vitro available, but it is a scientific reproduction, not the natural ability that older men have.

  326. capsaicin July 15, 2010 at 12:27 am #

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  327. biber hapı July 15, 2010 at 12:25 am #

    Moan You can not be serious 20’s not even talking about the age of 15 when 24 will do

  328. Mercedes July 14, 2010 at 9:05 pm #

    To Evans: do her parents know about you???

  329. Integrity July 14, 2010 at 7:54 pm #

    Seriously Carmen, you need to get a clue. First, there is no law anywhere about what age you can have a girlfriend. Second of all, if he is 38 years old and having sex with his 17 y/o girlfriend then guess what? That is legal in most places! *most* states in USA have 16, not 18 as the age of consent for sex. In Canada, the age of consent for sex was 14 for a very long time, and was only raised to 16 recently, with much controversy.
    I suggest you quit discriminating against people based on their age.

  330. Ivan July 14, 2010 at 2:08 pm #

    I am dating some one who is 20 years old and I am 48 . I am very happy with things the way they are with her . We met at school, and thru the course of a semester we found we had so many things in common and we fell in love. Its now been over 6 months we have been living together. We both really care for each other and find our relationship very rewarding. I found with older women a lot of resentment and anger issues that come from having children and being married and only take care of there kids and not there spouses needs. Older women expect so much and give so little to there spouse that they let themselves go and become bitter toward there spouse when they do some attention. I believe that they become so used to pushing there spouse off to the side for so long they become acustom to expecting someone to drop to there feet forever. So many are on the boarder of being narsasistic. I myself am really turned off by these behaviors and look for someone who wants to be cared for and at the same time care for me and not just a one way street. I am not sure if the relationship will last but I know she cares for me as much as I care for her. As I read through these posts I see a lot of jelosy and resentment. Get over the age thing and quit judgeing others for there relationships and get your own and if you give the attention to your spouse he will be there forever and quit pushing him off to the side for everyone else.

  331. Iman July 14, 2010 at 4:50 am #

    Well to be honest, I want to mention my opinion:
    1- Girls become mature sooner than boys.
    2- psychologically girls reach their relationship desires sooner than boys.
    3- there is a large difference between a man and a woman which some how arises from their age.
    So we can conclude that for marriage or any relationship positive age gap in a standard value will satisfy both man and woman.

    As I have consulted some psychologists, the best age gap is between 4-7 years when the man is older than the woman.
    Many people observe less or more, although it cannot be a rule. But it is the best recommended age gap which can bring satisfaction. For further notice you can investigate this issue psychologically.
    When there is a logical age gap both people rely on each other, both morally and personally. Girls become mature sooner than boys, and they suffer menopause at age of 50, so what should a 50 year old man do with rest of his life if he married a woman with no age gap? But if at that time his wife is already 40 years old then it makes sense, they won’t have problems, and of course you should not only consider the age gap but also the personality of two people should be in balance.
    There is a simple formula: the age of the woman to the age of man should be 3 to 4. It means if you have the age of a girl multiply by 4/3 and if you have the age of a boy multiply by 3/4 to get the partners’ age: for example a 21 year old girl is better to marry a 28 year old man… a 26 year old girl should marry a 34 year old man… Of course that’s not the exact age gap! But in common it manifests to be the best age gap.

  332. Carmen July 13, 2010 at 2:15 pm #

    That is illegal!!!! Shame on you!

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  334. Eamonn July 12, 2010 at 3:09 pm #

    Thats a great story Jack – I am pleased for you both!

  335. Aria July 12, 2010 at 12:25 pm #

    The data is interpreted as showing women having a particular reproductive span–upon which human lifespan is dependent–and men having a longer reproductive span that allows humans to live somewhat longer if older men reproduce with younger women. But you could also see it as men perhaps actually decreasing human lifespan by selecting for shorter reproductive span of women, so selection doesn’t weed out the genes in women that cause harmful effects past women’s major reproductive years. Perhaps if men would select older women, women’s reproductive span might end a bit later with each generation of people and gradually increase human longevity. If both sexes were reproducing at later ages, the increased longevity genes (or the lack of life-shortening genes) would be coming from both sexes rather then just men.

  336. jack July 11, 2010 at 10:26 pm #

    well, when i was young, the age different was very emportant…today i am 60 …when in peru , on the amazon river in( iquitos )i meet a very nice young women…we say each other every day, and became very close..she was very easy to fall in love with. every time i would get close to her,my heart would skip a beat….i always let her have her own space, but she was always on my mind,,,one day she came to me and ask why i never tryed to make a move on her,,,i smiled and told her i was to (old) for her!!!! she lafted and said ( i my country old means good strong life..)… her family loves me, i felt like i was reborn!!!wow i beleave i truly was.!!..we are now married and have a one and a half year old boy….he and she are the only thing i think off, she filled a hole that was so emty for so long..i can only beleave, that GOD kissed me. oh one thing more…….my wife is 30 and shes always has good things to say………….jack

  337. Eamonn July 11, 2010 at 7:10 pm #

    Well it depends Tammy – if you are 12 then NO it is not OK – if you are over 21 then it is fine. I am 38 and would never go with a woman over 25 – and I get plenty of sex and I have never had a problem with the age gap.

  338. Eamonn July 11, 2010 at 7:05 pm #

    Moani – you can’t be serious – that is not an age gap! We are talking about 15 – 20 year age gaps not 8 and 9! As you are 23, would you date a man of 45?

  339. Eamonn Evans July 11, 2010 at 7:01 pm #

    Well – I am 38 years old and my girlfriend is …. (wait for it)….. 17! So there!

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  341. Allan July 10, 2010 at 5:11 am #

    There’s no doubt that this topic is controversial. Just look at all the comments it has generated. This page alone has jumped to a page rank of six. The studies cited are interesting and the topics covered are wide ranging.

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  343. trust.myheartandsoul July 6, 2010 at 8:21 am #

    @Gary: Cool down! Though I very much agree with you, I guess everyone has their right to have their own views…
    @Carl: You are really, really right! primal instincts runs in all of us!
    Hope this article doesn’t offends anyone… I find it great!

  344. gary July 2, 2010 at 8:05 pm #

    y does that piss you off charles? are you jealous? does it bother you that love actually exist? my wife is 26 years my jr! she came on too me! and there has never been any chasing young women with me! i actually take care of my self and work out every day of my life as far back as i can remember, wich is a very long time! age doesnt matter with mature people! jealousy resides in insecure people! i bet your right hand gets a work out!!! get out sometimes and get a life and be yourself and maybe you will find that special one! being pissed and sarcastic will do nothing except gives you caluses!!!

  345. Detoxify the body June 30, 2010 at 6:03 pm #

    Is that a new excuse to leave your wife? The next time someone cheat on their wife, they can say it’s for good of mankind and direct their wife to this article.

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  348. Ageless Love June 30, 2010 at 1:18 am #

    “Why are people so caught up with age differences in the relationships of other people?” It’s a huge question for me, as I have always been attracted to older men. Since a young age I have gravitated to much older men, naturally, and have been in some very beautiful relationships with men nearly twice my age. I am 25 yrs old- and more important to me than age is the ability to communicate and emotional availability and maturity which I find more frequently with people of experience. Beyond the physical attraction, there is a spiritual attraction as well. (not sure if you science-minded people can relate to that, hopefully so) I am intrigued by these findings. To all who are opposed to such age differences- maybe we should start worrying about something more serious like the divorce rates of younger married couples and their impacts on society.

  349. wildlands1 June 29, 2010 at 8:27 pm #

    u think any of Mohammeds wives were his age? i bet all were way younger! my fiance is 31 years younger than me. we’ve known each other 20 years, been engaged for 1 1/2. my x was 24 years younger than me and it lasted 8 fun hot years. HornDogs Unite! viva las chicas extranheras!

  350. Najib June 29, 2010 at 12:43 pm #

    Evolutionary theory says that individuals should die of old age when their reproductive lives are complete, generally by age 55 in humans, according to demographer Cedric Puleston, a doctoral candidate in biological sciences at Stanford. But the fatherhood of a small number of older men is enough to postpone the date with death because natural selection fights life-shortening mutations until the species is finished reproducing.

    “Rod Stewart and David Letterman having babies in their 50s and 60s provide no benefit for their personal survival, but the pattern [of reproducing at a later age] has an effect on the population as a whole,” Puleston said. “It’s advantageous to the species if these people stick around. By increasing the survival of men you have a spillover effect on women because men pass their genes to children of both sexes.”

    “Why Men Matter: Mating Patterns Drive Evolution of Human Lifespan,” was published Aug. 29 in the online journal Public Library of Science ONE. Shripad Tuljapurkar, the Morrison Professor of Population Studies at Stanford; Puleston; and Michael Gurven, an assistant professor of anthropology at UCSB, co-authored the study in an effort to understand why humans don’t die when female reproduction ends.

  351. Carl June 25, 2010 at 3:22 pm #

    I think the article is interesting. It’s a fact of our evolutionary programming that men (old and young) like younger women (because they are healthy enough to survive child birth). Women (young and old) like men that can provided safety and provide for her and a baby. If a man lives to be older, that in some way shows the female he has the ability to survive. He must know something that younger men may not know, that knowledge will help her and her baby also survive. We can not, even in our modern civilized world, go against our evolutionary programming. In todays world the values we inherit from our culture tell us older men and younger women mating is bad or immoral. Modern culture has only been around a few thousand years. Mankind has been surviving and evolving for hundreds of thousands of years.

    Nena – you are absolutly wrong !! People are driven by their primal instincts. We have no choice.

    Why are women attracted to confident men? Primal instincts for better survival.

    Why are women attracted to men who are rock stars and athletes? Primal instincts for better genes. If other women want him he must have good genes.

    Why are women attracted to men you have a life, have a plan, and are in control? Primal Instincts.

    Why when women start dating man they like do they snoop through his house, cell phone, and car looking for clues about him and his relation with other women? Primal instinct drives her to do this to determine if he will be there for her in the future (like after they have a baby).

  352. charles Potty June 25, 2010 at 5:56 am #

    Disguisting when old pigs chase the young women if you ask me. seeing some 40 year old go hand in hand with a 18 year old girl just pisses me of.

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  354. Sivle June 23, 2010 at 5:34 pm #

    So, we will change the old saying that ” Old cows eat young grass” to ” Young vines climb old trees”. Interesting topic indeed.

  355. Elizabeth June 22, 2010 at 10:20 pm #

    I think it’s an unfortunate choice of words to write that a man is “chasing” a younger woman as if they were two squirrels. In the discussion of evolutionary theory, it is important to be sensitive to stereotypes that portray inaccurate analyses of otherwise excellent research subjects who would be happy and willing to contribute to this meaningful work and show just how healthy they are, in fact, to the world!

  356. tuning June 22, 2010 at 9:01 am #

    It’s a very surprising theory, Now I can understand why whith my 80 years old I loves young women

  357. Tammy June 20, 2010 at 8:35 am #

    Dating a guy 21 years older than I ok??

  358. Ron June 20, 2010 at 2:16 am #

    “Many rich men aren’t that smart, just motivated and egotistical. ”

    It’s that motivated “I can do it better than anyone else” ego that got us beyond the cave and into the Industrial Revolution and all that came after it, without which none of us would be commenting on this blog, and the drugs which I need every day wouldn’t have been invented.

  359. Chinese astrology June 20, 2010 at 1:43 am #

    Looking at things from a global, scientific standpoint can give theory and meaning to what’s going on. It’s important to understand why things are happening so that we can work with the natural ways of the world, and not break ourselves trying to work against them. I’ve found, though, that on a more individual level, there is actual chemistry between two people who choose to have an intimate relationship.

  360. Queen of the Rant June 18, 2010 at 2:46 pm #

    This issue recently came up on my blog too, some useful feedback too. The consensus was that it makes them feel young.

  361. mary June 18, 2010 at 2:43 pm #

    This article is good evidence for why so many rich men have stupid children. Many rich men aren’t that smart, just motivated and egotistical. Egotistical and Narsisitic personality traits are symptoms of mental health flaws that should not be passed on to future generations. The only way for civilization to evolve is to stop excessive reproduction and to base mate selection on more than physical looks.

  362. belote en ligne June 17, 2010 at 3:43 pm #

    Well it is if we catch them….hope!

  363. nena June 15, 2010 at 1:15 pm #

    I think people are taking this scientific research hugely out of context. First of all, most people are not just driven by their primal instincts – we all live in a modern world and city life, etc get in the way of being “primal”. Secondly, many of the so-called “older men” out there are just gross – who cares if they have money? They’re still mostly gross. There are some older men that look after themselves and actually look good, but being in a long-term, happy and satisfying relationship has nothing to do with how old a guy is or how young a woman is – it has to do with how compatible and committed you are to one another.

    At a first glance, it may seem to be a good symbiosis: financially stable older man with young & attractive woman who “needs” someone to look after her. But things can change… the younger woman might get bored, might realize that money isn’t going to make her happy. The man might also be bored of having to constantly tend to and look after someone younger. Fast forward to 10 years after the relationship ensued and the picture may be significantly different.

    Myself, I refuse to date anyone who falls into any of the above. Just looking for a nice guy who doesn’t fall into the trappings of materialism – not to say that he doesn’t have a professional and decent career, but just that it’s not something that makes him arrogant or a player. A good heart is where it’s at!


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  365. Dan Ibekwe June 14, 2010 at 5:09 pm #

    “Old men chasing young women: A good thing”

    Well it is if we catch them… :-)

    (Otherwise it’s just embarrasing).

  366. Lisa June 14, 2010 at 11:40 am #

    Moani is 100% correct. She literally stole the words right out of my mouth. As for Martin, I believe you are thinking about teenage girls having intercourse with older men? No, no – this article is referring to 20-30 year old women actually marrying men 40-50 and choosing to have a relationship with them. Not 15 year old girls being forced to married 30+ year old men. That’s insanity.

  367. David Gahan June 14, 2010 at 9:44 am #

    I think older men should get over their bigotry about older women.

  368. Martin June 14, 2010 at 9:41 am #

    Away with the old law. The Government is expected to announce plans to criminalise old men who have sexual intercourse with young women.

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  370. anonymous June 13, 2010 at 11:34 am #

    Hey, if you take care of yourself and you are lucky, you can get another young one when this present wife reaches menopause. By then you will be only 70.

    This article and all the comments are proof that romantic love is a joke. We need to admit that we are only animals with the desire to reproduce no different than the common rat or roach. The only way to evolve as humans, we need to stop excessive reproduction and base it on more than physical looks. I used to wonder why so many rich men had stupid children.

  371. Nicole Hogan June 13, 2010 at 12:42 am #

    It’s becoming more of a trend now! If thing continue going this way, what will be left for young boys, all the women are going to go to old ones! Perhaps, young boy will forcefully have to go after the old ladies!

  372. Moani June 12, 2010 at 2:09 pm #

    I absolutely agree with this blog. I am a 23 year old woman and I love dating older men. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me and my ex-husband was 9 years older than me. I don’t know how this happened. I think I had gotten tired of hearing the age-ol’ line, “I’m too young for a committment,” from the younger bunch. And I found that older men have come to the realization that they are, well, getting old. When a pretty, young woman comes into the picture, they’re dedicated and loving. Rather a young man will have the idea that there is no rush to settle; there are much more fishies to fish for.

  373. julie June 12, 2010 at 10:33 am #

    I only date older men when I want to go shopping. They are at least good for that. Honestly, I’m not really interested in marrying them or even being seen with them in public. I want a hot young guy my own age, who wouldn’t? It’s just a fact. Older men are nice & can usually afford to take me to nice places and treat me to special gifts and things that I want.
    I think they are aware of this trade off. They get to spend time with someone half there age and they enjoy this more than anything. It gives them some kind of ego boost. The sad thing is, it is a false boost, they should chase women there own age or closer to it if they want a serious partner.

  374. Queen of the rant June 11, 2010 at 10:17 am #

    I find it kind of weird, anything over twenty years difference. It just does not work, you are different people at different points in your lives!

  375. caligirl June 10, 2010 at 10:45 pm #

    I personally prefer older men myself too, I am 31yr old female and have dated 40 year old and 52 year old, and sex has never been as good, i mean older men have more experience, are more mature, and are more secure in life. I am definitely not a gold digger, but I like to be taken care of. as a matter of fact im single right now so if any older men wanna chat email me santabarbaragirl4god@gmail.com

  376. caligirl June 10, 2010 at 10:41 pm #

    I personally prefer older men myself too, I am 31yr old female and have dated 40 year old and 52 year old, and sex has never been as good, i mean older men have more experience, are more mature, and are more secure in life. I am definitely not a gold digger, but I like to be taken care of. as a matter of fact im single right now so if any older men wanna chat email me santabarbaragirl4god@gmail.com

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  378. Mary June 9, 2010 at 10:41 pm #

    Well, l’m 35 single. And l do like old men, especially if they are in their 40’s. Some are very interesting, some are patiens, good listeners, loving, caring, gentle, sweet, tender and have a interesting topics to talk., because of their experience. I never get bored with an old men, l really prefer old men :) any old cute men here? ;-)

  379. anon June 9, 2010 at 12:22 pm #

    How do you know he’s not just exploiting you? I am attracted to older men, but I’ve found that, sadly, most older men are more interested in just using younger women. A man needs to respect a woman as an equal to really love her, and if the age difference is too great, they will always have that to hold over you.

    I’m getting divorced from a man 12 years my senior right now; I wish I had been a little more realistic.

  380. trish June 8, 2010 at 10:35 pm #

    Yea we all like them younger, i was 25 yrs old once myself and yes it depends on the age yes it is definetely gold digging. If you are that age now of course you will not say it is, been there did that. Now could someone tell me when is the age for women to not want want sex. Lets get the women some younger too. Sounds good to all of us. lets just get along. Have a good day all lol

  381. marc blouin June 8, 2010 at 12:47 pm #

    yr right

  382. prediction market June 7, 2010 at 11:50 am #

    i want to be in this situation when I will have 60-70 years. Important is to have some money… the girl will come naturally prediction market

  383. peanut June 7, 2010 at 6:58 am #

    You’re only getting older…and there is nothing sadder than a saggy middle aged woman not yet able to deal with her youth gone. She was nothing but a pretty face…and capitalized on it…..but now has nothing.

    Your time is coming. Enjoy it while you can. Age is patient, and it will not waiver as it washes over you.

  384. vick June 7, 2010 at 3:53 am #

    hi, I am a 29 year old male. I am very handsome and good looking, with slimathletic body and log staright hair. I must agree I had not made a proper relationship sex with a woman yet. Bcz I was very shy in my teens and very reserved in my twenties. I only had a brief one week affair with a lady who was 47 years old when I was in Bradford, u.k. That was my only sexual experience of life. I left her after I realized that she was exploiting me.
    Is it normal, I do not know what to say but my sexual life is so empty I can not explain. Now working as a Mechanical engineer, I still am very shay and reserved. Can any lady or person help me getting out of my shyness please.
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  386. Susie June 6, 2010 at 12:04 am #

    To : Haley
    About your post:
    “June 4, 2010 at 2:03 am
    I am 25/F and would love to meet an older man. So many of my friends place harsh judgments and so many misunderstand that for gold-digging. ”

    There you go. You are admitting that your friends are against it. LOTS of us girls are against it! It’s gross, the dirty old men are gross. SO – you are into old guys, you are not the majority – you are either a gold-digger or have a dad issue – whatever – YOU should keep those old guys busy then, because the rest of us girls do NOT want them!

  387. the one June 5, 2010 at 9:31 pm #

    At 40 I started going out with a 23 year old woman. She made it clear to me my age was no problem to her. I had to pinch myself that it was really happening. The thing was – yes I found her extremely attractive – but it was her that did the choosing. It has been amazing in every sense!

  388. No Offense But... June 5, 2010 at 1:14 pm #

    Honestly, and I’ve been wanting to say this since I was a teen. You old geezers are just plain ugly to look at. A few professional accomplishments (which most anyone can accomplish) does NOT make you cute, and does “not” compensate for looks.Stop allowing your looks to go downhill just because you’ve earned a couple of bucks. And stop blowing yourselves up as “good in bed” to younger girls when you are just average at best ( young girls don’t have enough sexual experience to be able to compare you or know if it’s good or not).

  389. irfan June 4, 2010 at 11:35 pm #

    just do like some think about it

  390. cydney June 4, 2010 at 6:24 pm #

    i am 21yrs old whos having sex with an older man whos 36 yr old…its amazing…he makes me feel like a woman. Ive always been attracted to older men so i agree=)

  391. Rebecca June 4, 2010 at 5:28 am #

    If this is true then why as a younger woman have I never been attracted to older men? Articles like this, reaffirm in my mind that many evolutionary scientists disregard female physical attraction as something irrelevant. People like who they like whatever the age, but my instinct tells me to go for guys my own age or younger. Apparently as women, were are attracted to power, wealth and security, so does that mean as a woman there is something wrong with me for being attracted to men with handsome faces and six packs? It is perhaps the ‘sexy son’ theory which makes more sense, where women who choose physically attractive mates are more likely to give birth to attractive children who will have a higher possibility of attracting mates, thereby continuing her genes. The human instinct has been around a lot longer than wealthy men and their millions. Physically fit men over time have been substituted for the size of a wallet and nice cars, but these things mean nothing when it comes to the gene pool. Humans are animals, and the female of the species is attracted to physically strong males. Whatever the theory, I personally find power and wealth a turn off. For me security comes from knowing you got the one that you wanted, to want you back. I want to fancy the man I end up with. If women throughout history have typically gone for older males that can look after them, it’s because they did not have much choice. Now many women don’t need to be looked after, therefore they are more choosy about the youth and physical attributes of their mates. However, it is still the easier option for women to choose to be looked after in society, a notion that had been ingrained in the minds of people for a long time. The idea of picking a man simply to look after me is really depressing. Also, just because a man is older does not make him wiser, just means he’s been around longer. This is not to say a young woman should not go out with an older man, but more that a woman should not assume that he’ll be nice because of this. Just as an older woman going out with a younger man should not assume he’s just out for fun. Also, when a man divorces his wife of many years, and usually remarries a younger woman, I would hate to be that younger woman, knowing I was part of his predictable and cliched mid- life crisis. People should be together because they are in love and equally fancy each other, whatever their age.

  392. Haley June 4, 2010 at 2:03 am #

    FINALLY A GOOD ARTICLE! I am 25/F and would love to meet an older man. So many of my friends place harsh judgments and so many misunderstand that for gold-digging. Older men are sexier, wiser, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I just wish they would actually hit on younger women. Don’t be afraid there are attractive young females who wish to be with an older man. I’m 25, and the last man I dated was 44! It was the hottest I have ever had.

  393. Jack Black June 3, 2010 at 9:10 am #

    Men of higher status usually has the financial means to get a younger women and therefore proof of reproductive capability at an older age. This does not mean other men do not have the capability, they just have less of a chance to proof in statistic.

  394. SOfia June 3, 2010 at 7:00 am #

    Do some men look older than before when they lost too much weight.for some men loosing weight make them look younger for some men make them older. why is the result not the same?loosing some weight is good for health but the out come is not the same to every one.

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  397. elena May 30, 2010 at 12:11 pm #

    why men keep try try try…………..many different techinque and I dea to get the women can’t have. can’t they give up?They can lie to get a kiss but to get SEX is not so easy to fool a women with their lie and different attitude that they show. Sometimes they act like a nice men and sometimes they act like jerk. Most time they thought like they owe the girl and want to have control over the woman.what do you do with these kinds of men? YOU CAN’T FORCE SOME ONE TO LOVE YOU.The heart can tell who to love or not so forcing is not going to work. You can love someone but if they don’t love you back it is not their probem to fix or to change their heart. It is their heart and mind that can tell them who to love, not B/E someone want or tell who to love.when you love someone you don’t care about any thing which is religion, money, ethinc even age or family. If you don’tmatch thse things, doesn’t stop you from loving some one and in the other hand because you are ALIKE these things doesn’t mean you will love someone.

  398. Elisa May 29, 2010 at 11:37 pm #

    In love theres no age requirement as long as they love each other.

  399. penis extender May 29, 2010 at 1:03 am #

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  400. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 11:04 pm #

    growing old together ?? how many same age marriages make it past a few years these days ??

    what are you thinking. there are only a few that can say they grow old together. if a man is much older than his woman at least she will be loved for the time he has left instead of just a run of the mill boring same age relationship that most of the time doesnt last but few years.

    if it is soooooo natural for couples to be the same age then why is the failure rate soooo high ??

    I bet no one can back that one !! because it is way too high of failure to make any tangible cases for it to be the norm.

  401. masini February 17, 2010 at 9:13 am #

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  402. Anonymous October 20, 2009 at 9:57 pm #

    Here in Brazil, about 40% of marriages, envolve a woman, and a more than 5 year older man. It’s a substancial number.

    It’s a totally natural thing. Men are capable to reproduce themselves until die, women, until 40. Instinctively, men start to feel attracted to younger and fertile women.

    Being attracted to a 22 year old girl, ISN’T pedophilie! Pedophilie is applied to C-H-I-L-D-R-E-N, girls without secondary sex characteristic developed. Men of all ages, in this world, are attracted to 22 year old girls. So do I (I’m 25, right now, but I’ll certainly feel the same, 25 years from now).

  403. Anonymous May 6, 2009 at 8:17 am #

    I am really laughing. That article of yours really hits the nail on the head. The thought of some old wrinkly eating a young girl’s you know what is enough to cause me to open a vein. Young women are sometimes so full of themselves and how gorgeous they are it is easy for an older man to flatter them so he can get his rocks off. Does he really think the ooohs and arrrhs are for real. Ever heard of faking your orgasm. I do it all the time with my old fella, it keeps him quiet and I get a bit of peace. Thing is, she isn’t all stupid, he’ll be long dead and she’ll get all the money to spend on some hunky toyboy. Ha Ha ha etc

  404. Anonymous August 26, 2009 at 5:24 pm #

    I’m a 48 yr old divorced male. I had until recently, never dated a woman more than a couple years younger than me. I recently met a charming, witty and very mature much younger woman. It’s not about ego and I’ve never been the kind of guy that goes out to try to pick up women, younger or older. But I have found somewhat of a kindred spirit. Who cares how old she is? Age matters for wines and cheeses. So stop whining. Perhaps those of you who are might realize that your attitude is the reason that I seem “old” to you.

  405. Anonymous June 26, 2008 at 12:26 pm #

    Our culture is hinged around the control of women’s sexuality and the maintenance of secure lines of paternity…

    …our biology is not.

    Our culture says women’s sexuality–especially virginity and sexual restraint–is a commondity for her to trade for financial support. It also says that a woman who sleeps with more than one man–i.e. picks the wrong man the first time or is without a man–is “damaged goods” and therefore warranting scorn and hardship.

    …our biology does not.

    If a woman is completely restricted to one man–or is tied to the ideal of one man for life–and paternitysupport is a major issue, then a woman without a man should be pushed toward the man with the highest lifetime potential of earnings: the younger man.

    Older women are already “damaged goods” and often already have access to resources, so it is more permissable for them to pursue younger men because there is no such onus on men’s sexuality as a “damageable commodity”.

    However, this cultural concept was built when women were restricted from being able to finance themselves any other way than marriage/sex for resources. It’s also tied tightly into the control of women against their biological drives and against their will.

    So, whether you buy into the cultural concept of women as a sexual commodity or you own your own sexuality is entirely up to you…

    …but you should know that’s what you’re playing into when you make such broad sweeping warnings.

    Also, considering the stories I keep hearing from female friends and the incidences of cheating plus studies on women’s attractions…

    …you’re probably fighting an uphill battle chasing young guys.

    I wish you luck with that, I really do.

  406. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 10:57 pm #

    you think you will have nothing but success with a guy your age. did you know that failure rate for same age relationships is two thirds or higher.

    good luvk with the guy your age that will do the snooping, an older more mature guy will be there for his lady when the young guy your age wants something esle later on. you cannot be this naive !!

    only a few guys under 40 are loyal and real , but yet almost every young lady thinks she will find one !!

    its ridiculous

  407. hogslog February 17, 2010 at 9:10 am #

    This is an immensely interesting study – but it should be noted that it isn’t the act of ‘chasing’ younger women that contributes to human longevity. It’s the fathering of children – which doesn’t necessarily entail any chasing whatsoever. But even that is questionable. As a previous commenter has stated – statistics show that children born to fathers in their fifties and sixties tend to have a higher frequency of autism and other developmental disorders.
    I think this post title was chosen for ‘sensationalist’ reasons.

  408. Anonymous October 22, 2009 at 4:48 pm #

    Good topic and good… the THINg is the only people interested in reading this/coming across this discussion which claims its”straight from the source” are the “white male landowning” class.
    Its sucks to admit overtime we compare ourselves to other lifestyles, its always to a higher class, a higher authority, something to bring our hopes up. What about a laborer. The society is already so diverse overpopulated and extremely unorganized! Everyone works. There is no comparison high class to low class. Never. How about our City Slums. Sitting on the porch waiting for that welfare check to show up just drinking and smoking it away.
    You think they will be on their computers thinking about the World, our society, our lifetime. Gang-bangers and terrified women is it. Not ready to have a baby? Who ever is!?!?
    God forbid you fuck your own life up. Women should be sterilized, creating an ultimate anti-babyboom. Start over. For once again

    I thought about it for a long time, before I even committed. It’s like one of those things that just never makes sense. I’m not telling… you’ll just have to stick around to the end.

  409. Anonymous April 30, 2009 at 10:50 am #

    Older men can be just as much of an A HOLE as a young men. A lot of people confuse immaturity with personality. an A Hole is an A Hole until hes dead.

  410. Anonymous July 11, 2009 at 1:27 pm #

    Older men like to be love to, they are very hubble when you are good to them and want to take care of them, not for just what they may have. I think a woman should have as much as a older guy and i think you should keep house cook and keep them clean, and love them or get out

  411. Anonymous June 25, 2008 at 8:18 am #

    You mention many times that you yourself date younger men. Why is it ok for you to date someone younger than you, but not ok for men to date a younger woman? Men are more imature than woman, so if you are in your 40’s dateing someone in there…30’s, he is more like his 20’s. Where it’s backwards for woman. If a man is dateing a woman in her 20’s, most cases, she acts more in her 30’s.
    There is nothing wrong with a man wanting to date a younger woman, when you stop and take a look at the older woman who post on here. Why would any man, of any age, want a woman who is so judgmental of others?
    And as far as the whole older man and kids thing you said….I have two children with my husband who is over 30 years older than myself. He is VERY active with the children and very loveing and stays calm when they get out of hand. So that comment you made is WAY OFF!

  412. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 10:53 pm #

    a 20 year old guy is not very old. most guys dont mature till about 38 give or take. this 20 year would have broken a girls heart his own age. he is still a kid himself barely out of school

    come on now you should realize that

  413. Anonymous February 16, 2010 at 9:06 pm #

    I am 20 yrs old and my boyfriend is 48 yrs old we love eachother with all our hearts and he is sweet and nice is a hard worker and has a 2 year old boy who i love also

  414. Anonymous October 19, 2009 at 7:03 pm #

    well i have to say that these situations happen, yet seldomly. But, i had a short relationship with a 17 year old french girl when i was 26. It lasted 2 weeks, cause she had to return to france but, tjis girl was so mature and wise that everything fitted almost perfectly. Well she loved another back in france. But it was fun while it lasted.

  415. Anonymous April 29, 2009 at 11:26 am #

    wow.. you sound angry….did something happen to you to make you this way?? just wanted to let you know… i was married to a young man my age and we were better off (money wise) than i am now. im in love with a much older man and he is more like me than anyone ive ever been with. he doesnt have to have money or property for a young women to be happy with an older men. i dont want a man my age unless he has the qualities of an older man. and not all older men are “perves”. he is the sweetest man and so gentle. and im not crazy or abused or a gold digger.. you seem to be a semi smart person so you should know life is about your own perception. if it works for you then do it…if not then dont…and if you think its a mistake then learn form it. the best way to learn is to jump.. mind, body, and soul!!!!

  416. Anonymous July 11, 2009 at 1:15 pm #

    I would like to talk to older man between 70 an 80 good health and be able to travel with no baggie I like one that was widow like me and would like someone to love him, again and be happy I want a white man only with lots of love to His God and then to his one thats taking care of him I want him to be neat and clean treat me like a lady because that what i am

  417. Anonymous June 25, 2008 at 7:40 am #

    You point out (twice!) how young and attractive looking you are. Guess even you think that’s a plus. But older guys shouldn’t…. Huh. Interesting approach. Sounds like you’ll stay young, attractive and single by your own choosing, or at least until you choose to stop judging others. Also, spare readers your flawed analysis that stomach churning (to you) means scientific fact.

  418. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 10:02 pm #

    what ever who you are you are right every thing you said on the post.

  419. Anonymous February 16, 2010 at 7:47 pm #

    You’re right, age is but a number. My girlfriend is 22 years younger than me and we get along just fine….especially in bed. I Just love it when some of those older hypocritical cougars stare at us when we walk into a supermarket or other social venues. When I observe this, I stop and give her a long french kiss just to see the reaction. LOL. Most will have a sneer on their face to which I just smile very wickedly.

  420. Anonymous October 15, 2009 at 9:46 pm #

    “A former school principal has told a judge he thought he was in love with a 16-year-old student he had sex with at his home on five occasions. Frank Bailey, 44, the ex-principal of a Christian school at Grafton in northern NSW, has pleaded guilty to five counts of sexual intercourse with a 16-year-old under his care over four days in 2007.”

    Now, that’s a pedophile!

  421. Anonymous April 28, 2009 at 9:26 am #

    Haha not a mention in thast article that the people most likely to have older man oyunger womne couples eg polygyny or egenocartry whatever are usually an older male forcing a younger woman to be with him. No mention that in socities with polgyny the women doesnt even have a chopice of who she mates with. Pisses me off how they pout this hapopy westerrn worlkd spin on it. Like half those woman have a chopice! Most cultues dnt ,marry for love, and thanks to men like that, most cultures the woman and osmetimes the man are forced to marry osmeone they didnt pick themsekves

  422. Anonymous July 11, 2009 at 5:53 am #

    IT may be the look is for security $$$$$ and for no other reason. a poor male doesent stand a chance aginst a rich one by 90 precent plus aginst unless the woman can see other more trates she likes.

    If what one offers is not eartly welth but supernatural ones, powers to survive many things, heal sickness and other things and empathic to a physic level. Put the scales on the balance.. test her as Jobe or Aberham and real love will pop up like a cork to the top of the water. Fath, beliefe in God tells true love is only found by luck or the tests of great pain.

    IF you could see through her eyes, hear through her ears, smell through her nose and even feal through her body to even raise a hand up and wiggle its fingers befor the face, it would give you the truth.. SEX for men is internal sex for females is external; its all over their body and thay need being praised often and given total body rub touches to feal ok.

    THE ART OF TOUCH is little known by yonger men and my come easier to one older; if used right even a sex dud can please a woman enough to keep her but it requires work of a kind not found in any job discription. It can make up for a lack of some thing most men have but think can be learned by those who don’t believe thay have it.

    the xxxx or what ever its called may exist or it may not that makes a man a good lover and if it does exist.. pitty the poor man who doesen’t have it.. He may need to look to God or the after life for it..

  423. Anonymous June 24, 2008 at 11:57 am #

    I work in the health care industry. Older men’s sperm is more likely to result in birth defects and other issues for the progeny. Also, there are findings that older fathers are less patient and caring, and obviously less energetic with their children.

    As an attractive female I get very tired of the propaganda out there encouraging old men to pursue and inseminate young women. It is SICK. I’m sorry, guys, but most of the time when you see a young woman with an old man it looks like he is her father and there is something stomache turning about it. Why would most of us have this reflexive reaction if it wasn’t unhealthy and biologically upside down?

    A handful of high status males copulating with younger females is a whole different discussion and we would have to get into sociology. The same happens for high status females, by the way. Power and resources make anyone more appealing.

    Maybe some of you don’t know that an older woman has better chance at healthier progeny by copulating with a younger man than one her age??? That is another biological fact!

    On the psychological end, I have experienced and witnessed an interesting phenomena: SOME men get very irate and insulting towards women who express no interest in older men and prefer younger men. DOUBLE STANDARD!!! Rather hilarious, I would say.

    By the way, where are all the young men who see their female counterparts being chased by men who could be their fathers and uncles?? I don’t think they like this either!!

    I’m not against age differences but there is too much propaganda like this research above trying to justify old guys chasing down women who could be their daughters and nieces, and guess what??? They are mostly aging “baby boomers”.

    To all the young women out there – thinking of or involved with older, divorced, or married men – THINK AGAIN!!!! The people who posted here about how these men dropped the woman they once loved, and how they are using you are right on. Not to say there aren’t instances of true love. But not with the married men, ladies – grow up and get a real man not a married coward.

    A person who truly loves someone – it just happens. But if a man professes to “prefer” younger women then LOOK OUT. LOOK OUT. LOOK OUT. They have an agenda that is not considerate of the women.

    Personally, I have been chased by older men since I was in my twenties up until today (early forties – I look very young and attractive) and it is annoying and irritating. The men I am looking to are younger, more vibrant, more fun and adventurous and they really like me and we get along very well. The irony is the older men chasing ME think I am in my twenties and thirties!!!! That’s part of why they choose me. If they only saw my age and not my picture they would not choose me. Tell me I’m wrong!!

    Young women – look for love but not for age but stay away from the agendas of these OLD guys!!! They are very selfish!! If you don’t believe me you’ll find out soon enough.

  424. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 9:44 pm #

    I wish I can find a women who loves me for who I am before I turn 56 in 10 days and time is runing for me and 4 years left to be 60.

    Am I too old to date younger women at 56 or am I a moron?
    please give me your response.

  425. Anonymous February 16, 2010 at 6:57 pm #

    ha exactly.

    this is the most ridiculous article I have ever seen in all my life. most studies indicate that children of older men are much more likely to have developmental disorders and autism. yeah sounds real biologically advantageous. got to love idiots who try to misconstrue biology and evolution to suit the wishes of old men.

  426. Anonymous October 15, 2009 at 12:18 am #

    My husband is 49 years old and he is too scared to look at 22 year old women. He knows I’ll get jealous.

  427. Anonymous April 28, 2009 at 3:50 am #

    No modern women marries for love. Would you marry a homeless penniless man that has a good heart. No way, so don’t judge the young girl. Women try to hide their love for money act, by pointing their finger at other girls. It’s like the criminal who calls someone else a criminal.
    Even if you get the most loyal female on the earth (a female dog), if you don’t feed it, it will go to another. Drop the holier than thou act.

  428. Anonymous June 24, 2008 at 7:42 am #

    I just wanna say I love this article because it offers a different perspective on older men/younger women relationships. I’m 21 years old and currently involved with a 40 year old man. It’s very nice to see that others have also experienced this.

    If you wanna know more about me, you can read my blog at http://aprilmei.blogspot.com

  429. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 8:37 pm #

    …another moron….

  430. Anonymous February 16, 2010 at 3:10 pm #

    girl, your man is nothing but a child molester,
    when you turn 18 he will find him a new girl because
    you will be too old for him.

  431. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 9:03 pm #

    This young lady apparently has some difficult problems, along with misunderstandings about life.

  432. Anonymous April 27, 2009 at 9:11 pm #

    The abused? Is that my label? Excuse me, I may have been abused in my life but that is certainly not what defines me and it doesnt effect my life anymore than I let it. Im 21, my boyfriend is 49. Why him? Because what the hell is the point in dating boys? Im sick of playing mommy to them. You want to talk disgusting? Imagine screwing your kid. Relationships are meant to be a partnership, a compromise, and frankly men my age just arent ready for that.
    So Im guessing your some crazy cat lady in your mid 40’s who cant get a man. And you have attributed that to older men going after younger women when really… its just because your insane.

  433. Anonymous July 10, 2009 at 7:04 pm #

    Well said!

  434. Anonymous June 22, 2008 at 6:43 am #

    Hi ,

    I dont know who are you but i like the way you accept your relation shif darely..what a daring nice attitude ..ummmmmmmmmma all the best for your future. keep in touch


  435. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 8:35 pm #

    I bet you have a lower IQ. I would say lower than the standard scale for the population. By what you have written, I see no measure of intelligence or social maturity. You have a weak thought process and very foolish. I would guess you have an IQ of 82 which makes you a moron…sorry…you are what you are!

  436. OldSchoolGamer12 February 16, 2010 at 11:44 am #

    I sincerely agree with this article and there is a similar one posted here Maple Story Hacks.

  437. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 7:31 pm #

    Yep, probably some old fat hag who is jealous. A lady who is 22 is an adult lady, and obviously more mature than the lady who posted her comment about this man being a pedaphile.

  438. Anonymous April 27, 2009 at 6:49 pm #

    If it is your evolutionary imperative to chase younger women for their youth and fertility, then it is women’s evolutionary imperative to ditch your Gremlin driving butt for the stud with the Ferrari. Men want someone to have their babies, and women want someone who is capable of taking care of them. So don’t whine when the guy in the Enzo gets “your” woman. (Yeah, we will hear about how women don’t want “nice guys” and all the assholes get the women…)

    As for those bragging about their things, that 30 year old guy driving the 12 year old car could be the next Bill Gates, and the 50 year old driving the BMW could have missed several payments and have the repo man showing up within days. Just because you have the superficial trappings of success does not mean you can afford the life.

  439. Anonymous July 10, 2009 at 3:45 pm #

    um, hey – I wouldn’t take what anyone here say’s too personally.

  440. Anonymous June 18, 2008 at 8:00 am #

    I am married to an older man, so I am not going to say for you not to be with someone older, however, he is married! Leave him alone. GO get your own man, he is taken, he is also a loser because he is cheating on his wife! Why would you want to be with someone who is known for cheating?! He isn’t going to leave his wife for you, that’s just reality!
    GET A LIFE! Stay away from married men!

  441. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 9:27 am #

    A women can show any thing but it doesn’t mean any thing to her but to the man it may make him feel that she likes him. She can email, call, or talk to you or you can see something she does that will make you wonder she might like you but any thing she does is nothing what you thought and it doesn’t mean she will sleep with you too.

    specially if a man is too old she might like him before as a friend but she might not like him as more than a friend.

  442. Anonymous February 16, 2010 at 12:41 am #

    it’s really great to see there are a lot of younger girls that date guys much older than them. sometimes you just feel different from others around you, while your friends are out with guys that are slightly older than them, your boyfriend is a huge gap away. but sometimes you get over it with supporting friends and a very charming boyfriend that makes you go crazy over. i feel very lucky that even though my boyfriend is much older, his physical attributes do not give his age away, yet his mentality filled with years of experience and knowledge make him more attractive. He is the person I would completely be willing and happy to say the words ‘I do!’ I hope he knows I love him very much and that no matter what he will always be in my heart.
    xoxo to all the girls in a loving relationship where age is but a number.

  443. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 5:50 pm #

    I don’t know how I came across this internet site but the minute I opened it I noticed all the numbers. 39 and 57, 29 and 53 and so on

    Age ain’t nothing but a number and that number can be changed. It’s not the number that is attached to you that matters in life but what you do everyday. I was once married to a man who claimed to be 7 years older than me. Ten years later I discovered that he was in fact 16 years older than me. I should have known because he definitely was not merging into adulthood when my mom set me up with him. He looked and acted older and I was still a kid.

  444. Anonymous April 25, 2009 at 10:12 pm #

    we all get to decide who we think’s attractive.

    The older guys on here defending their attractiveness and appeal need to concentrate on the women who find them attractive, not on berating the women (and I’m one of them) who emphatically don’t.

    And, yes, right we’ll all get older, too. Duh.

  445. Anonymous May 7, 2009 at 9:07 pm #

    I’m 72, hardly any wrinkles and I can take most of you guys down in less than a second. I will put my physique against most guys 35-40 and come out on top. I run two miles each morning, do a one hour workout each day in spite of experts saying that’s too much. The last time I saw a doctor was in 1999. He was 40, I was 62 and he was in such sad shape. I looked around at the other doctors and decided that these were not the people who are going to tell me how to take care of myself. OK. I may be an exception to most 72 year olds but I had 40 years military and government service in jobs that required good conditioning. I live in Odessa, Ukraine now. If any of you visit, just go to the Irish Bar and ask about Phil. I’ll be happy to show you around and I’ll introduce you to my trainer, former Ukraine Kickboxing Champion.

  446. Anonymous June 12, 2008 at 7:42 pm #

    i am 33 he is 51. never in my life did i think of falling for someone a lot older than me until i met this marvelous man. he is very gentle, and understanding. he knows how to listen and give importance to the minutest things i do. despite our proximity, he calls everyday. we communicate and have never fought. we did argue in the past as to whether to continue with this relationship or not because he is married. one thing tough that bothers me is why, despite his seeming ok relationship with his wife, he would tell me that he is now torn between me and her? i love him so dearly. and i have not regretted that i am now in a relationship with him.

  447. Anonymous May 9, 2010 at 12:04 am #

    The number one thing that i can’t stand is someone putting me in a group without my consent. What do i mean by that? I mean that what i do has no reflection on you and vice versa. A man is not necessarily a loser because he dates a young woman. There is a difference in falling for a young woman , and specifically hunting for a young woman. As far as prince charming, ask yourself is there truly a prince charming on this earth anyway. And just because you would never does not mean i should never. Lastly, and i truly don’t mean to offend you, but your respect is not necessary. I don’t give a damn what you think, and i probably wouldn’t even if i knew you, unless your opinion negatively impacted my chances for the afterlife, promotion, life and longevity of my children, or etc. People and their beliefs about their own self importance is astounding and pathetic!!!

  448. Anonymous February 15, 2010 at 6:40 pm #

    Let me guess… this study was orchestrated and funded by old men.

  449. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 4:06 am #

    why beat her because you cant describe her as the gold digger you want to? tat may mean she cares about him as a person. in 10 more years when you are decrepit and alone you will rethink the above comments. you could date someone a little older once you grow up that is. 35 aint young, so id shut it down and shut it up before all there is left for me to do is run my mouth. im from the usa. whatever idiot who came up with this daddy issue thing needs to dig up there dad and have a conversation with him. a persons dad is not their reason for living. if a young woman dates an old man she wants a dad. if a boy beats a woman, he did not have a dad. if a girl becomes a whore she needs a dad. if you sad and depressed your dad must not have been there. give me a break!!!!!!

  450. Anonymous July 30, 2009 at 6:54 pm #

    Don’t be jealous

  451. Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 1:26 pm #

    The question here is should a younger woman be going otu with an older man. Why the hell not? If they relate, if they’re truly in love, if they’re happy together, it’s their choice! It’s nobody else’s business to tell them otherwise. Who cares if the older man actually looks a lot older? If it’s love, that doesn’t matter. There’s nothing gross about it. If you think there is, then mind your own business and stop being so immature by trying to make people see it YOUR way. We all have different views, and if someone’s is different than yours, so be it.

  452. Anonymous June 6, 2008 at 1:47 am #

    I’m trying to find some answers to my situation.
    My 55 year old husband of 32 years (two children 23 & 21 left home) took a 40 year old lover while still living with me, a year after our kids left home. Consequently our family lives are shattered.
    We’d been a loving couple and had had the usual married ups and downs, but always supported each other through these times. He has now had a breakdown, I’ve looked after him and as soon as he gets well, he’s back with her.
    This behaviour is not only destroying my mental health and self esteem, but also he is distraught at the prospect of my saying “Enough! I can’t take any more”. Despite all the damage this affair has caused, I still love (as in care for) this man. Is this what is called a co-dependent relationship? Can anyone advise me whether to sever my ties with him and try to build another type of life, or should I keep contact? How long does it take for the pain to ease?

  453. Anonymous May 8, 2010 at 8:53 pm #

    lol….some ppl sound so ignorant,almost to the point of absurdity ….if an older man wants to mate or date a younger woman it their business.. its been proven to the point of conclusiveness..MEN DON’T GO THROUGH MENOPAUSE.. WOMEN DO,…IS THAT SIMPLE ENOUGH FOR YOU???..(SORRY BOUT THE BIG WORDS..)ALL 15 OF EM..LOL

  454. Anonymous February 15, 2010 at 4:05 pm #

    why a man who is married and has kids wants to go out with another woman on in valentine day instead of stay with his wife. I think to refuse with an excuse not to go out with him might be a good idea for him and for his wife on in valetine day even though he prefer to be with you on that day. What is he thinking. does he think the other woman maight like him some day with spending time with other woman instead of his wife and spending money for other woman instead of his wife.

    So what do you do if things happen like that if you envolve with some one who is married? how do you stop it? Do you have to tell him the truth you are not interested in any thing other than friend ship.

    Why evey men try to get the woman can’t have. IF there is no sexual attraction there is no attraction for her toward any men. No matter how much every men try or do something for a woman they like, buy some thing for her be nice to her. there is nothing will chang her mind other than friendship. When she saw the first day that the first day she knows if she is attracted to a man or not. IF she does not have sexual attraction the first day she meet a man there will never be another sexual attraction toward any man she meet. She knows from the first day if the man she saw is the man her dream or not. After that there is nothing will change her mind.

    Even if she has a friend for a long time and he still trying to be his girl friend but she will never be his girl friend.IF she was going to be his girl friend she was going to be his girl friend long time a go so how do you tell to your friend that you will never be his girl friend. for her is if she can’t say I like you or I love you there will never be sexual attraction to any other men even though she knows them for a long time.

    She can go out and have fun and talk about any thing but there will not be sexual attraction to any of these guys she met and talk to even by email or phone . She knows they can do every/any thing she wants them to do even in bed but she will never do what she wants to do with them because she doesn’t feel them.

    There is something she wants to feel from a man and there is something she wants to do with that person.

    another thing when a woman doesn’t answer your phone around valentines day or doesn’t want to go out with you or doesn’t wants to see you and giving you an excuse for that even though you have been kissing or making out before and you may be even serious about the relashionship. That means she is not interested that why she may went out with a friend instead of you.

  455. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 3:44 am #

    the new women cant change what the old did. i am young, and excepting a man with a mistress does not equal fidelity. feeling that you have to look the other way is demeaning. if thta is whta you want to do; i say stay your ass over there. im young, im fine, and i have no desire to ever marry, so the joke is hardly on me. And if women became lesbians the joke would be on you. im not a lesbian, but just as some would say that they dont want to live here because they cant keep a man, who wants to live there were you need a man to survive. there is good and bad in everything, but settling is never the answer. im young and my boyfriend is older but i am there because i like him, nothing else. Your a human which makes you nothing special; there are millions like you and there are women too, a man is not a necessity, especially not any man in particular. so pull your head at your ass. and i mean that with ll respect and love. My main point for writing was to say you can hardly say they demand fidelity but look the other way when their man cheats, and to also say you cant change the past you can only carve out a life for you.

  456. Anonymous April 24, 2009 at 12:49 pm #

    without a doubt!

  457. Anonymous December 11, 2009 at 5:13 pm #

    Iam in a similar situation. It has only been a week but Iam dating a man that is 40 and Iam 18. The age doesnt bother me but, Iam affraid of the reaction from my parents. I havent told them anything yet but, in the future i would like to. Do you have any advice on how to deal with this ?.
    He is the most beauitful person i have ever met, he has three children and i can see he is raising them well, i am confident that it is an “old pervy man with alittle girl”, I actually chased him and asked him out !.

  458. Anonymous June 5, 2008 at 9:45 pm #

    Living in it like the author of the above comment is a great way to die miserable and alone.

    Add to that…

    Any woman over 19 who feels that an older man that is attracted to her is sick or a pervert is just placing herself on a moral pedestal.

    In fact, nobody really cares, except religious fanatics – that is with the exception of some Morman sects.

    It’s ego protection. Probably not their fault.

    Placing themselves on a pedestal.

    Pedestals are lonely places, and when you fall off em, it hurts.

    I know, I’ve fallen off a few myself.

    PS, my same age 49 YO wife left me for a 30YO comic book obsessed dweeb. I’m actually quite happy for them. I don’t think she’s a pervert, nor do I resent what happened.

  459. Anonymous May 7, 2010 at 6:39 pm #

    After 40 the chances of a man’s sperm being of poor quality and causing birth defects goes up. Is it really the right of younger women to put those types of medical issues on their offspring. For older men do you really want your children to have an old father or health issues.

  460. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 10:25 pm #

    All I can say is the man im in love with is 35 years older then me

    Me = 15
    Bono = 50
    ( well 49 but 50 in may )


  461. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 3:33 am #

    i dont know if you have ever been married and it is beside the point anyway. dont give up on finding a good man. maybe it is the stressing that is causing everything to show in your face. And at 22 you have worries, but i guess they are just not the same worries. 33 isnt so far from 25, just keep being the amazing women you are. relax!

  462. Anonymous April 24, 2009 at 9:37 am #

    once your happy nothing beats that, your with that older woman and she makes you happy that GOOD. not all older woman are the same, and will treat you that way, and not all younger girls are immature… i am 22 and my boyfriend is 62 and i am happy, he spoil me, and who are they to judge my relationship, i never go seek advice from my friends what can they tell me. never go seek advice from smeone who wants it themselves

  463. Anonymous December 11, 2009 at 12:47 am #

    I say you only live once and I am 78 years old and would marry an 18 year old any day. I see so many beautiful young Asian girls and wonder how I get get to know one enough to offer her my hand in marriage. Everything I have still works OK but not as much as it did when I was younger. So I wish you every success and happiness and hope he does get to see your children growing up.

    John from New Zealand

  464. Anonymous June 5, 2008 at 8:28 pm #

    I recently married a man whom is 18 years older than me (I’m 30 and he’s 48). It’s been wonderful, and we both act young, vibrant and full of life when we are together. I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone, as some people can’t look past the age difference and worry too much about the future. Live in the present, respect your spouse, love, laugh and always remember to say I’m sorry!

  465. Anonymous May 6, 2010 at 1:55 pm #

    Thanks that should really help…

  466. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 8:27 pm #

    never been happier in my entire life. never EVER thought i’d end up with someone this old but he’s amazing. desirable. youthful spirit and makes me happy and pleases me in every possible way. its incredible.
    i’ll admit not many people in my life know about our relationship. i know i’ll get judged and really dont feel like tainting the goodness that we have with others negative energy.

  467. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 3:04 am #

    yes there is something wrong with it if u are sleeping with him!

    no offense to you at all, but i wish you people would quit thinking that every old guy is rich. that is so not the case.

  468. Anonymous April 24, 2009 at 7:07 am #

    From what I’ve seen of autumn/spring relationships with the guy being older, sometimes they work surprisingly well. The reasons are some of them obvious and some of them not.

    First, the economic security aspect for the female. She doesn’t have to be an alpha female or male. She can marry into the 40-or-more acre horsey farm and have room for ten to twenty cats in the barn(s). If she has artistic, poetic, or other interests that really do take up her whole day, she can pursue them without having to get up every day to pursue the almighty dollar first. She also knows that the old boy is going to pass away and leave her well-off while she is still relatively young. They are both good with that. Two consenting adults can reach such understandings and both often can remain true in spirit to the deal right to the end.

    Second, children. Many “gold-diggers” are for whatever reason not wanting children and they like the security of being in a relationship where that is off the table. Many of them married one or two guys their age who started off saying that they were OK with no kids, but as the years went by it turns out they were lying. Or the gold-digger may already have a couple kids by a man who turned out to not be prince charming after all and who was incompetent at providing. As she sees it, her children can experience a “father figure” in the home who is also the model of a successful male. For his part, the older guy may have figured out what a precious blessing children are and learned how to deal with them. Since he has conquered the economic dragon, he has more time to actually do fun things with the kinds.

    The last under-appreciated factor is the fact that older men are often not the sex-crazed “pervs” that younger men are. The old guy likes sex but he is often at heart a romantic. This is where the autumn/spring relationship often finds its most propitious common ground, because younger women usually aren’t sex driven either, they are prone to be romantic. You can argue against the tendency of romantics to idealize a mate to the point of not really being in a relationship with a real person (rather somebody they make up in their mind) but the fact is that two mutually consenting adults can agree to play the role to support the other’s romantic delusions.

    So many matches of young people today are jarringly unromantic, even cynically so, perhaps a consequence of over-stressed sexualism in our culture and the ubiquitous quest of each to find his or her own private path to happiness, being quick to cast off partners that don’t get them to this elusive goal. Can you say it’s all about me, me, me.

  469. Anonymous March 4, 2009 at 2:18 pm #

    can i ask why are young chick so much easier to talk to??????

  470. Anonymous June 3, 2008 at 3:10 am #

    My father pulled the same shenanigans when he turned ~55. All he talked about was how he could die any day then boom, younger woman, my mom (his wife of 26 years) being turned out onto the street. Yeah. Watch out.

  471. Anonymous May 6, 2010 at 9:08 am #

    Dirty old men will always come up with a reason why it’s a good thing.

  472. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 8:26 pm #

    never been happier in my entire life. never EVER thought i’d end up with someone this old but he’s amazing. desirable. youthful spirit and makes me happy and pleases me in every possible way. its incredible.
    i’ll admit not many people in my life know about our relationship. i know i’ll get judged and really dont feel like tainting the goodness that we have with others negative energy.

  473. Anonymous October 13, 2009 at 3:00 am #

    just because a younger woman dates an old man or vice versa it does not make them needy or perverted. Just because you have tattoos does not mean that you are trash. you are a horrible, small minded, simple, imbecile. Tattoos dont make you work at McDonald’s, and please please don’t act like your dumb a** has never cheated or known a friend to do so. That is why your old BI*** A## is probably divorced; people whore because that is who they are, tattoos and showing a## crack is not the definition of the loser. It is call trend, and that is not the reason for many people who get them; I know your old behind had plenty of tacky trends in 1842 when you were little. Am i attacking you, hell yes because you really pissed me off! i am young, not a tattoo or piercing in or out of sight. I’m college educated in my early twenties and dating a man in his late 40’s. My favorite type of clothing is tight dresses and short skirts, and yes i love my high heels baby. dont be so quick to judge; im sure you don’t care what im saying, but say you were a sensitive person having someone talk down to you could be very painful true you have the right to state your opinion, but i think you should shove your opinion up your self-centered, conceited, ass! Your perhaps right about it being the way of the world, but how dare you attack a child; how dare you say bastard when referring to a child. that is like when people use to say yo momma to attack people. the child has nothing to do with it, so watch your mouth! As for you not thinking 20 year old are hot; quit lying because there aint a soul out their buying it. You may not want to date them for whatever reason, but you know damn well you have seen a beautiful 20 year old female. don’t act simple, that and a petty ass liar are the two type of people i cant stand! date your 40 old women, i don’t give a damn, but your ass isn’t even on topic. This is about young woman old man relationships, not your prejudices against the young generation. minus your first few statements your commentary was unnecessary, check your blog you stupid ass; you are on the wrong one. i hope you read this, but i fer you wont because this is probably an old blog. talk what you know; i bet you wouldn’t step to a 20 year old and say half the shit you just stated above.

  474. Anonymous April 24, 2009 at 5:26 am #

    The new studies are out!

    Men over 40 GREATLY increase the chance of birth defects! Autism, Downs, Schizophrenia, etc. An older Father is worse than an older Mother, the chances of birth defects are greater with the older Father. So – NO THANKS. It’s not a good thing.

    That is not good for our race. Also, there is overpopulation as has been mentioned!

    Not to mention how delusional it is for a man to think that just because he is attracted to a person it negates how he is!

    MRI research shows that the human brain is not done forming until the age of 21 to 24. It was previously thought to be 18, hence 18 being the age of adulthood. It’s not fair for you EXPERIENCED pervs to be taking advantage of people that don’t have a completed brain.

    People, protect your children! Protect your children, the old guys want to USE them for sex body parts. Is that why you went to the trouble of having your children, to let some guy use them?

    Men – if you’re hunting for young things, all you are going to find is the abused, (who have been conditioned by abuse to accept inappropriate men) or golddiggers. SO, you know that they don’t love or want you, right? You know that. The whole time you avoid people your own age, you are admitting that no one will ever love you. You are just a user.

    If you MEN aren’t attracted to OLD, why do you think anyone else should be?

    You’re just BUYING someone to pretend to put up with you. Golddiggers are such good actresses!

  475. Anonymous March 4, 2009 at 2:14 pm #

    I changed dramatically from21-28..and ya, they all got dumped.!! you will to guarenteed.. and theyll have no conern for your feelings..mean while youll waste time with a child who desnt know shit about life or love..she hasnt even went threw fazes yet..(21-23)and donnot have kids with her till 30 please… watch out!!!!!!youll get burned.. id stick to 25-28..but that might be to intimidating for you, a real woman!!! lol…guarentee shell knock your socks off in bed way more than the 20….ewwwww smells like pee

  476. Anonymous August 9, 2008 at 8:31 am #

    hey ‘Physical attraction’ didn’t you mean ‘fiscal attraction’? sex for money is prostitution, and yes some women sell their souls and go with older men for that. And if some men are happy to be attractive only for their bank accounts (and found secretly physically repulsive by their much younger partners) then please tell them to stop complaining about gold diggers. Is the Anna Nicole Smith model your ideal in this because that is what you seem to be describing? to me she is neither the ideal role model for a woman or partner for a man. Genuine, well balanced women don’t sell their sexuality (unless it is their only way out of povety, as is the case with many male order brides), or try to sell their youth to those who can’t handle the loss of their own.

  477. Anonymous May 6, 2010 at 6:48 am #

    I wish i can be with a man who really loves me and cares me forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  478. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 12:47 pm #

    your 16 with what life experiences. that is your choice of who you date but unless you go with an older man you will never know. you say its disgusting HOW THE HELL would you know…… not all 70 yr olds are in wheel chairs dying. love is blind so they say. im 18 yrs old with a 45 yr old boy friend im hapy and im mature. Loads young peole comment and say my bf looks like he is late 20s early 30s and the same for me. if people are happy who are you to come on here preaching with your comments on older people.

  479. Anonymous October 12, 2009 at 11:03 pm #

    We’re extremely happy together and very, very in love. He’s the most beautiful man I’ve ever held in my arms. The satisfaction level is off the scale and I kiss the ground he walks on. The ratio of love to consideration is balanced and mature. There is no self -aggrandizement and he’s never acted in a way to manipulate any power or influence over me, nor ever attempted to selfishly draw attention to his own importance like the younger boyfriends I’ve had. He’s strong and healthy, compassioned and brilliant. I will always love David, and will stay in love with him for eternity.

  480. Anonymous April 21, 2009 at 5:00 am #

    It’s my personal experience. I found old men are very caring and loving both on bed and outside. I am 27 and I have been dating one old guy who is 72yrs…Amazing right! But I love this guy very much because he is so humble and honest person. In my view age should not come between loves. So girls!! Don’t get bothered about people telling about age gaps coz some guys are jealous about you.

  481. Anonymous March 4, 2009 at 1:58 am #

    I have just met a fabulous girl who has completely stolen my heart. The problem is that she is 21 while I am 37. I am very concerned the age gap is wrong for us and I should stop our relationship from getting more serious. If I thought it would not be looked on as dirty or wrong I would be delighted to be in this relationship…… My last serious partner I met when she was 19 and I was 33 and we were together happily for 4 years until I met this new girl who has my heart torn to pieces and we are still only new together. I never had the same issues of inappropriateness in my last relationship so why am I feeling this way now…..

  482. Anonymous May 29, 2008 at 1:20 pm #

    Younger women like older men because older men know how to treat a woman. Older men are interested in talking about other things besides themselfs. They are giving. They have been around for a while so they know how to be romantic. They dont sit and watch sports 24/7.
    Its true my husband likes that I am younger because I am fit, friendly, smart and because I make him feel young. Whats wrong with that? Everyone should feel young.
    Some people are bad talking the age difference, but for u young guys out there, you are just mad that older men are taking your women, but when u get older and learn how to treat a woman then you will find someone young and pretty. For you older woman who are mad, if you would take pride in yourself then you would have a nice man too. And for the few younger women who dont like the idea of an older man, that’s fine for you, but dont insult people who choose that life style when you yourself have no personal experience in this matter.
    My husband is 60 and I am 24. We have been married 5 years and have a 3 year old daughter and a son on the way. We have friends who love us, family who live us. My husband even has adult children, and I talk to his daughter all the time. We all get along great because they are happy for us. As long as you are happy in life that is all that matters. Noone has the right to judge my husband or me or anyone else like us for that matter.
    For all who are mad: we hope you find true love and happiness someday, living life the way you are (being unhappy and resentful) is no way to live.

  483. Anonymous May 6, 2010 at 6:28 am #

    really like this guy who is 37 and i’m 22… yeah its not THAT big difference (as i’ve heard of 20 year old girls with 60 year old men) …. but anyway… its the age which stops me beginning a relationship with him. …. yeah he’s lovely/kind/fun/caring/handsome etc. and i know he really likes me too…. but there are a few issues i have with it. even though he’s still got his looks and health, these things are probably about to decrease within the next few decades. and i want to find someone i could possibly have children with. so unless i have children with him now… i’d feel he’d be too old after a few years; To me, i think women should be between 18 and 35 to have children and men between 26 and 40. if you have a child in your 40’s for example… when the child is 10 you are already beyond 50. its not so nice for the child either.

    I think stupid, annoying, empty-headed little cunts like you should shut up. It’s not older women who are having children just to get a penis in their lives, toots.
    See, stupid twit, women who have babies in their 40’s are 4 times more likely to live to be 100 than dumb little nobodies like you.

    See, they are established, mature and intelligent. They don’t have babies because they were too drunk to use birth control, or to snag some loser boyfriend, toots. It’s not nice for society either when twats like you decide to breed.

    Now shut up and grow a brain. And oh, PLEASE, for society’s sake, get yourself fixed.
    Stupid twat. :)

  484. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 11:48 am #

    I think that the teen girls on here saying that they are “in love” with men who are 20+ years their elder is absolutely DISGUSTING. I am 16, and I would NEVER date a guy who is more than 5 years older than me, and even if he was only 3 years older I would still wait till I was in my 20’s or so, because then I would be an adult and be more apt to make more conscious and SMART decisions! These girls are really making horrible decisions!!! I wish that most of them could realize that some of these men are old enough to be their GRANDFATHERS and that most of them are only using them for their youth and sex!! I just think that it is morally wrong and wrong in every way possible!! Date your own age, please!! What kind of example would you be setting for your daughters when you are in you r 20’s or 30’s and have children with him, and they see their father in his wheelchair, dying and in his 70’s!! That is wrong, and pathing a path of destructive behavior for your future family! God is preparing a young man for these girls who is THEIR AGE, and they shouid not be dating men who are that much older than them.

  485. Anonymous October 12, 2009 at 10:23 pm #

    ……. stay with your wife and stop procrastinating!

  486. Anonymous April 20, 2009 at 1:02 pm #

    Please don’t hate because you’re probably at home on the weekends jerking off. And let’s be honest, if you were that age and you were still single, and could pull it off, wouldn’t you? Keep it real and think before you answer…

  487. Anonymous March 3, 2009 at 9:21 pm #

    Im a 50yr aussie male and i love younger women .
    The women i see my age are fat or just plain ugly and no amount of help will fix them.Who wants to go after soemthing all worn out .
    I think after women have menapause the ugly facter kicks in.
    Or maybe thats the way of nature so older men go after younger women who are more capable of providing better breeding stock

  488. Anonymous May 28, 2008 at 6:53 pm #

    In a nutshell, here is why older men like younger women: 1) They have better attitudes (less cynical)
    2) They are thinner than older women
    3) They are more likely to be physically
    If older women simply paid attention to their husbands after the birth of their children, there would be fewer divorces.

  489. Anonymous May 6, 2010 at 6:15 am #

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  491. Anonymous October 12, 2009 at 8:49 pm #

    If age is just a number, then stay with your old wife, old man

  492. Anonymous April 20, 2009 at 11:37 am #

    It amazes me how many people i come across who say; ”I LOOK 20/30 YEARS YOUNGER”

    Ive come across at least 3 people on this blog who claim that they are 50 but look like they are in their 20s!

    No you don’t! Trust me, you dont! Ive never seen a 50 year old pass for 20, ever. Lots of 70 year olds look 50 but Not 50 looking 20. sorry. Most of us look our age.

  493. Anonymous August 27, 2009 at 5:36 pm #

    Survival of the species, making babys, is the core of man&woman relations. For healthy normal men, the vagina is the most beautiful thing God ever made. and a good looking super healthy mature man, does very well , anywhere. even a poor one. yours truly had the best three years of my life with a gorgeous just turned sixteen year old,(i was forty-eight,at the time) till her jealous hypocrite cougar excuse for a mother broke us up. but i’m over it, there’s a million of em to take her place.Thinking young ladys will always be attracted to a kinder matured man, especially so when our sexual skills are finely honed. all you jealous types can kma, we really have a good laugh over your nashing of teeth. Grind on! LOLLOLLOL!!!

  494. Anonymous May 28, 2008 at 3:28 pm #

    While true some men may be perverts or dirty old men, that’s not always the case.I was always called “ugly” by my own a-hole of a father. You hear “ugly” EVERYDAY you believe it.
    Believing it(wrong or right)means I shied away from asking girls out. Never had a girlfriend. hell! First time I went to see a prostitute and had sex was when I was 32 years old. Wasn’t enjoyable because I longed for a relationship.
    13 years later have not gone to any other prostitute(that one experience turned me off from it)but also still haven’t asked any girl out.
    But I do find I’m much happier when surrounded by a female in her early to mid-20s. I used to work with many in that age group before I left for another job. Guess their happiness and fun reminds me of all the stuff I never had.
    So you see not all men are dirty old men. Don’t be too quick to judge if you think all 45-year-olds want sex from the younger ones. NOPE! I’d be happy just chatting at the local coffee shop or going toa rock concert or other event. I have so much to catch up on. And can live my life through them(if I ever decide to ask–though not shy as used to be still am somewhat around females).

  495. Anonymous May 5, 2010 at 6:23 pm #

    Wow! So much hostility and NONE of it even TOUCHES what he was actually saying or writing about. Also, if you can’t write English well enough to sound to sound like you are older than 14, my advice is, DON’T. Everyone above sounded so young, uneducated and uncultured. I am 44. My 20 year old wife and I find all of this quite amusing.
    This guy is not writing an article on dating younger women. He is writing about the findings of a scientific study that indicates certain POTENTIAL BENEFITS of a society that has older men reproducing with younger women. (Basically, if I understand it right, certain defects in the genes creep into a population after so many generations. These will shorten the lives of some people. If a man is still alive and able to procreate at the age of 60-70, he is likely free of certain mutations or he would already be dead. As a direct result, that man won’t have those mutations to pass on to the children.
    How can you comment on an article you clearly did not understand? Listen stop worrying so much about someone sharing RESEARCH FINDINGS and go back to school until you can UNDERSTAND it. (Or at LEAST until you can sound like you are old enough to have graduated when you DO write something.)
    The way I see it, there are two types of people that get angry about this. Firstly, men who are sure they can’t manage it for themselves. Probably because they don’t get many dates their own age. Secondly, Jaded women that had bad relationships and likely were left for another woman (whether or not she was younger) because one of their biggest fears is having their man stolen by a younger lady.
    Oddly enough, in my experience, most age difference relationships begin on their own without cheating or leaving a spouse involved. (though that does happen too.)
    If you want to spew your misgivings at someone who didn’t ask for or deserve it, first get your facts straight then make sure you are on the same page and KNOW WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE COMMENTING ON!
    You like statistics? Is that what brought you to this page? Well here’s one for you. The average human being is a basic dolt! Only 4% of humanity (both sexes) has any intellect at all. Only half of THAT is high enough to be worthy of much mention. All the above comments certainly prove that out. (Although this was conclusively proven to me years ago.)
    Please don’t feel I am looking down on you. (I’d need a Hubble Telescope for that.)

    – Pantha

  496. Anonymous February 14, 2010 at 1:03 am #

    ok, i’m a female in my early 20’s as well. i’ll admit to not reading MOST of the earlier posts. But i’m also intelligent to say that no matter where you live, no matter your profession, you must persist. the true love will come, i’ve had 2, i just got accepted to med. school, and yes, your life will conitinue: and for the better. My advice: live your life as you always have, don’t let others convine u as these online sites have, but please be conciouse (be smart), but have emotions as well.
    Because if you can have both before you have children i feel as if your children will have wisdom beyond their years 9(lord, knows I wish i did.)
    good luck with life darling
    no one can truly help your situation except you
    (but really u know that, u do….)
    BE SMART, INTELLIGENT, INDEPENDEDENT! but loving (like a woman as well)
    :) :) :)

  497. Anonymous October 11, 2009 at 9:24 am #

    You know the saying “people like to hear themselves talk”?……Well, apparently people like to see their posts too! I’ve read all the comments and have noticed a couple things; many posts are the same one posted over and over or there are several posts and they are obviously written by the same person.

    Oh, and I love how most of the posters writing “age is just a number” are trying to justify their attraction and/or relationship to much younger people.

  498. Anonymous April 19, 2009 at 8:39 pm #

    I am 37 years old and just met the most amazing person she is 23. Now i would of said years ago that this is too much of an age difference but as each day passes i now miss her more and more. we have spent a couple of nights together and let me tell you it has been great. And “NO” we do not only talk about sex and we dont just want to be filling each others sexual desires. What we both have talked about is a fututre together and seeing as we actually love one another i know it is going to happen some day.> Is she too young for me i don’t know i don’ think about it.Am i too old in the sense i will not be able to “””PROTECT””” as someone has stated earlier NO. I am in fact in decent shape for my age yes i need to loose a few pounds but i still run 3 miles uner 23 minutes so i think i can keep up with whatever comes my way. Am i ready to settle down yes and i think she is ready for a secure family. She has a child already as do I and we are wanting more. But my main statement is if the two of you love one another and want to be together who gives a shit what others think. I want the next 50 years to be by her side and i really think that is what she wants. Could i be wrong? Yes i guess so but who has the right to tell me or my beautiful woman that we are wrong? Can you put an age on love or families…by the way when 50 yrs go by i will be 87 and she will be 73 and i know deep down i will still be able to keep up. Even if she has to get my walker each morning so i can go get her wheelchair….

  499. Anonymous August 28, 2009 at 4:42 pm #

    Life is more than just reproduction. It may be true for some animals, but I certainly hope that the human animal is a little more sophisticated. That said, if we’re supposed to die by 55 because our reproductive functions have dissipated then who would take care of the grandchildren while the mom is still busy doing it with the dad??

    There are other things that keep human productive other than the reproductive. Both men and women today are still active and productive members of society well beyond the 80-year mark. I have some friends over 80 who continue to trade the stock markets on a daily basis and are quite good at it. That research and your story are both BUNK!!

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  500. Anonymous August 14, 2008 at 2:32 am #

    Younger/ older vs. older/younger dynamics is simple? PURPOSE? when two people vibe together there is a sense of purpose. When purpose is lost so too does the vibe that initiated it. Too many people regardless of the dynamics forget that life is about living! When you alter the dynamics regardless of what is involved you will always change the current situation. i.e. a couple married for 20+ years suddenly find themselves in a divorce preceding…why? not just because money, or someone else, but because of money and someone else! If you ever been involved in a board meeting with so many different opinions flying around you either fight your way through (tiresome) or quit (escape) if you drudge through (compromise) or create new policy (win) levels are adjusted. Now this sounds so political but here is the scoop. people are inherantly becoming more aware of there mortality and understand that life is to be lived at a moving pace. not a standing one. if two people share a common energy then they move together. When one person becomes complacent or comfortable, the other is lost. It’s never about age…It’s always about energy. Like energy attracts like energy. Don’t believe me, just look at the simularities in a couples life dynamics. TV, Cooking, Caring, Travel, education etc….these things are usually on the same track as the other person while not entirely identical. The mental issue stands clear. Older/Younger dynamics is constant since no two things are or will ever be alike in the exact reference. Be it older women to younger men, younger women to older men, older women to older men and youner men to younger women, it will always the be energy that binds them. If you take a light bulb and it burns out but you never change it.. you will seek light someplace else? If you take a partner that suddenly or continuously become complacent in life you will seek out another? Survival is genetic and beyond. for a species to survive it must adapt and overcome the obstacles that hinder or challenge it. As a self adjusting and aware species, we are becoming more aware of this however on an individual level some are more aware than others. But this is just my opinion…everybody gets one

  501. Anonymous May 5, 2010 at 4:24 am #

    You are a dumb ass. Your comments portray the typical stereotype of our modern day culture, the same one that frowns silently upon interracial relationships. It’s your personal prejudice that makes you think the way you do. A 40 something year old guy has nothing to offer a girl in her 20’s? Really? So your da’s probably a piece of shit, and so are all your uncles!I guess the hormone driven 20 something boys who are still caught up in themselves are much better, huh. No wonder so many girls have heartaches when these fuckers cheat on them. Pick your choice. I am 41 years old, haven’t been sick in 22 years, yes, 22 years! ex-military, take damned good care of myself, solid job, get so many compliments from girls in their twenties/thirties who think I’m their age. Don’t stereotype me with the rest of society. I’m not your average guy. If a girl falls in love with a guy who’s going to treat her like a lady, and show her the utmost respect etc, what is it to you. Did you ever wonder why God made men to still be fertile at a way older age when women their age are menopausing and hotflashing? Think about that…have a good day you idiot!

  502. Anonymous February 13, 2010 at 1:14 pm #

    Before I start what I intended to write, let me start with an opening salvo: As an average-looking older guy, I get hit on by younger women quite a lot. More so than I did as a much better-looking younger man.

    My wife is 12 years younger than me. Believe me, we got a lot grief from her friends and some (though not nearly as much) from a few of my friends. However, there are a few differences from much of what I read here.

    We we’re both adults when we met: 36 and 24. The emotional differences between a woman who is 24 and one who is 19 (or younger) are significant. I was not interested in dating a child; and at 19, most men and women are still children in both outlook and emotional maturity.

    We talked it through before becoming involved. I had a horrible previous marriage and wasn’t all that sure I wanted anything beyond casual dating (if you don’t intend to spend a significant portion of your remaining life with whom you’re dating, it’s casual – regardless of the sexual relationship). She had her own issues with it – especially my nearly guaranteed predeceasing her.

    I also knew that if I wanted to be a father at some point, I would end up marrying someone much younger than me. My first wife had a kid from her first husband (I was number three and obviously not too smart during my twenties). Her dysfunctional relationship with the child created a lot of issues – to which, my responses were often as deplorable.

    So, along with a number of factors, I came up with an “ideal” woman. It worked out that she fit all the important criteria. Plus, the fact that I was head-over-heels in love – and lust – with her probably helped.

    I’m still clueless as to why she’s with me but I have the wisdom not to question it too much.

  503. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 9:23 pm #


  504. Anonymous April 18, 2009 at 3:38 pm #

    Please don’t hate because you’re probably at home on the weekends jerking off. And let’s be honest, if you were that age and you were still single, and could pull it off, wouldn’t you? Keep it real and think before you answer…

  505. Anonymous August 27, 2009 at 10:09 am #

    I like to date young women because older 50ish women just don’t attract me and they are too busy with their damn career. I am 53 and I am dating a 28 year old woman and enjoying her. If you want to know more about me, check out my website at http://www.billdentomology.com

  506. Anonymous May 26, 2008 at 2:57 pm #


    I’m really touched with your story, and it makes me feel good right now. Because presently, i have a suitor who is 60 yrs old and i am 34 yrs old. And really I’m starting to like him too, and little by little Im falling for him. But, I’m afraid of what will happen to us in case we will be in to a relationship what our family may say or they might dis approve. How can I prove to them that I’m not after his money but his love? Please I need your advice…my email add is Haidz2002@yahoo.com

    Thank you so much. God Bless

  507. Anonymous May 5, 2010 at 4:13 am #

    Well, is this what you really want, or is there something better? Do you love him in a selfless way, likewise him to you, or is the relationship mostly physical. What about your indifferences. Do you handle the downside of your relationship well? Long terma goals…are they in sync? Your love finds you…up to a certain point, you live for otheres…above that, it is your happiness that you need to be concerned with, and I don’t say that for you to be selfish. I mean your parents can’t select your mate. They can choose a guy THEY like, but will you love him? Get a piece of paper and divide it inot two halves, on one side write the positive about your relationship/desire, and on the other side write donw the negatives, as you write and re-read it, it gives you a more eyeopening perspective of how you really feel…good luck and best wishes

  508. Anonymous February 13, 2010 at 4:51 am #

    The reason why people disagree with the very same thing is that they have different experiences in life, and it develops their heart intelligence in the direction that these experiences put them in.

    As said “at the very end, everything will be fine. If it is not fine, it is not the end.” As you are only 18, it is very difficult to say if this man will be your final. It probably doesn’t really matter because nobody can tell who is your final until you really experienced the final.

    Let time run its course, and everything will be alright for you. Be it to go crazy and go with this man wherever he go, or to give him up once and for all. You will always be better off with the choice that you make and learn that good lesson.

    Be positive and try to look beyond age as well as sex. If sex is all that makes you stay with him, then you don’t really need a relationship. Nobody can tell if he really loves you or not, except for yourself. You have to feel it and believe in yourself.

    Remember to make decisions for yourself. Do not let what other people say influence you or cloud your vision, including the man that you love. Is the decision really what makes you happy and really what you really want for yourself?

    I will not make a decision for you here like many others try to do by posting and asking you to get out of the relationship and such. It is because I understand that it can be difficult at times when you really do feel for that someone. By reading such posts makes you doubt yourself, which is obviously not a form of help.

    I just want you to put on that thinking cap and be honest with yourself. Put the pros and cons on the weighing scale and ask yourself, how long or how much can you take before you change your mind? The answer you get will take you to the very next step.

    For good or for bad, you have my support. Regardless where your decision brings you, remember that you should never give up on yourself.

  509. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 5:53 pm #

    “I find older men very interesting on a physical, mental, emotional & sexual level.”

    You’re right! Older men are wonderful in bed. They have a lot of experience from their previous marriage. They already have kids, so they know how to be a father to you (if that’s what you’re looking for?) and to your future children. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting a father figure.

    Older men are also easy to talk to. They never ignore you, they give you a lot of attention. In fact, they go out of their way to do things for you because they care so much about you. They will put you in a mansion, and provide for you because they want to show you how strong their commitments are to you, now and forever.

  510. Anonymous April 18, 2009 at 3:34 pm #

    You don’t control who you fall in love with, including their age. Never say never. Plus you’re still young.

  511. Anonymous February 21, 2009 at 6:47 pm #

    I agree with your comment.

    “To say an older woman is unattractive and that is why their husbands leave them, the man is the one with the issues and shouldn’t be getting married if his expectations will keep changing.”

    The older man is definitely the one with the issues. He married her, got kids with her and now that she’s older, he wants to push her in a corner and start again with a younger woman. What is she supposed to do? Get out of his way and let him do what he wants to do. He will NEVER get permission from her as older women tend to be very jealous of their older husbands. She also knows that it is immoral for an older man to sleep with a younger woman. And the reason she knows that is because she herself did not go with an older man when she was young.

    These older men should take a good look at their behavior, for they clearly do not know the difference between ethics and morals. Some of them even claim that they come from families of theologians. Just because one has studied theology does not make one an expert on relationships.

  512. Anonymous May 26, 2008 at 12:26 pm #

    Wow!!!! You must have had a “DISGUSTING” experience. Careful, I feel there is more going on with you. You are stricking out at anyone or anything. There is a saying “as within, so without”. I see more emotions, than reason. TAKE CARE.

  513. Anonymous May 5, 2010 at 3:58 am #

    Hey, before you post something like this, why don’t you learn some English? As for the context of your response, how much do you know? You are the stereotype of society who in their arrogance frowns upon age gap relationships, just like how some people frown upon interracial relationships, just your sheer envy and insecurity.

  514. constructiveinterference February 12, 2010 at 3:12 pm #

    “Independent and Dependent Contributions of Advanced Maternal and Paternal Ages to Autism Risk,” in Autism Research, February 2010.
    A study looking at 4.9 million births and 12,159 cases of autism concluded:
    1. Advanced paternal (father) age is associated with elevated autism risk when the father is older and the mother is under 30, but has little effect when mothers are past age 30.
    2. Once over 30, mother’s age independently contributes to risk.

    The study also suggests that “an older parent transfers a multitude of molecular functional alterations to a child … thus epigenetics may be involved in the risks contributed by advancing parental age as a result of changes induced by stresses from environmental chemicals, co-morbidity or assistive reproductive therapy.”

  515. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 2:22 pm #

    what u said moved smthg inside me.

    im a young woman too

  516. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 9:22 pm #

    As a 23-year-old woman, I find older men DISGUSTING, sexually speaking. I’m not saying I might not fall in love with an older man one day, but I think 10 years difference is enough for me for now. Older than that is just creepy.

  517. Anonymous February 21, 2009 at 6:12 pm #

    Father’s Age May Play Role in Autism Risk –

  518. Anonymous May 25, 2008 at 12:37 pm #

    Everything you said in your post is so true. These little sluts you see walking around shaking their tails and thinking that the world belongs to them – that they can destroy other people’s happiness in order to taste a thrill – will have it coming to them once THEY become the “older” woman.

  519. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 10:28 pm #

    Specially for men over 50, you better be a man and live your own life and act like your age and be mature than doing something or trying to date a women half your age. Get your own life and it is non your business what other people doing or dating. You are too old and do your own job and get a life and get a women your age but may be you have something wrong.

    Who want stupid old man doesn’t much with anything a women does.
    a women can date any man she wants but she has to choose who she will have sex with. That means she can date you but she will not sleep with you, not money, dimonds or any thing will change to make her sleep with you so don’t have hope because it will never happen.

    old men don’t forget you are too old for any thing, so you know she doesn’t want you and non your business who she date and how many men she date. You just wait for your retirement to arrive that is what left for you. No matter how you change from out side with make up or with anything, but inside of is still too old and you can’t change that.

  520. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 12:23 pm #

    that is sweet of u guys but have u ever taken a deep breath and say is wat i’m doing good i mean love does make a diffrence but sometimes u should say i am 20 and he is 45 is that correct.

  521. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 3:27 am #

    Has anyone ever noticed how nosy old people can be? Especially older/old women, they’re the worst. They’re nosy because they don’t have a life. They hang around environment (young people environment) they don’t belong in. And it’s so obvious that they are there to snoop on young women because they look so out of place.

    They should be out playing bingo instead.

  522. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 4:21 pm #

    ‘(and they got to have their dad around — and healthy enough to play with — for their entire childhood).’

    who exactly wants an exhausted windbag playing footie with their kids? A mother has to mother, a father has to be fit and healthy to protect his offspring.

  523. Anonymous March 17, 2009 at 1:02 pm #

    The person who wrote this:

    “Sometimes an older man can play on a younger lonesome woman’s emotions because he knows if he is successful in affecting her feelings in such a way that she will feel attached to him and agree to marry him, then he wins because he now has someone to care for most of his needs as he gets older. He doesn’t necessarily have allot of money either. What do you think about this? Ever known of any cases of this kind? Just curious”.

    What does that say about him? What kind of a person would play on a younger woman’s emotions? Is he bored? Perhaps he’s not getting enough attention from his older wife.

    His behavior clearly indicates that he doesn’t care about the younger woman’s feelings at all, only his. A player is someone one cannot trust.

  524. Anonymous May 19, 2008 at 8:33 pm #

    you will be 30,40 before you know it. the older man in your life has been through more kitty kat than you can phathom.

    you are not special. you are a willing participant in his quest to be forever young.

    these men have ditched the woman that they fell deeply in love with, when she was 24, and she was madly in love with him, only to be abandoned by him later in life. shattered dreams.

    to the 54 year old woman who was abandoned by her 54 year old husband for the 24 year old: i feel for you.

    I am 29 right now and understand the passage of time a little.

    it is no joke for the love of your life to leave you for a younger woman.

    young women: watch out. this man is immature, and is afraid to die. that is why he is with you.

    you cannot phathom this because you are still self-centered, and the worlds responds to you in a certain way because of your young beauty.

    there are 14 year old girls that are right behind you.

    you will understand the pain that women 10,20, 30 years older than you feel, when those even younger girls are your age, and your man (and men in your peer group) start looking backwards.

    then you will feel the rejection and abandonment that women older than you feel. – from their men, from society.

    the world will respond to you differently as the years pass.

    so think about that when you decide to date a 35 year old or a 50 year old man while in your 20s.

    i would at least wait a decade or so (at about 35) to date a man in his 50s, if i were in my twenties.

    you simply don’t have the experience of time-passage to understand his outlook.

    he likes your youth. it makes him feel virile. he is immature and cannot face reality. he is avoiding the true beauty of life.

    he is stuck thinking that his beauty has faded, and that his life is over, now that he is 50.

    you have been warned young ladies.

    trust me you will resent it when you are 10 years older and realized that you cannot get that time back, that your youth is over, but he enjoyed his youth with his former wife, because they were of the same age, time, and generation.

    you will pine for yours and will be angry at him for stealing yours because you were too self-centered and egocentric (because you are fine and have a nimble pussy) to see that he was looking out for himself.

  525. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 10:11 pm #

    why men think if a women is going out with them might love them. Men are so fool. Any women can go out with any man if they keep begging her to go out with them but men have to think she might never be interested in them for sex other than going out like a friend.

    IF there is no sexual attraction at first there will be never. No matter how men try to make the women like them, nothing will change her mind when it comes in sexual attraction.

    Sexual attraction happen at first day and with in a minute meeting a person, so if there is no sexual attraction at first there will never be. You can try and try and make her to talk to you or email you but there will never be any.

    Specially for men over 50, you better be a man and live your own life and act like your age and be mature than doing something or trying to date a women half your age. Get your own life and it is non your business what other people doing or dating. You are too old and do your own job and get a life and get a women your age but may be you have something wrong.

    Who want stupid old man doesn’t much with anything a women does.
    a women can date any man she wants but she has to choose who she will have sex with. That means she can date you but she will not sleep with you, not money, dimonds or any thing will change to make her sleep with you so don’t have hope because it will never happen.

  526. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 12:17 pm #

    y would a dude be want’n younger chicks i would go after that dude or call 911

  527. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 3:11 am #

    Worn out men belong with worn out women.

  528. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 2:00 pm #

    I’m a 52 year old woman and engaged to a 35 year old man — and let me tell you, dating younger (as long as it’s younger men) is the way to go. Old guys are too controlling (not to mention the whole balding/big belly/let themselves go thing going on).

    People who live longer have longer-lived children. I had my kids in my 20s and they are grown now; all four of their grandparents and 7 of 8 of their great grandparents were long lived. My kids have just as good a shot at living longer as if some old coot had fathered them (and they got to have their dad around — and healthy enough to play with — for their entire childhood).

  529. Anonymous March 17, 2009 at 12:29 pm #

    When people criticize other people, they are actually criticizing themselves.

    They’re trying to upload all the mistakes that they have made when they were young onto someone else’s shoulders. They have already f…………. up their lives.

  530. Anonymous May 16, 2008 at 1:21 am #

    I like a guy who works with me, I’m 21, he’s 35. I have always dated guys my own age and never been attracted to older men. It was unusual when I found myself attracted to this man and now I can’t get him out of my head. I’ve tryed to ignore the chemistry, and dismissed it as a silly crush.

    The thing is, I think he likes me too but hasn’t done anything about it because he probably thinks he has no chance with me because I’m so much younger.

    Is there anything I can do without being too forward?

    2 months ago I would have said anything beyond a 10 yr age difference wasn’t right, I never saw this coming!!!!

  531. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 3:59 pm #

    You’ve gotta be ugly. Only the ugly OLD women get pissed about this…. Hummmmm

  532. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 11:30 am #

    I’m 17 years old and I am soooo in love with a 78 year old man. I took care of him in my work, it is to care to older people. He not wealthy but he is great in bed and soo much more mature and better looking than the dumdums my age who only want one thing. When I’m 18 we’ll get married and live happily ever after. Love is blind. But he is not and he is the only one to see me for who I am. I love older guys, who would ever want to date a guy under 40 anyway, they are all just gross dumdums anyway. They only want one thing, my guy loves me and he’s so adorable.

  533. Anonymous October 10, 2009 at 3:03 am #

    Older men don’t get a lot of attention from their older wives. Hee hee hee

  534. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 1:24 pm #

    funny, ive been married to a white woman for almost 12 years now, she in her mid 30’s and still gets asked if her parents are home when she answers the door(not kidding, she looks like she’s 18-19). we have been very happy together. she is truly an amazing woman!

  535. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 6:12 pm #

    Well, as I’ve just read lots of this discussion about age gaps, I feel I should just say in response to the comments about old men’s appearances being repulsive, or young women being easily manipulated etc, that I am 19 and have already been through a great deal in my life, in terms of a 3 year relationship from when I was 16, living away from home, and some other deep family issues. But I have come out of that stronger and more sure of what I want, rather than more emotionally vulnerable, and I want an older man who can truly care for me and give me the things I need, mental and physical stimulation and support to live my life how I want to live it.

    I found out how brilliant it was to be with an older man because my 30 year old friend who I have known for such a long time finally revealed how he felt about me, and the goodness and happiness I feel over-rode any initial doubts about that age gap. Having lived through his 20s he appreciates how important it is for me to live my life and do the things I need to do, including a university education, travel, etc. and is totally prepared to support me with them and hopefully join me in some ways.

    This to me, feels so comfortable and natural and I can support the idea that this age gap is ideal, because why would my needs fit so perfectly with his otherwise? He gets somebody who matches him in every way, and still has so much to give to him. I get every possible thing I could want from somebody mature and settled who is similarly strong in themselves. We connect so perfectly intellectually that I couldn’t give a hoot about whether this person ‘looks old’ – they look like the person I love, that’s all I know! I would always find that person attractive because of the brilliant person they are, the physical desire for them is just a plus and I am a firm believer that once you are in love everything about the person’s external appearance just lets their internal brilliance shine through, how could you not love that?

    As we are so right for each other as people, the age gap no longer even figures in my worries, and to the rest of the world around me who have issues with it, I just tell them that they don’t have to worry about me being insecure, they don’t have to worry about him being fake, they only have to deal with their own issues with this.

  536. Anonymous May 16, 2008 at 6:24 am #

    To the 21 year old woman who’s attracted to the 35 year old guy. It’s dead easy for you: just ask him out, and he’ll be yours instantly!! Few guys that age would pass off that chance.

  537. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 3:58 pm #

    You’ve gotta be ugly. Only the ugly OLD women get pissed about this…. Hummmmm

  538. Monica February 12, 2010 at 6:22 am #

    “Old men chasing young women: A good thing” No, it is not a good thing. It is just disgusting. That is all I have to say.


  539. Anonymous October 9, 2009 at 10:41 pm #

    I hate my mother-in-law. She’s f*cked up. She claims she is 55 but she looks like 65. I found out later that she changed her age when she was young. Her real age is 65. She is retired and has a lot of time on her hands to mind her daughter-in-law’s business. She is an old used- slut. She couldn’t get her shit together when she was young. And now that she’s old, she still can’t get her shit together. She only knows what ‘not to do’.

  540. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 12:15 pm #

    lol@ all these 70 year olds with 25 year olds.
    Too many on a single blog to be true – it’s just old farts wetting their pants with their over- active imaginations.

    What this research proves to me – the male race is a brand of kiddy snatchers. Lock up your embryos!

    I hate old men, someone put them out of their misery.

  541. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 4:00 pm #

    The point of the article was to talk age gap of 15-20 yrs. You women proove over and over again its what you want, a mature MAN thats more than 5 yrs older than yourself.

    Starts young, at 10 you are crushing your brothers older friends. As you get older your acceptable gap grows. At 25 you had your fun with the retarded youngsters and finally feel like a conversation, maturity, security and experience.

    I laugh at 19 yr old girls pulling their hair out with their 20 yr old partner and all the drama that pulls you apart. Its only a matter of time before they fall for a mature young man (rare) or for an intelligent mature man who finally makes them feel like a women.

    There are slobs at every age so this does not wash nice try. Why is it that Sean Connery is still on the top 10 want to sleep with list of women aged 18-30? I will tell you; its because they like his looks and the security he presents as a father figure.

    George Clooney as a 20-30 yr old was the biggest geek in hollywood but now he can bed any women over puberty pretty much. Why? Because he is mature, smooth and handsome. Brad Pitt is well into his 40’s, Angelina figured it out 12 yrs his junior nuff said.

    So if you are mature, have a look or 2 and take care of yourself and treat a women like she needs in and out of the bedroom (something retarded youngsters dont do) the young meat market is at your doorstep and ripe for the taking. Granted it is hard to gind a women under 25 with a brain yet but they are fun to test drive for hrs on end. If you can land a hottie 25 yrs your junior go for it.

    Why would ” I ” a handsome, educated 40 yr old man with a touch of grey well groomed (all over) who takes care of his body settle for the baggage of 40 yr old women who made the mistake of not hooking up with a better man to begin with when she wasn’t sagging, bitter and wrinkled.

    I believe women who are attracted to men 10+ yrs their senoir at a very young age are the smartest women of all. They skip lifes bullshit and go straight to real living as the women they always wanted to be.

    Maybe this is why I waited to get married at 38 (first) as I didnt find the right 30-40 yr old to spoil and take care of me as I do her (isn’t this what we do for each other).

    So, yes I am now 40 training for my 5th marathon, rescuing people in the mountains is my hobby and gosh darnet I dont even need viagra yet, my father is 70 and still gets her up so maybe I won the genetic lottery huh.

    Oh and by the way my adoring wife is a mature 27 blonde WOMEN, fit, size 5, natural D cups, goregeous with the tightest softest skin on the planet, a Masters degree, makes more money than me and tries to keep up with me to no avail.
    She cant wait to have kids and we are soon (first for both). She is the reason I waited.

    Her biggest grief with me is dealing with all the 19 yr olds checking me out :)

    What can I say. Guess she got tired of the 20 sec retarded boys out there and wanted a real man.

  542. Anonymous May 15, 2008 at 7:06 am #

    I am woman of 63 with a lover of 25, which is so good, so go for it even if he is so much older. My issue would be, is he able???

  543. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 3:54 pm #

    Guys over 50 keep reproducing! We need to improve the population and breed the bad genes out. What a great way to make the world a better place.

  544. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 4:38 am #


  545. Anonymous October 9, 2009 at 8:19 am #

    Well now you can see why older women aren’t exactly enthralled by older men either!

    They probably stare at you because you dress and act up to be stared at; hell for you would probably be if they all ignored you as it would mean you couldn’t brag about being so hot that bald ugly guys stare at you!

  546. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 10:13 am #

    By the ladies, some advice from a 17 year old.
    Avoid these ‘old men’ – who only like you cos you’re on one side of an expiry date.

    In terms of evolution/ Freud, women most like a man who LIKES HER. Think about it, what’s appealing about a man interested in youth in itself? Certainly no compliment to you and the opposite to evidence he’s gonna stick by you.

    In a study conducted at Edinburgh with university students, most women liked average status men who were attractive, as opposed to uglier high status men – these were both done with control groups. In the comments it was suggested this was because of the security women desire to care for their offspring. Youth is only a handful of years, women want security via protection as opposed to a bed hopping male with ‘resources’ (they can keep their prada handbag).

    This study is important as it suggests two things. 1, society is important.. Women have learned through socialisation rich, old men are steroetypically manipulative and not long lasting, which is counterproductive to desired security. 2, evolutionary ‘male resources’ are completely over- estimated.

    In terms of age, old men are ok if they appear to fancy you for who you are – women want a man over heels for her, and not just for young booty (most will suss what you want). But ALWAYS young men over old, if they’re basically the same otherwise.
    Old men might be able to reproduce, but does this mean they’re actually useful if so can all these guzillion other young blokes? Sounds like they get in the way to me.
    Old men coming on to you is also, erm, rather gross. Shame nature cruelly made the old badgers pointlessly reproductive. For most it’s pointless.

    And HELLO overpopulation! Would suggest very old men’s reproductivity is POINTLESS.

  547. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 11:17 am #

    I agree. If an older man wants a mother figure, then he should live with an older woman.

  548. Anonymous May 12, 2008 at 7:06 pm #

    I'[m 61 and available,, looking for a really younger girl to fall in love.

  549. Anonymous May 4, 2010 at 12:36 pm #

    Follow your Heart Love. You sound Happy with your words of sharing.
    You really touched my heart when you said you’d even grow older just to catch up with him…………….arrow straight to my heart.

    I’m happy for yall. Maybe those who don’t support your happiness have never found true happiness in their own lives. Or thought they had, and are now just trying to protect you from the pain they once felt or are still feeling. A form of love, but based on fear and hurt.

    I wish ya well.

  550. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 1:35 am #

    You said you are 18 YRS. OLD + A SENIOR IN HIGH SCHOOL dealing with some crusty 51 year old man who pretended to be a family friend. I say “pretended” because why is he going after their daughter. Did it ever occur to you that YOU may be the reason he befriended your parents to begin with? After all, how else was he going to gain access to you unless he moved through your parents, came over to the house while you were there, and so on. You are having sex with him. Don’t you just want to throw up? Probably not…you seem too confused to even be repulsed by this. Then you said he was “amazing in bed”. Now how the hell would YOU know? You don’t have enough sexual experience in general to know whether or not somebody is good in bed or not. I’m not trying to insult you because I know you are trying to act like a WOMAN older than your years but you are NOT. And this Buzzard told you he would “Always be in your heart”. That’s a freakin’ line from a movie- what was it “Jerry MacGuire” or something? Listen, a 51 yr. old man knows how to “word” things to make them sound more elegant or have different meaning than a boy your own age. The boy your own age & the 50 yr old guy are telling you the SAME EXACT THING, but your mind isn’t developed enough to be able to see that yet. Also, you feel strange about this or you wouldn’t post this. Also, girls like you are the ones that tend to go missing due 2 lack of good judgement. You MUST tell your parents what has happened between you & this guy so they can cut him out of their lives and yours. They can also warn their friends with teen kids. You MUST tell them this guy slept with you. He is the one in the wrong & for all U know, he’s a pedophile. Get out of this!!! RUN 4 UR LIFE!

  551. Anonymous October 9, 2009 at 8:13 am #

    You may want to resit that grammar class – disgusting

  552. BJS April 17, 2009 at 6:11 am #

    ‘Phil’ and his admirers sound an awful lot like a setup to sell something. Are there three of you, or one very lonely guy in Nebraska about to pitch cologne/pheromones/weights/etc?

  553. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 10:57 am #

    An older man thinks differently to a younger man. Usually, he will want the younger woman to look after him like a mother. She is not his mother. If he wants a mother figure, then he should move in with his real mother.

    He will also go on holidays and have a ball. Then when he’s back, he’ll expect the younger woman to run around doing things for him.

  554. Anonymous May 12, 2008 at 4:42 am #

    I am 54 and finding a man 73 years old to be very kind, caring and showing loving affection that I have craved all my life. Everyone says we are crazy and we have no future financially, and the evidence indicates that. Fulfillment in life can come in other ways than success. Happiness certainly does not come from $$$…you can’t eat it, touch it, feel that it loves you. That is what I get from this man. We both are giving up what others work a lifetime for. Security. Perhaps we can make it somehow.

  555. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 7:14 pm #

    Sorry it is not passion and love he is looking at you with but pure lust! A man of his age is probably going through male menopause and is reliving his youth through you. Think about it!

  556. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 1:30 am #

    You said you are 18 YRS. OLD + A SENIOR IN HIGH SCHOOL dealing with some crusty 51 year old man who pretended to be a family friend. I say “pretended” because why is he going after their daughter. Did it ever occur to you that YOU may be the reason he befriended your parents to begin with? After all, how else was he going to gain access to you unless he moved through your parents, came over to the house while you were there, and so on. You are having sex with him. Don’t you just want to throw up? Probably not…you seem too confused to even be repulsed by this. Then you said he was “amazing in bed”. Now how the hell would YOU know? You don’t have enough sexual experience in general to know whether or not somebody is good in bed or not. I’m not trying to insult you because I know you are trying to act like a WOMAN older than your years but you are NOT. And this Buzzard told you he would “Always be in your heart”. That’s a freakin’ line from a movie- what was it “Jerry MacGuire” or something? Listen, a 51 yr. old man knows how to “word” things to make them sound more elegant or have different meaning than a boy your own age. The boy your own age & the 50 yr old guy are telling you the SAME EXACT THING, but your mind isn’t developed enough to be able to see that yet. Also, you feel strange about this or you wouldn’t post this. Also, girls like you are the ones that tend to go missing due 2 lack of good judgement. You MUST tell your parents what has happened between you & this guy so they can cut him out of their lives and yours. They can also warn their friends with teen kids. You MUST tell them this guy slept with you. He is the one in the wrong & for all U know, he’s a pedophile. Get out of this!!! RUN 4 UR LIFE!

  557. Anonymous October 9, 2009 at 5:59 am #

    When was the last time you kissed your older wife?

    An older man who is committed to the marriage institution should go down on his older wife. If he doesn’t, that means he does not love her.

    He’s just keeping her there as a maid to cook his food, wash and iron his clothes, etc…. But as far as love is concerned, he does not love her. As as soon as he finds a younger woman, he will dump her (his older wife).


  558. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 3:46 am #

    This 72 year old guy can only be Phil. Right? To all who don’t know this guy, if it is Phil, he is amazing. I’ve seen women come on to him in clubs. He stands around in well tailored suits and has girls drooling. I’ve seen him take down a big Russian guy without breaking a sweat. I wish I could bottle whatever he has and sell it.

  559. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 10:34 am #

    Have you ever been with an older man who is annoying and a burden to live with?

  560. Anonymous May 6, 2008 at 10:13 pm #

    I am 24 and my husband is 60. We have been married for 5 years and have a wonderful healthy daughter, and a son on the way. My husband is more active than I am. He is in better shape than most men MY age. Older men have more to offer a woman. They are experienced in life. I am not with my husband for money and he is not with me because I am young and hot. We are together because we both want the same things in life. He is not a “wrinkled boring old man”! There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting a man who knows how to respect her, treat her as an equal and who can care for her. My husband makes me feel safe, loved and respected. Men my age that I have been with have only wanted to party, drink and have sex. I don’t think young woman should have to settle for less just because society says they have to be with men there age. Everyone, man or woman, has the right to be happy, feel loved, respected, and protected. Age shouldn’t stop a couple from being together.
    And our sex life is very good by the way!

  561. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 5:05 pm #

    I appreciate you’re sharing on this blog.

    I’m a little confused though about your dilemma. I would have thought that upon dating this 41 year old guy, that you both would have entered into some discussion around having children…. especially since you are younger.

    Although I’m in the early 40ish mode and have dated men who also have had children from previous relationships, we still have discussed whether or not we’d want to try for a child of our own, stick with his kids (my being a step mother) or even possibly adopt. I guess, I’m just confused that your husband didn’t realize how important it’d be for you to have children.

    Perhaps you can share with him what it would mean to you to have children together with him and the joys of motherhood (seeing the “little people” grow and develop from infancy to teens to adulthood, etc). I pray that your husband might be open to engaging in such a discussion with you. (I wouldn’t advocate for simply doing nothing and hoping you’ll get over it).

  562. Anonymous February 12, 2010 at 1:02 am #

    Well no, actually it’s too bad for the young woman who’s going to have to take care of your old azz. Plus she’ll be a widow between 10-15 yrs. from now. I don’t like this ATTITUDE that men seem to have towards women their own ages, men who think they look so hot & are good lovers. In reality are NOT hot- they are fugly themselves. At least women can put make up on. I feel so sorry for this young woman dealing with you because like I said, she WILL have to take care of you…and she’s going to get SICK of it.

  563. Anonymous October 8, 2009 at 6:02 pm #

    I’ve been lucky. I’ve been able to pursue both younger and older women and can say that one is lucky to find happiness with anyone. You can be with a lot of people but that doesn’t guarantee happiness. I’ve had a girlfriend who was only 20 and she was far more mature and calm and classy than the 50 year old Yale grad who had a stick up her ass. I’ve had a girlfriend close to my age and while she was a fun person her priorities were all out of whack. You never can tell what you’ll end up with. So I decided a long time ago to give all attractions a chance. One of them may work out for the long-haul. Age really doesn’t matter.

  564. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 3:42 am #

    Almost 50 years diffrence! What is your secret?

  565. Anonymous March 16, 2009 at 10:18 am #

    Well, one cannot open a new door unless one closes the old door.

  566. Anonymous January 26, 2010 at 10:51 am #

    Nothing is wrong with you. You like who you like, that’s nature taking it’s course.. On the other hand that’s your friends father, that’s where the problem begins. Have you talked with your friend yet to see what they think about it….

  567. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 3:24 pm #

    ME = 16 years old
    BOYFRIEND = 53 years old

    :-) but very happy :-)

  568. Anonymous February 11, 2010 at 5:07 pm #

    How do you stop some one who calls you every day with out stop even though you don’t unswer his phone all day until the next day he call again. How do you tell him not to call you even though he was your friend but he wants to be more than a friend but you don’t want to be more than a friend with him. That creates argument with him each day he call. He never understand no means. he never understand I have some one means.

  569. Anonymous October 8, 2009 at 7:19 am #

    “This 22 year old is more mature than alot of women I have dated closer in age.”

    What is age? Just a number. Some people change their age. If a person acts and looks older that her age, there is a possibility that she’s changed her age. I know people who have done it.

  570. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 3:39 am #

    I am 72, look 55 or so and in better physical condition than many men in their 30’s I was career army wtih Airborne/Ranger duties which require good conditioning – to say the least. I am dating a beautiful and sexy 25 year old woman and we have a great time, in and out of bed. We dance and do Tango, Mamba – all the hot dances. I spin her, dip her, hold her over my head and we always get rounds of applause.

    I always remind her that I won’t be around foerever but she just hugs me and says not to worry. She is very affectionate and I treat her two year old son as if he were mine.

    I don’t think I’m being fair to her because, as I said, I won;t be around forever. I am nowhere near wealthy. I live on military retirement and social security. She isn’t into me for money. She likes the way I look and likes the way I act. She tells me that my spirit is 18. But, I want her to be happy and I feel that she should move on. I suppose I love her and I know she loves me. Quandary.

  571. Anonymous August 14, 2009 at 6:00 am #

    If a old guy would like to date a much younger woman, here is a suggestion. When she is ready to lose her virginity, he should lose his at the same time. Maybe she is 18 and he is 35, or better yet he’s 50. If he can wait that long to lose his virginity, great. She should be his, he has paid his dues. This Idea that a guy will start a family etc… then hook up with some other virgin or virgin approximate, later on, is nonsense.
    For the most part I understand that women want a guy with some resources to take care of her. However, that can pass into the area of indulgence and excess to just plain greed. The old fools that marry them, may very well deserve them. The women that dig into such a match probabley deserve the situation, too. I can’t imagine the type of resentment and insecurity that, that creates in both parties over the long term.
    Probably, for the way the situation is layed out, a good match would be with the guy to be a few years the senior member of the relationship, maybe 5 years, more or less.
    Some of these cultures, where men took multiple wives and had much younger wives, had shortages of men.
    Also, I always felt younger when I was with older people and older when I was with younger folks.

  572. Anonymous May 3, 2008 at 5:39 am #

    This is sexist what about women who have babies late in life is that good for the species too? I read that as a man gets older his sperm ages too, can that effect the health of the baby? Would a woman have a healthier baby with a younger man? And the older man may not live long enough to truly be there for the child . Women are having children later in life and with new techniques are having children very old even in their 60s … its all kind of weird. Personally I think menopause was created to give women a break from childbearing. In this society of population growth out of control maybe less children are better?

  573. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 3:04 pm #





  574. Anonymous February 11, 2010 at 11:49 am #

    im 19 and my bf is 36 i know the age difference sounds insane when you write and tell people about it. but i love being in this relationship with him, we are so much a like. i’ve been living with him for almost a year and dated him when i was 17, of course my parents disapproved and thought i was going through a phase, but were still together and hes not controlling as a matter of fact he wants me to succeed. we are planning to get married as soon as i get my masters degree in biology

  575. Anonymous October 7, 2009 at 8:15 pm #

    43 yr old man seeing 22 year old woman

    “I am not taking advantage of her. I am not a pedophile.”

    That is exactly what you are – a pedophile whose moral codes are corrupted.

    Note: This person is a fool. 22 year old does not equal an 8 year old.

  576. Anonymous April 17, 2009 at 1:51 am #

    I know a man that has had 3 wives, the last 2 younger – 10 years at least. He was divorced – all three times. He’s dated girls that are younger than his daughters and they really have a lot of problems with him. Now that he’s rich, his desire is for even younger women (now he’s in his 60’s and his girl-friend’s are in their 30’s & some 20’s) Here is his complaint – “the sex is good, we have nothing in common.” I told him to quit complaining, if he’s going to date children, then he shouldn’t be surprised when they act like children, can’t carry on an adult conversation with him, etc…He does that with women closer to his age – doesn’t tell them that he’s living with a 30-year old, gets very close and ends up hurting the women closer to his age, and they are not out to use his “Black” AMEX card for shopping trips. This man is a fool. He says he will never marry again, and in the last few years has had 3-4 relationships with young women that take him for every dime he’ll dish out, and then he always ends up alone, calling the women closer to his age (at least 10-years or so – not too bad) for good conversation and fun…then another young girl comes along – and there he goes once again. I ‘d bet that within the next 3-5 years, if he’s not dead, he’ll be so scared of being alone for the rest of his life that he’ll change his mind about women closer to his age. He’s going to want someone he can talk to, someone he can relate to when he’s ready to retire and settle down and someone who will love him for who he is, and not how much money he has. When two people grow old together, the sex can be fantastic – especially in a marriage. You stop worrying about how well you’re performing and intimacy takes over, and you can’t get enough of each other. That’s love and that is what it’s really all about.

  577. Anonymous August 14, 2009 at 2:55 am #

    What messages are OLDER WOMEN getting by reading all those comments on this site? Are they getting the message that they are USELESS to their husbands?

    ‘Cause if you read between the lines, you’ll see that is EXACTLY what the older men are trying to say.

    I feel sorry for all those older women out there.

  578. Anonymous February 8, 2009 at 8:16 am #

    I am 25, my husband is 61. I am a size 4 after having 2 children. I am not the same size 2 as before the kids but I am far from fat and ugly! I also have high selfesteem! I am in college, I am also on the national deans list. So this crap u wrote just makes no sence.
    I am sorry that u r fat and ugly or just plain dumb and can’t get any guy to like u. Or maybe u r a guy who can’t get a pretty girl because of older men. Get over yourself. Not all older men, younger women relationships are because of looks, money. But just because they aren’t based on looks doesn’t mean that’s because both involved are unattractive. My husband and I are very attractive.
    Get a life!

  579. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 2:23 pm #

    Find a life and date a beautiful, loving woman your own age. Just because a younger women is more fertile doesn’t mean she’s better or wants to date you and if she does she has other issues going on (psychological in nature)…that is not love it’s sex and you know it. Let her grow old with a man around her own age. There are plenty of older beautiful women that can make you much happier. I am in my mid twenties and trust me I would never imagine how half of these young women/older men on here think that these relationships will ever last. I would never date a man my father’s age, much less grandpa’s age. I don’t care what people believe about all this article has tried to prove, but seriously, There is something so beautiful and respecful about an older man being with an older woman. It’s the way it’s supposed to be so knock it off all you old men who try to chase younger women…please!

  580. passing for human February 11, 2010 at 10:39 am #

    All this study proves is that there are still too many old men doing dubious science.

  581. Anonymous October 8, 2009 at 4:20 pm #

    I’m not young, but I’m not yet old & I find older men very interesting on a physical, mental, emotional & sexual level. They do treat me differently than men my own age, but that may be because I WANT them to notice me – I may be missing some men my age looking my way, but I’m fine with living with my blinders on.
    To the young women who get offended when “ugly” old men look at them, please remember a piece of advice my father gave me when I was in high school:
    Remember that when you dress to be noticed by a certain guy, ALL guys are certain to notice you. You have to prepare yourself for the ones you want to notice you to not say a thing and the ones you don’t want looking at you to approach you. Think about that before you wear that short skirt & that much makeup out of the house.

  582. Anonymous April 16, 2009 at 6:33 pm #

    Guys who wants an old girl ? I fu*ked an 18 when i was 34 and i loved it and she loved it. this is what i call a girl. older than 30 means baggage and complexes. remember women should mostly be concubines to men except the select few smart wise sexy lovely ones.

  583. Anonymous August 14, 2009 at 2:41 am #

    Old Pervert

  584. Anonymous April 26, 2008 at 1:14 pm #

    That’s the worst part, but he IS amazing!

  585. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 6:27 am #

    Iam 54 in very good health divorced and if i had the chance to have a young wife and she wanted to have a baby with me oh wow i would just love that.
    Looking back on my life all i did was work and try to make as much money as i could and provide for my wife.
    However we never had any childern and i now wish so very much that we had.
    So i think the man who dont want to make babys with you is missing something so wonderful its a shame.
    I would love to be him and would love you to get in touch with me if you want to make a change in your life.

  586. Jonathon February 11, 2010 at 2:40 am #

    is true that men chasing old women for the good thing?.. and in what kind of a “thing” in a good side that since women can think mature than men?… I have a friend and where working as an
    essay writers and working in an essay writing services company.Her boyfriend is younger than her.And she has a feeling has her boy friend is also chasing other women like same age as her.

  587. Anonymous October 7, 2009 at 7:07 am #

    So far so good. I made sure and talked about age difference with her. She is ok with it and has also stated she could not see herself with anyone else. Now Like any relationship anything can happen. Hell I would be leery more if I was dating one closer in age? Why? Most women are insecure to point of running mates off. This 22 year old is more mature than alot of women I have dated closer in age. I really didnt think our relationship would evolve but it has and I am taking it one day at time as of now.

    Now I am not taking advantage of her. I am not a pedophile LOL. Nor do I feel as if it is anyone elses business. I do agree in time we both will know where this is headed. Two months in all seems ok but we shall see.

    For you one’s that are critical look in a mirror people might be judging you one day and you want like it. What is the old saying Those that cast the first stone. Anyway just get a life and allow others to be happy. Alot of you guys seem to not be happy and dont want others that way.

  588. Anonymous April 16, 2009 at 11:29 am #

    It’s the pervert factor. Yeah we know you old men can’t get enough of us teens, but the fact creeps us out a bit. You drooling over 19 year olds makes you sound like special eds.

    The older men get the pervier they get. Hence why, with the choice, a young guy over and over. Older men have a really high rate of infidelity in relationships, even with younger women. They don’t stick around and according to the shittest science in the world (evolutionary bullshit psych) women like SECURITY.

    Older men are desperate to move onto the next young bit. As you can see one guy here is 48 nearing even male infertility and wants to leave his 20 something wife. You’re never secure with an old bloke. Women trying to ‘keep husbands’ make me sick. Get an education in the first place retards! Then you won’t need a balding wild boar to perv on your daughter’s friends.

    Girl Tired With All You Perverts

  589. redd1975 December 8, 2009 at 10:03 am #

    I am 34 and my boyfriend is 49. We have been together for almost 2 years now and I love him with all my heart. We have had our momments as a couple but I wouldn’t trade him for the world. He has 2 grown boys whom I adore as well and my son is almost grown. We are now expecting a little girl. A shock to both of us but I can honestly say I wouldn’t change a thing. He is just a couple years younger then my mom but my parents except him with no issue. I think age is just a number so don’t feel guilty for one momment she seems to be a smart young woman and if you were lucky enough to get her then you should keep her. And as far as people looking down on it, I think most are just jealous because they either don’t have the same connection to someone or they are ignorant. I look at it like interracial dating live and let live. Best wishes to you and yours.

  590. Anonymous April 18, 2008 at 3:21 pm #

    Good for you! totally agree. Older men even into there later 70’s do know what women in their 40’s want and need. I enjoyed the relationship I once had with my special someone just too bad it had to end wish I could have made it last but too many obstacles were in our way. We are still go friends and that is all I could hope for.

  591. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 3:03 am #

    find a woman your own age grandpa!

  592. Anonymous February 10, 2010 at 9:46 pm #

    … but now i have met someone closer to my age. i am 22 and he is 27. we are just friends for now but i would love to be his girlfriend. problem is he keeps on saying he wants a gf but he doesnt ask me out, so i dont know if thats a hint or does he really just not see mee as any options for a girlfriend?

    The sex we have is fantastic, and we like to be in each others arms, but then i go home and thats it…
    he also recently told me he has a drinking problem which automatically awakend my instincts to help him and want to be there for him but now he is pushing me away…

    I dont know what to do..please just advise me i dont need more attitudes from anyone else.


  593. Anonymous October 6, 2009 at 12:31 am #

    “im preganant im 23 years old women ,,,and my husband is 74years old im afraid its my first baby, i dont know how to take care of this,,,,,im inlove to my husband even he is 74years old,,,he is great in lovemaking,,,,”

    Do you shit in bed, old man? A lot of old men tend to do that. In the morning, you see a bit of shit on the bedsheet. Old men are like babies.

  594. Anonymous April 16, 2009 at 5:21 am #

    “Old men chasing young girls are like dogs chasing cars; if they ever caught one they couldn’t drive it.”

    Heh. So true.

  595. Anonymous December 21, 2009 at 5:28 pm #

    infomed to me for more hlep

  596. Anonymous April 7, 2008 at 1:23 pm #

    Hi, I a 23 years old and met a guy at the age of 53 four years ago, we fell inlove and went through many things from feeling embarrassed to be seen with an older guy to problems of our own… insecurity. Eventually things worked out, we had a beautiful baby boy nine months ago and got married last weekend which we were planning before our baby was born. it was beautiful and so many people are happy for us. I love him with all my heart and all I want to do is make him happy but some how I do think things are slowly but surely changimg in the bedroom is it the same with you or is it bound to happen?

  597. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 2:49 am #

    First of all, me and my girlfriends have been reading this article and reading the posts…We have to say that as younger women we think it’s a big joke. It seems like half of the people who have posted on this are from down south (deep down south) and the other half are from foreign countries where they think it’s okay for grandpa’s friend or dad’s friend to marry them. Oh yeah, let’s not forget those old guys that are basically bound to wind up in jail for being sooooo incredibly creepy. To all you old geezers who can’t check out women who are in your own stage of life…can’t appreciate a women who actually is mature and smart and has had experience, please, give me a break. To all of our beautiful mothers and grandmothers who have to deal with you or come across men like you we say “you are way too good for this low calibur of men.” Hey, I am not saying don’t live your life in a happy way, but by happy I don’t mean preying on younger women and being gross old delirious a-holes. Hey…this goes for the older women younger men thing too. All of it is distasteful and all those who have posted on this site saying otherwise, we would really hope that you would open your eyes to the reality of these men and these situations. Love is growing old together and you can’t do that with a man who is into much younger women…I am sorry to say girls. And men…you seriously need to wake up and see the value and beauty in women your own age. Sad.

  598. lookingcougarlove February 10, 2010 at 7:52 pm #

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  599. Anonymous October 8, 2009 at 10:36 pm #

    In reality, if a worn out old pervert approaches a young woman, he will get a slap in the face.

  600. Anonymous April 15, 2009 at 11:27 pm #

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  601. Anonymous December 21, 2009 at 5:17 pm #

    this man is old not goed for your see to anther man ples.

  602. Anonymous April 6, 2008 at 8:37 pm #

    I see; If a man is healthy and vigorous enough to impregnate women into his 50s and 60s, he will pass those good genes along, doing a favor to the human race.
    I will do my part! — Benjamin

  603. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 2:26 am #

    You who have commented on this article saying that it’s a good thing are all mentally ill. These old men aren’t men they are little boys and they are seriously pathetic. Not only that, but who can have respect for a man like that! I am a young women in her 20s and I would NEVER date a man more than ten years older than I am. I have read many (contradictory) articles upon age difference and have actually found that age difference over a ten year gap actually increases the risk of seperation. I don’t know what all you women are doing, you are making us look bad. Just don’t be suprised when you hit your late thirties and early forties he starts snooping around for even younger women. These types of men aren’t the geriatric prince charmings of your dreams. They are losers and you should let them know that. If they can’t date women their own age or can’t stand the thought then leave them where they should be, old, alone and miserable. Just think about it for a second…please.

  604. Anonymous February 10, 2010 at 6:26 pm #

    younger/older men men are so
    younger/older men
    men are so crazy. They don’t understand when a girl said she has some one. That mean she doesn’t need them but guys don’t understand. Some men they get so angry on her because she doesn’t want to respond to them. some men get angry when she ignore them some men get angry when she told them the truth that she does’t want any thing to do with them except friendship then they can say what ever they want to say if it will help them to make her down by the hope she might like them if they make her down. But what they don’t understand is nothing will make her down.

    most men they talk about sex how good they will be in bed. What they don’t know is she already know them how good or bad they will be with out trying them.

    When a girl see a guy she know any where but she doesn’t stop to talk that guy or any other guys she know. If she was looking at that guy but she still pass him with out stoping her car to say some thing to that guy or if she doesn’t email him any more like she used to or if she doesn’t call him back right away in the same day after the guy call. That show she not interested in sexual way with any of those guys except friend ship. That way make her to go away not to stop. What they don’t understand is they don’t know what she is feeling they just hope she might feel the same way but she can’t feel them. Other women they might feel those guys but not her. She might like them as a friend but to go farther is she has to feel the love inside of her other wise nothing will change.

    Many people they can celebrate valetines day even though there is love or no love to feel. Then you do it because evey body do it. For her she has to feel real love in side of her to show or to accept that love to some one she really love. There is no fake love for her. either she feel it or not. They can call her they can try to go out with her but for her is nothing unless she feel some thing.

    She might talk to them on the phone or go out to eat with them or email them but it doesn’t mean she is feeling them any thing other than just as a friend talk and email. There is something she wants to feel from a guy, there is something she wants that will make the guy to be very special to her then there is something she wants to do with that special person but not with others.

    .Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Feb 10th, 2010 at 6:51 pm

    .Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Feb 10th, 2010 at 7:12 pm.

  605. Anonymous October 8, 2009 at 9:12 pm #

    “the ones you don’t want looking at you approach you.”

    Yeah, the ones with no moral sense tend to approach you. The ones who are old enough to be your father. It just shows that their perception of reality is distorted.

    I THINK OLDER MEN SHOULD REALLY GET OVER THEIR BIGOTRY ABOUT OLDER WOMEN. They should approach older women instead, or give their older wives the attention they need. Just because their wives are older, doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings.

    When MEN say that they’re the ones COMMITTED to the marriage institution, what do they mean by that’? What do they mean by ‘commitment’?
    I believe part of that commitment is to enjoy the sight of your older wife and make love to her instead of watching porno on the computer.

  606. Anonymous April 14, 2009 at 10:02 pm #

    No you don’t i no the Differnce between somone thatsmeans what they say and someone just trying to make a joke but guest what hun you are only makeing your self look like a joke by even posting this and if you are rich then guess what by the time you hint 50 are 55 she will be gone and with half of your money if not all If she isnt already gone what you got you might think that your slick but trust me from 18 and now she is 28 you must be givein up a lot of $cash$ to her .goAhead show her things and take her places let her meet some of your rich friends and then turn behind your back and watch her bag them to and leave you go. Ahead i no men like you yes i do and i no the type of girls you get and u might think that you got her and can keep her but trust me pushing her to far will make you go over they edge and leave them pictures around the house she probly all ready bagin the pool boy are the cook Dirty old man keep a close eye on wifey cause she might already be finding someting new . ////////////// AND I MEAN EVERY WORD I SAY AND I REALLY DO

  607. Anonymous December 21, 2009 at 12:07 pm #

    I’m in my late 40’s after 2 decades of marriage to my high school sweetheart and I’m seeking a 20 something with young fertile eggs with whom to start a new family. As sterile and scientific as that sounds, that is what it boils down to now…

    Dating 20 somethings is… interesting, nonetheless. It’s either great for them or creepy, depending upon the parochialism of the geography and their own personal demeanor.

    What I find is that I am more intense and direct than most younger women; probably because I’ve been there and done that; I know what I want and how to go about making it happen, perhaps… respond to: richcunningham5@yahoo.com

  608. Anonymous April 6, 2008 at 1:43 am #

    I for one am happy to see two people get together and be happy; I don’t care about the age thing. I don’t think it’s for me, but then, I’m in a great relationship with my husband who’s essentially my age, so I’m not looking. But I think that being with someone is different than creating a child with them, and I think it’s great that more attention from the scientific community is being given to what risks, if any, there are to reproducing children when parents are older.

  609. Anonymous May 3, 2010 at 6:11 am #

    none of you gyes on here no the other, situations can differ. if you really love an older gye its fine. one of my best mates is 16 and has been dating a 21 year old for 2 years.
    the main thing u should be thinking abou though, is why would a 19- 20 year old want to date a 16 year old? it may be that he really loves her but if not you should take care. if you are an older gye considering on dating a younger girl, u really need to think about it b4 u do anything. if your only with her for your own sake, then that is wroung, very wrong. teens and younger women are very inpressionable, and a bad exsperisoce can really mess with there heads. im a 15 year old girl from england, and iv kinda had an on and of relationship with a 19 nearly 20 year old gye for a year. it ended with him crushing my heart, so girrlz dont make the same mistacks as me

  610. Anonymous February 10, 2010 at 4:48 pm #

    i have been on this site before and for those who are thinking is it wrong or right to be in love with an older man, well at the end of the day it is up to you. you need to stop thinking about the right and wrog of it, if you are legal then go for it, if you love them go for it. The older man or woman relationship can be difficult but if you can overcome those times then you can come through anything. For those who give negative comments towards it have either neither been in this situation or have had bad experiences. all in all everyone is allowed to give their opinions but then again people dont have to listen to them. I am living with a 45 yr old man and im a mature 18 yr old and i love him i am happy with. My parents dont like it but at the end of the day they have got their own life now and people grow up and have to make decision for themselves .

  611. Anonymous October 5, 2009 at 7:57 am #

    Everyone can tell by your comment that you are lying. You are a 74 year old middle-easterner looking for a teenage bride. Go get some counseling or better yet, kill yourself off now.

  612. Anonymous April 15, 2009 at 9:26 am #


    I had 47 plus years with my late English wife and they were years of the heart.


  613. Anonymous December 21, 2009 at 1:16 am #

    Thank you for your advise on my ad and for not going mental on me…i do appriciate it.

    well im sure he just wants sex, and im thinking to myself he has lived his live, and who is he to “take” my young life away from me??? am i being over sensetive about this???

    i still do believe that this thing between us is wrong, but you are right, boys my age are exactly that- BOYS!!!
    they just care about their status, and how hot the girl is next to them, im a nice, pretty, cute girl…well i hope, but im not a skinny little super model, and boys my age has this huge hangup about that,and this guy does not!!!

    oh shit im so confused….

    oh and as fot the 52 y/o guy who is married, pls do tell me why you like younger girls?? im not advertising to find an older married man, 1 is bad enough…im not attacking you but i am interested in knowing pls.

  614. Anonymous April 2, 2008 at 11:27 am #

    So many different positions on a subject that is kind of delicate. To those that have come out successful & claim to have found true love- Bravo! To those who are so naive and judgmental take a look at the reality of how prevalent this is. After all, it does an evolutionary base. BUT for our society now, does this evolutionary basis really seem all that relevant? No, not ALL women who marry are in it purely for the money or security I assume, but it definitely makes you question their motives.

    I read a comment from someone who is 50 and married to a 29 yr old woman with a 1 yr old child…WITH a 1 yr old grandchild. See, for me being in the position of the child from the original marriage who has that grandchild that is the same age as their aunt/uncle it’s kind of hard to swallow. That means your half brother/sister is over 20something years younger than yourself. Logically this doesn’t seem like it constitutes a good formula for a healthy, happy family…but eh, when put in that situation you have to just deal I assume. I guess form the evolutionary standpoint it’s perfectly ok…because, after all, it turns out that older men chasing younger women contributes to human longevity…right?! Too bad polygamy is illegal now.

    I agree with some other comments…this article sounds as if they tweaked the data to feed their need to boost their male egos and reiterate that men are important all the way to old age.

    Within 5-7 years is your best bet.

  615. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 3:35 pm #

    p.s im from England so legal age for sex is 16 so i understand what the laws are like in America etc and that what i have said can be seen in a different light but here its fine and if anything the majority of people i know have older boyfriends, girls mature much quicker than lads so we look for old maturer men.

  616. Anonymous February 10, 2010 at 12:05 pm #

    young and old is just physical. But Love is not physical. It is emotional. You can have all the satisfaction of young lovers if you and your old man understand each other and love each other and do things with mutual interest and satisfaction without any inhibition. You can get full satisfaction as if you have had a physical intercourse with him if he knows how to bring you to the climax by tickling your sensitive organs particularly the G spot. You can enjoy fully without any exceptions due to the difference in age.

  617. Anonymous October 4, 2009 at 12:13 pm #

    *sigh* guys, u shld know by now that women are bitchy and selfish most of the times.
    Yes, they are, they will never change.
    I am from a girl’s school and I know how mean they can get. And thank god for guys or girls will start ripping each other’s heads off. Around guys, girls are generally more kind and from somewhat of a pact/group to protect themselves.

    Romance is a joke now… I really hope it can change though.
    I will do my best. But guys and girls, I really think being single is still the best.

    But I would like to be fair and explain why females’ attitude is this way.
    In a relationship, it must be mutual. However, more often than not, the males are out of the picture (responsibilities!). Mothers are not always there to clean after them, I think guys being men should know this already. And don’t forget, a females’ instinct is always on guard for their interests. Maybe that’s why they are selfish and bitchy.

    I seriously think that girls should start thinking like men and not be the classic, naive girl and grow up. Females can be so fussy and calculative. And men should start acting like men and not run away from reality, parents aren’t always there to clean after u.

  618. Anonymous April 13, 2009 at 2:30 pm #

    I mean every word I say and I repeat:
    I am 48 yr old and wealthy. My wife is 28. I met her when she was 18. As soon as she is 30 she will be getting Botox treatments and other cosmetic procedures. If she refuses to get cosmetic surgery then shes gone. She knows the score. I dont want to be with an old boot when I can be with someone who looks good. I often leave pictures of attractive young women around the house so as to remind her of how she needs to look.

  619. Anonymous December 20, 2009 at 9:47 pm #

    I am an attractive mature man 49 years of age but my mind tells me that I am much younger that this. My body is still in good shape too. I am attracted to the youthfulness of younger women. I am not ready to roll over and die, I have too much life in me. If there is somewhere to find women who are looking for older men please contact me at glenlivet@live.ca

  620. Renaisauce April 2, 2008 at 4:20 am #

    Interesting. I’ve read something similar: “when there’s paleoanthropology…there’s paleoanthropology.” Words to live by, youngsters.

  621. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 3:29 pm #

    Im 16 and have been with my boyfriend of 20 for a year and a half, obviously people of the older generations do look down on the age gap sometimes but when they see its a love like any other and that we are very happy they identify there isnt a difference, your love finds you no matter what, you cant help what your drawn to.

  622. Anonymous February 9, 2010 at 9:03 am #

    I love my husband … we have amazing sex every night . I’m 21 hes 45.

    so i would!!!

  623. Anonymous October 4, 2009 at 12:38 am #

    im preganant im 23 years old women ,,,and my husband is 74years old im afraid its my first baby, i dont know how to take care of this,,,,,im inlove to my husband even he is 74years old,,,he is great in lovemaking,,,,

  624. Anonymous April 13, 2009 at 8:51 am #

    I am unplugging my cable modem.

  625. Anonymous December 20, 2009 at 6:21 am #

    well its definitely wrong if he is married.i assume he already has children.But there is no love in his marriage.he is with his wife only for the sake of the children or just-like-that.

    But since its only recently that u met him,u cannot trust him.He might only be having some fun or whatever.

    But if he makes you laugh,which i presume boys your age dont,then i think you can continue your ‘relationship’.But at 1 point in time you must both discuss what exactly u want from your relationship and you should also know how his wife will react when she comes to know of u.

  626. Maurice2008 April 2, 2008 at 3:34 am #

    somewhere I read “when there´s chemistry… there’s chemistry”, that’s it.

  627. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 1:41 pm #

    Hi ‘emismartng@yahoo.com’.love this. i’m in love with a 60 yr old man.cant sleep or think rightly without him.i’m just 24 nd dnt knw what my parents would say wen i present him as my husband.pls can u advise me?cos he wants to marry me.thanks.

  628. Anonymous February 9, 2010 at 8:41 am #

    I am 20 and my fiance is 45. we have been together for two years now. He completes me … he says in his other half.
    I have always liked older men and lots of people knew but once they actually saw that i was with one, some freaked out. its funny because once they all met him and say how much of and awesome guy he is they liked him. i love my man with all i got

  629. Anonymous October 3, 2009 at 12:47 pm #

    I’m an attractive 26 year old female that has always had a great relationship with my parents. I’m well educated and my “peer group” ranges from 21 to 61 years of age. There are a few guys around my age that actually show the maturity that I seek in a relationship, but unfortunately they’d rather have the prissy girls that would lead them around by the nose, put them down, and spend all their money. It’s not that the older men chase me, but for some reason, they are the only ones that act approachable for conversation. The boys are always looking for a quick piece of ass. I pursued my current boyfriend (51), not for money or status, but because I knew my life would be less without him in it. He fell for me, eventually.

    In the end, it has nothing to do with “There’s no contest” with older men, or younger… What there is “no contest” with is personal preference. Quit trying to control the rest of the population and just accept people’s differences. It’s not YOUR life, so what’s it matter?

  630. Anonymous April 13, 2009 at 8:34 am #

    This internet site should be banned.

  631. Anonymous December 20, 2009 at 2:33 pm #

    Why are you looking for a younger woman? And how young?

  632. Anonymous March 29, 2008 at 10:13 pm #

    I am 21 and I have always been attracted to older men. I have had one relationship with a man my age, it was the longest lasting relationship but I couldn’t say why. I think alot of that 2 years was spent wasting time.
    I love feeling protected. Older men are secure. I realise that relationships are give and take and you’re always learning new things together or from one another, but I get so frustrated with inexperience and feeling like I’m the more mature one in the relationship. I want my man to be my solid ground, be the wiser half.
    For a woman I think its fair to have a few expectations, I mean.. we will be carrying their child and then pushing it out one day. Ha.
    All good and well there, however I DO appreciate a certain degree of wealth in my men. Not because I’m a gold digger who wants a life of sitting on my arse without doing a thing, driving a BMW. But because when the day arrives that im a wife and a mother, I don’t want to be a ‘Working Mother’. I want to spend those vital years at home with my children. I want my kids to have no boundaries on the activities they do, or schools they attend. Therefore, for what I want, I require a man who makes a fair amount of money.
    Attraction is another issue, some find the idea of being with an older person a little repulsive. But at the end of the day, its your souls that are connecting. I think its important to be able to look at your partner and think to yourself “I love you”, but is it really neccesary to go through life looking at your partner thinking “Gawwdd, your a sexy devil”. Beauty doesn’t last forever. I consider myself a very attractive individual, which I’m not ashamed to admit. But I would be very disturbed if some one was to consider pursuing a relationship with me for my appearance. Because… where will they be when im 40 and I’m still madly in love with them? They may not be with me any more.
    Summing it up, concluding with this.. There is nothing wrong with wanting a stable older man who will always practise respect within the home and pass on valuable lessons to their offspring. Money makes the world spin, unfortunately. Theres no such thing as a free lunch, so we need money, yes? Some need more than others and its a personal decision and is not to be judged.
    One day (if all goes to plan) I will be able to offer my children the old fashioned stay at home Mum and a wise and respectful father.

  633. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 1:38 pm #


  634. Anonymous February 9, 2010 at 5:24 pm #

    Stay away they think money can control you and treat you anyway they want. A peace of mind is best for everyone. I can say for my self 53 and 29 don’t go together. He may need some younger person.

  635. Anonymous October 3, 2009 at 1:50 am #

    I’m a 44 year old male that finds women 40+ way more beautiful than women half my age. It seems that many of the younger women these days really try to get noticed when there is a successful, decent mannered, good looking 40+ man in their presence. That’s fine by me…But I truly have no interest in you. Mostly because of your lack of life experience.. It’s really evident by the lack of social skills. Most of the 40+ women that I know look great because they take good care of themselves. They are classy and know how to handle themselves in a social situation. They dress nicely and wear clothing that is age appropriate. They care so much about their appearance they don’t cover their bodies in tattoos, get multiple facial/genital piercings or shave off all of their pubic hair and wear jeans that constantly display their ass crack… A hot looking mature woman doesn’t need tattoos,multiple piercings and the thong and ass crack displayed to attract a real man that’s her age. Sorry… when we do happen to look at a younger woman in her ridiculous costume, it’s for a good laugh…. It doesn’t mean that we “want you”…. It’s just really funny to see what a young woman will do to her appearance attract a young man…. Can’t believe you actually invested your time and money to accomplish that look…And you think you look HOT!!! Keep telling yourself that as you get another tattoo or nipple piercing.. That just might be the ticket to your future young husband. He’ll have a great career going at McDonalds…….. You will be launching your lucrative career at Burger King across the street. When you find out he’s cheating on you with the girl at work in charge of washing lettuce, it will be over and onto your next pierced,tattooed broke young man… Let’s hope you didn’t bring yet another bastard kid into the world…. You may just need something from a nasty, wrinkled, used up 44 year old man…. Most likely in the form of your share of Government assistance that that used up old man has been paying taxes into for years. Because most people won’t hire a used up, tattooed,pierced 22 year old woman with three kids from three different dads….. Not saying it’s right… It’s just the way of the world.

  636. Anonymous April 13, 2009 at 2:50 am #

    I read them and think, Fuck relationships. It’s too bad we don’t reproduce asexually because this bullshit brings out the worst in just about everybody. So many of you are bitter clowns.

  637. Tod Marshal December 20, 2009 at 1:13 pm #

    I think this is a wonderful idea to talk about it, and I am really grateful I found your website

  638. Anonymous March 31, 2008 at 12:49 pm #

    Usually have to be either very attractive (Demi Moore) or significantly better off to get a younger male. The older men only have to be rich or famous or of perceived “high status” (Hugh Hefner).

    I once knew an older man who worked for Frederico Fellini. He won an Oscar for his work on one of Fellini’s films. I was 20, he was around 70. I was not attracted to him, however, there were some 20 something females who were attracted to this guy once they found out who he was. They would not have looked at him twice had he just been any old guy walking down the street – but once his status was revealed they were practically dry humping him at dinner.

    I still wasn’t interested. However he took a great interest in me, and I’m SURE I wasn’t as hot looking as some of these bimbos who were after him.

    Moral – people want what they (think they) can’t get.

  639. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 12:51 pm #

    I’m about to marry my soul mate on July 4th 2010. Half of my family won’t talk to me, or are trying to stop the wedding. The other half are excited and can see how happy I am with him. The truth is, I love him, he loves me, and we want to spend the rest of our lives together. For all of the other couples who are in the same type of relationship, just follow your heart! I would do ANYTHING to close the 28 year gap between us. I would even grow older just to catch up with him. All I CAN do is cherish the rest of our lives together as husband and wife, soul mates, lovers, and friends.

  640. Anonymous February 8, 2010 at 4:12 pm #

    Old ladies dont like mature men guys having serious relationships with younger women because they are jealous of the young lady cause they themselves look so old. I am 61 and my fiance is 23. We get along great and we plan to get married. I work out with weights and do cardio and she just lazes around looking fantastic…I love it.
    PS– there is such a thing as age discrimination. a lot of women have it against men. Young immature teenagers: be quiet! and learn from the girls who are in their 20’s. they know better!.

  641. Anonymous October 1, 2009 at 2:50 pm #

    Old men over 30 are discusting

  642. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 9:18 pm #

    Busty fat grandma gets licked pussy?

  643. Anonymous December 20, 2009 at 7:04 am #

    Yes I am.

  644. Anonymous March 25, 2008 at 6:34 pm #

    In this country it is prefectly normal and accepted for older men to marry or date younger women. Now if it’s good for the population as a whole? It sure is good for the economy!


  645. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 9:34 am #

    I don’t know how old you are and I really don’t care. But I will say this. You don’t know anyone personally on this site, so you have no right to judge anyone or their actions. You haven’t lived inside anyone elses shoes and don’t know what other people have been through. Maybe it would help if you grew up and stopped being so narrowminded. Often when people do things there is a reason why behind it. And maybe in some people,s cases they date older men, for a better reason than jjust simply wanting to play “grownup”. Maybe they have deeper reasons. But of course you wouldn’t think of that because your perfect, and have never made a mistake, or a choice that others have considered wrong.

  646. prawny February 8, 2010 at 4:35 am #

    Sometimes we just got to feel what our hearts really tell us. When you fall in love in someone, it is not just about the age. Everyone wishes for the perfect relationship – to have someone compatible, about the same age, well to do financially, pleasant in personality, fun loving, out going, caring, good looking, faithful, loving… and the list goes on.

    But in reality, life and relationships especially, aren’t perfect. We fall in love and sometimes we fall real deep, to the extent that age barrier just becomes something too insignificant to think or talk about. The chemistry and emotional support can be so strong that what you see surpasses the exterior of that someone.

    There are ‘good’ women and ‘bad’ ones, likewise there are ‘good’ men and ‘bad’ ones, and the way they act in their relationships is not necessary due to their age gap.

    There are many obstacles that one may face when there is a wide age gap between partners.

    Firstly, it is the social disapproval from people around you. It can be really hurtful to find those that supported you in everyway of your life suddenly go against you so harshly. It may even make you feel so lonely and guilty. You need to have the strength and the strongest belief that this is what you really want, to convince your world that you will make it happen against all odds.

    Second, it is the fear of the short biological life span on this earth. Let’s be real, he is 50 and you are 20 means that when you are 40, he is already 70. In this generarion, people would be quite feeble at that age, and you would still be jumping around in your 40s, wishing you had a mate to bring to nieces and nephews’ wedding dinners.
    But of course, the ultimate is to always be strong and remember to appreciate the short 20 years that you spent happily together. A true love that is short and sweet is more worthy than a long and painful relationship, even if it lasted 50 years. Hopefully, medical science would continuously improve and contribute to the healthcare services for aging populations.

    Third, it is the mental state that you have to be concerned about. You can take the stress of going against what other people tell you for a few years. But how long can you take it. As said by many people, a lie that is told a thousand times become the truth.
    Are you able to withstand all the people calling you a slut, telling you that such relationships will never last, you are only after that old man for his money and he is only after you for sex, he will get sick of you and he is just treating you like a plaything which he will find a new one after awhile?
    And at the very end, are you able to still stand your ground about what you think about yourself? We are humans and we feel weak and helpless at times. If these criticisms were to attack your mental state during that period, it will totally break you.
    It is really important to build a good support base. You have to find out who is really on your side. Those that you can trust will make your life so completely lighter.

    Every relationship have its fair share of sacrifices to make. The efforts that have to be put in to maintain the love, intimacy, faithfulness and appreciation. One has to be very sure who they really are and what do they want out of the life that they have. One has to ask herself if she is happy with the way life is with all the sacrifices that she made, even if the relationship is no longer in the heightened state of passion, even if the relationship can no longer involve sex.

    My point here is that every relationship is equal regardless of age gap. It just has different obstacles and difficulties that has to be faced. Just like different people take different courses in life and pursue different careers. We cannot compare the difficulty of a cleaner with that of a doctor, because we know that it is not apple for apple.

    Be open to the people around you who have such relationships, and do not be afraid to go into a relationship because of a wide age gap.

  647. Anonymous October 2, 2009 at 12:47 pm #

    …and anonymous commenters who can’t spell are disgusting.

  648. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 7:52 pm #

    Hey im 40and i love younger men and olderbut once they start geting on my nevrous i just leave and go get another and hey maybe this time i will reach for the stars and go get me a 20 year old are call mr sand man I really do understand i don’t want to be controlled are anything now older men chasing younger women some might be true but sometimes its the young ones that come after the older ones sometimes for the right resons sometimes for the wrong reasons but then agin some people can’t help who they like and and all older men is not old looking and all older men anite young looking and all older women don’t look bad and all older women don’t look good but hey its all about being who you want to be

  649. Anonymous December 20, 2009 at 6:56 am #

    I do not who you are. I am 52 years of age. If you are looking an older married man I am the person to come forward. Reasons why I am looking for an younger generation like u will be known in my next mail provided if u wish to respond positively.

  650. Anonymous March 23, 2008 at 10:35 pm #

    It is interesting and very entertaining to watch how an objective statement of a possible correlation of May-December pairings and species survival quickly transformed into a multitude of reactive subjective reports. The richness of the inner world is truly wonderful and stands in stark contrast to the single minded statement that started these replies but one should remember that the data is not yet complete enough to make an “objective” acceptance of the proposal.

  651. Anonymous May 2, 2010 at 9:06 am #

    So your telling me that an 18 year old, who has sex with a 17 year old is committing a crime? Give me a break! That is a one year age difference. Its no big deal. In high school I dated someone a year older than me, and there is no way it could have been a crime,considering we were in the same grade.

  652. Anonymous February 8, 2010 at 4:29 am #

    Sometimes we just got to feel what our hearts really tell us. When you fall in love in someone, it is not just about the age. Everyone wishes for the perfect relationship – to have someone compatible, about the same age, well to do financially, pleasant in personality, fun loving, out going, caring, good looking, faithful, loving… and the list goes on.

    But in reality, life and relationships especially, aren’t perfect. We fall in love and sometimes we fall real deep, to the extent that age barrier just becomes something too insignificant to think or talk about. The chemistry and emotional support can be so strong that what you see surpasses the exterior of that someone.

    There are ‘good’ women and ‘bad’ ones, likewise there are ‘good’ men and ‘bad’ ones, and the way they act in their relationships is not necessary due to their age gap.

    There are many obstacles that one may face when there is a wide age gap between partners.

    Firstly, it is the social disapproval from people around you. It can be really hurtful to find those that supported you in everyway of your life suddenly go against you so harshly. It may even make you feel so lonely and guilty. You need to have the strength and the strongest belief that this is what you really want, to convince your world that you will make it happen against all odds.

    Second, it is the fear of the short biological life span on this earth. Let’s be real, he is 50 and you are 20 means that when you are 40, he is already 70. In this generarion, people would be quite feeble at that age, and you would still be jumping around in your 40s, wishing you had a mate to bring to nieces and nephews’ wedding dinners.
    But of course, the ultimate is to always be strong and remember to appreciate the short 20 years that you spent happily together. A true love that is short and sweet is more worthy than a long and painful relationship, even if it lasted 50 years. Hopefully, medical science would continuously improve and contribute to the healthcare services for aging populations.

    Third, it is the mental state that you have to be concerned about. You can take the stress of going against what other people tell you for a few years. But how long can you take it. As said by many people, a lie that is told a thousand times become the truth.
    Are you able to withstand all the people calling you a slut, telling you that such relationships will never last, you are only after that old man for his money and he is only after you for sex, he will get sick of you and he is just treating you like a plaything which he will find a new one after awhile?
    And at the very end, are you able to still stand your ground about what you think about yourself? We are humans and we feel weak and helpless at times. If these criticisms were to attack your mental state during that period, it will totally break you.
    It is really important to build a good support base. You have to find out who is really on your side. Those that you can trust will make your life so completely lighter.

    Every relationship have its fair share of sacrifices to make. The efforts that have to be put in to maintain the love, intimacy, faithfulness and appreciation. One has to be very sure who they really are and what do they want out of the life that they have. One has to ask herself if she is happy with the way life is with all the sacrifices that she made, even if the relationship is no longer in the heightened state of passion, even if the relationship can no longer involve sex.

    My point here is that every relationship is equal regardless of age gap. It just has different obstacles and difficulties that has to be faced. Just like different people take different courses in life and pursue different careers. We cannot compare the difficulty of a cleaner with that of a doctor, because we know that it is not apple for apple.

    Be open to the people around you who have such relationships, and do not be afraid to go into a relationship because of a wide age gap.

  653. Anonymous October 1, 2009 at 5:09 am #

    “I’m 22 years old female, nursing student, had sex with both male and female. Last week I had chance to have sex with 40 years old male, by far he is the best that I ever had.”

    This 40 year old man has committed adultery. The 22 year old female has no integrity and she knows it.

  654. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 7:46 pm #

    Older men and older women who have lost their MOJO should not be giving advice to young women who are at their sexual peak, for they are not qualified.

    “Oh but they are my dear. They know what *NOT* to do”.

    That means when they were young, they did NOT listen to older/old people’s advice either. Otherwise, they wouldn’t have made all those mistakes. And now that they’re older/old, they want young women to listen to them. Hypocrite!

    Also, they will probably say that they wish they had listened to older/old people’s advice. WISH?


  655. Anonymous December 19, 2009 at 9:51 pm #

    Ok i am 22 and i recently met a 50 year old guy, i like him alot, him makes my clock tick and makes me laugh, and i know he like me alot as i can see it in the things he says.
    BUT ofcourse there is one problem….he is MARRIED.

    so i do know this is wrong, and i said that to him aswell…but he keeps contacting me….
    we just understand each other and we click…

    i think there is something wrong with his wife, cos he doesnt want to talk about her, and they sleep in seperate bedrooms….which leads me to this thinking.
    i know it doesnt make it right, but he intregues me..

    pls advice me

  656. Anonymous March 17, 2008 at 5:41 am #


  657. Anonymous May 1, 2010 at 10:00 pm #

    I’m 18, my boyfriend is 40 and my parents know. It really isn’t as bad as you think they’ll react. As long as they know he loves you it will go pretty well. Don’t be surprised if they make certain comments sometimes that might upset you. Just keep your ground on you not being happier with anyone else ;) good luck! :)

  658. Anonymous February 8, 2010 at 11:48 am #

    I’m 21 years old and my boyfriend who is adorable is 33. I really believe it’s just a number, and that it doesn’t have to be a fling.. You seem like a sweet person goodluck.

  659. Anonymous October 1, 2009 at 1:11 am #

    Go and do your old wife, old man. How much attention do you give to your wife? Does she get any attention from you? Aren’t men the ones committed to the marriage institution? Sex is allowed in a marriage, not outside a marriage.

  660. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 3:25 pm #

    ”Older men and older women who have lost their MOJO should not be giving advice to young women who are at their sexual peak, for they are not qualified.”

    Oh but they are my dear. They know what *NOT* to do..

    ”One was right “The ugly factor does kick in after menopause”

    Water is wet and fire is hot… Oh, and we get rigor mortice after death.. Happens to us all,, dear. Ugliness, illness and death and decay..

  661. Anonymous December 19, 2009 at 1:33 pm #

    I correct myself on this last bit (forgive me; it was late); when Chaplin married O’neill, he was only in his mid-fifties, and she 18. I believe I was more thinking of Pablo Casals and his wife, Marta Montanez, he 80, and she 20.
    There was also the 79-year-old Pablo Picasso, and his second wife, Jacqueline Roque, with the 27-year-old Roque marrying Picasso when he was 79. (They were married for twenty years).

  662. Anonymous March 16, 2008 at 3:14 pm #

    Bertrand Russel said something like “Only after letting go of all physical possesions can we truly live freely and nobly”. Under the social constructs of today’s society, just how many people are free from social and financial pressures?

    Very few. The money is the catalyst for all of these absurd relationships, granted there are a few that are pure, but those numbers are almost statistically insignificant.

    I speak the truth. We need to ascribe to a higher intelectual standard of living before an argument can possibly be made.

  663. Anonymous May 1, 2010 at 9:52 pm #

    I think you’ve waited too long and are really too old to have kids. I’m 18 and been with a 40 year old for half a year. We’re madly in love too and planning on having kids when I’m 27. The best eggs get produced earlier..and are pretty much only good enough before you’re 35. I understand he doesn’t want more kids as 3 is more than enough for most. Either find someone else or accept and love him and let him fill your life, not the kids

  664. Anonymous February 6, 2010 at 10:35 am #

    I don’t believe any point you have tried to make is valid at all. Your grammar, punctuation and general lack of sentence structure makes it impossible to accept any word your ignorant ass has written.

  665. Anonymous September 30, 2009 at 7:50 pm #

    “I am a 25 year old female and i have a 48 year old boyfriend. Just to let you know he outperforms my 28 year old ex husband in every way imaginable. Thats why he is my ex husband. And my boyfriend treats me like gold.”

    Your worn out 48 year old boyfriend is an old pervert and you have no integrity.

    Note: Nothing perverted about being attracted to a 25 year old.

  666. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 10:29 am #

    HRT my dear HRT .. It can rejuvinate a woman physically and mentally. Men do not have any such help do they?

    We all get old.. My 68 year old dad will tell you that he feels like a second class citizen. Especially when in comes to health care (united kingdom)

  667. Anonymous February 22, 2009 at 11:18 am #

    When I was 22, I married a very great looking, smart and popular 26-year old man, and all of my family and friends, as well as strangers we’d meet in town or on vacation, overwhelmingly approved of us and considered us to be a “perfect match”. The problem was, the sex was terrible, the guy hadn’t yet developed an adult relationship with his parents (especially with his mom, with whom I could never compete–she spoiled him rotton and he wouldn’t even consider living anywhere outside of a few hours from his parents) and he was completely adverse to supporting me in my goal to continue my education, primarily because he was still at the stage in life when we was preoccupied with goals of his own…he didn’t want my goals getting in the way, and he (and his parents) started pressuring me to have kids. I think he believed I’d stop fighting for my life goals once I was pregnant and more dependent on him. Prior to being married, he was a fun, cool boyfriend/companion, but ended up being a miserable mate. We divorced after a short marriage, and I began dating a 40-something guy, and I’ve never looked back. Man, what a difference that extra 10-15 years can make in the development of the male brain! Selfless in bed, great conversation, great mentor in areas where he’s more experienced…I just love him so much, and he loves and depends on me, as well. However, most people disapprove of the dreaded 20-something women/40-something guy pairing, and it can be painful. Older women I respected, and who respected me when I was with the juvenile husband, now shun me once they learn I’m with a guy their age because they assume I’m an insecure ninny without any thoughts of my own. Or, perhaps they’ve been abandoned by their husbands and they see me as a member of the most abhorred group of young husband-stealers. In any case, be young women should be prepared to deal with embittered ex-wives, confused and resentful teenage (or older) children who are “grossed out” by their dad being with a 20-something (trust me, some of them will never accept you…ever), and with general disapproval by conventional society. So, you’d better be happy and secure enough in that relationship to forego a lot of other relationships, because not everyone will think highly of your choice in men. Friends your own age who date guys their own age will feel weird around you and your older guy (as will your older guy, being forced to chat with a 20-something college kid), your parents might feel awkward being around a guy who, under most circumstances, would be more likely to be their friend than yours, and if you have kids with a guy who already has kids, be prepared for some major, major difficulties, especially if the “original” kids hold a grudge against you, because their resentment may carry through to your child(ren), and you have basically no hope of isolating your child(ren) from the original kids in the long run if you end up staying with your older guy for the long haul. Best of luck! Don’t get married until you’re at least 28, by the way…no matter how mature you are, you’re going to be even more mature by the time you’re 28, and there’s no reason for a woman to be in a rush to marry, unless you’d like to have a whole lotta biological kids (in which case the early start might be best).

  668. Anonymous March 16, 2008 at 2:55 pm #

    You know your right. That’d probably be your daughter’s age.

  669. Anonymous May 1, 2010 at 12:21 pm #

    I have always been invovled with the younger men, older men are not attracted to me.
    your right at 42 if a man wont work, pay his child support, continually oogles other women,has nothing to show but sex addict traits, Run, and save your best years of your life.

    You see a man this age will not change and loses interest easily. He has nothing to offer a young or older women. Most women are established at any age and dont need a man to pay for everything and loose their self esteem, and young looks.
    Men this age just need to go watch porn and masterbate, they can bring nothing to the life of a younger woman but baggage,

    the good men in this age bracket for women that look 35 now and are 50 the older men were killed by the vietnam war. Psychopaths are everywhere these days, if a man’s life looks like a train wreck, even if he has the physical looks thats all they have to offer, be smart this fades fast. In fact his looks are about gone,

    Look at Brad Pit one of the most handsome men in the world, and i believe one of the sweetest solid human being in regards to men this age. He has lost most of his looks, and George Clooney, I dont think so. Now lets look at Gerard Butler or Tom Hardy, on my goodness, he enough to make you quake. But as an older woman, women know its just ridiculous to chase a 30 something man.

    a 42 year old man will just steal the best years of a young womans life, and then be old, he has PEAKED, young ladies, even if he does come home and stay on the porch. In about 5 years you will be dragging your granddad around with you. He already has kids, ex-s_ control issues, and many other relationship problems. Take a long hard look at his wallet, this is how most men identify who they are, if hes smart he is not going to let you touch it, too many women have already tried. He will normally treat you like a toddler and buy you a play pen where he controls the enviroment.

    Young girls go make your own money and love the boys your age. Enjoy your beauty and youth and do not let men take that freedom from you. So if these are the things that people feel make a relationship, lets just call it physical assets (money, looks, mental heatlh) it just a waste of a young womans beauty and best years of her life.

    A 42 yr old man really has nothing to offer a woman in their 20’s. Be smart young women and work on your career and watch the boys your age. Your just getting better. The old dogs that cant be taught new tricks are the ones the 40 – 50 yr old men would not allow to learn new tricks, because they feel threatened by a woman more intelligent or can have better sex than them. Women have it going on these days, so take your time girls and enjoy the scenery. But dont waste your beauty on your men that can be your dad, I am not saying someone 7-10 yrs older. much older than that and your just robbing your self of the best years of your life. Go SEE the WORLD. Dont be his step mother for a 16-20 yr old that wont respect you, and will cause nothing but drama in relationship. its just no fun.

    older women usually are responsible, accomplished and have great sex lives because younger men seek them out. anyway thats this old dog advice. beware of what older men tell you. if you think the young ones lie darlings, just think how good the older ones are at baiting you.

    Be SMART, BEAUTIFUL, FREE, TALENTED, AND SUCESSFUL. I guess just make their mouth water, but go for those TOM HARDY look alikes. yeah man those British, Irish men are sexy.

  670. Anonymous February 6, 2010 at 9:06 am #

    Any girl never ever be in love with a man who is in his 50 and above. No matter how many times he can change his looks or his hair color never look young. or dresing like young men to look like young men. you can’t be look young because you can’t hide your age and it will show in your face even though you cover your gray hair with brown hair.

    Just need to learn older men don’t try to be different person than you were. because you will never be young soon later your will tired of your hair change you will be on your natural hair so what are you going to tell to the girl. are you going to tell her you change your hair to different color.

    What about to sex are you going to have sex like young men because even though you change on the out side to look young but still in side will show how old you are when you are in bed with younger girl.

    don’t forget older man five to ten years you will be retire and you will be in your 60+ do you thing young girl will stay or go out with you after 5 years. she may go out now but not after 5 to 10 years because by that time you will be prepared to go to nursing home. That will be you life. because you don’t have time left to enjoy with younger girl.

    Because your time for enjoyment with younger women is runing. time is runing for you. no matter what you change still going to be you the old man.

  671. Anonymous September 30, 2009 at 10:33 am #

    and you know this because you have been with so many young and older men?

  672. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 8:43 am #

    Older men and older women who have lost their MOJO should not be giving advice to young women who are at their sexual peak, for they are not qualified.

    One was right “The ugly factor does kick in after menopause”.

  673. Anonymous February 21, 2009 at 3:14 am #

    Hi – I am a 28 year old girl and I am in love with a 61year old man. We have been in a relationship now for approx a year. Complication is we work together and no one at work knows but we work in different locations – North/South divide.

    We are so in love with each other.. but the age is a problem. He is worried he is too old and cant give me everything he wants to… children, a life time together. But I cant imagine life without him. What do I do? I have never experienced love like it, its special, he loves me so much and I cant imagine anyone else loving me like he does.

    He says that he loves me too much for me not to have children with him or die before the time I am 40. He has touched my life and I dont know what to do.

    Please help.

  674. Anonymous March 9, 2008 at 4:04 am #

    There are more females than males, and if a small percentage of the available females decide to pair with older males it may not make a noticeable difference. We really need to know the numbers to know either way – but I’m sure you can see my point. And this doesn’t take into account the percentage of the population that is not heterosexual. If there are more males than females who are not heterosexual – that leaves more females available as well.

  675. Anonymous April 30, 2010 at 9:49 pm #

    haha your an idiot!

  676. Anonymous February 6, 2010 at 12:35 am #

    This topic just proves to me how stupid society is for getting after older men for chasing younger ladies.

  677. Anonymous September 29, 2009 at 3:34 am #

    I am one of those older ladies you’re dissing, Aaron, and I sure don’t appreciate what you’re saying. If we’re bitter, it’s because guys like you have been treating us like doo doo all these years. I’m a three-timer divorcee and all of my husbands had one thing in common — they were jerks! You just can’t handle older babes, Aaron, that’s probably your situation. We’re smarter, wiser and packed with personality. Young women can’t stand up to the real thing, baby!

    KITTY Kitty cat….YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS…………I’ll bet you look nothing like you did on your wediing day ,Rehab……………and guess what??? That’s why you were married three times ……and the last two were just losers luck………..If you took care of yourself you would have married a man that dedicated his all to you…..if this man passed away early I’m sorry ……..but you should have never remarried………I find that the older the women the more heartache thay share the more baggage they have and the more manipulating they try to do…..A GOOD MAN doesn’t want that and would stay single no matter how lonely not to be with someone like you J……………….but hey good luck …………J is currently deeply involved with a beautiful 37 year old and he’s 64 going on 37……………..:-)

  678. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 8:21 am #

    This ugly older person is trying to wind you up. Don’t respond.

  679. Anonymous February 20, 2009 at 10:08 pm #

    It’s only a matter of time! See, you’ll get someone you need, not simply someone you want to..:)

  680. Anonymous March 6, 2008 at 4:20 pm #

    My first question to you is, what about all the young men with older women? The same thing is going on.. where a young women is without that young man. So she finds an older man and settles down. Ta-dah.

    Secondly, you must be very young to think all old men are boring! I know an older man who is most certainly not boring and his wrinkles are attractive (who would have thought?). I enjoy the friendship we have and it is not about money or status because those things do not matter to me (I can make my own money, thank you).

  681. Anonymous April 30, 2010 at 9:45 pm #

    You spell dumb like this “Dumb” not “Dumg” Someday when you are all growed up you will think about sex, sex, sex. It comes at different stages of your life. I’m guessing you’re a young woman so when you get to be about 35 or 40 you too will be thinking about sex much more than you do now. And anyone who says that sex has some kind of religious reprucussions is dumg, I mean dumb. See, now you’ve got me spelling it wrong.

  682. Anonymous February 5, 2010 at 10:14 pm #

    What does race have to do with this?

  683. Anonymous September 27, 2009 at 10:28 pm #

    there’s no difference in my hardness and I’m 62, mine is at 1pm and as stiff as a rock
    and can last for ages and I’m married to a 42 year old and have been for 24 years….

  684. Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 4:08 am #

    You what? Menopause is stalking me? So that means we have to dump our youth and get old before our time? Or is this your way of making girls feel like crap so that they end up in bed with you?

    Let me tell you something. Men age just as badly as women. Saggy necks, depp wrinkles, saggy boobs are not a turn on for either sex. Id also like to inform you that it is the women who are leaving men nowadays. They get to a certain age and realise that the guy they married is aboring old fart who sits watching the TV in his underpants and they get up and start having there own lives. They dress up, go out, get new friends and before you know it they are off.

    Men dont leave, because they get comfortable. Sure, a guy may have an affair but 9 times out of 10 they go home to wifey. Women seem to strike out more. Lots of women get to middle age now and want more than the husband can offer.

    I dont see many desirable old men anywhere. They just look like average old men who go home watch tv, go down the pub. Who wants that? You think that these old geezers have women banging the door down? DELUDED!

  685. Anonymous February 20, 2009 at 10:55 am #

    Hello, I’m very sorry for your broken heart. Don’t mourn for someone who could easily toss you aside when you are much more accepting and nonjudgemental. Someone special will come along, and in the meantime, let comforting words ease you while you realize it was her, not you. Just be wary of gold diggers. Cheers !

  686. Anonymous March 8, 2008 at 11:08 am #

    I doubt there is anything you can say or explain that is going to make anyone understand the human dynamic without labels or categorization. Whatever taboo that arises, or convention that is broken, if not understood already, can only be learned by experience. I mean, what do we really know about things we are skeptical and judgmental about until we’ve been faced with the experience ourselves? People are people, and there isn’t much we can do to define or assume the things we really don’t know. People can make their own choices, and these life experiences are neither good or bad, but what we make them and get out of them in terms of learning. Why waste your time trying to fit into some mold of how life should be?

  687. Anonymous April 29, 2010 at 9:29 am #

    I would Of NEVER in a million years think that I would ever talk to a guy that was 32yrs gap. I am madly head over hills for him and I cant seem to get enough time with him. We recently have been getting physical and I cant stop.. His kisses so passionate and for being his age he sure does know what he is doing! Our conversations last for hours to where we loose track of time. I love hanging with him. Is this normal? Is this wrong? I dont know! He looks at me with such passion and love. I love it! As for me Im not your average 24 year old. Im very mature for my age and set high standards for myself. What do I do with this situation. My parents would NEVER approve of this relationship!

  688. Anonymous February 5, 2010 at 10:13 pm #

    Your type of thinking makes me want to be racist? What does race have to do with this?

  689. Anonymous September 29, 2009 at 5:47 pm #

    My mom passed away recently . Within a few weeks after losing his wife of sixty-something years, my 87-yr old dad started dating 50-year old women.

    I guess everybody handles their grief differently.

  690. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 8:47 pm #

    An older married man with kids should not be holding on to something that’s not his.

  691. Anonymous February 20, 2009 at 10:39 am #

    I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 41. I’ve always had a strong attraction to mature gentlemen since about 15, but never pursued itfor obvious reasons. I’ve always been a bit mature than my age group, I have a great father who is my best friend, so that counters the stereo-type that I’m longing for a father figure. I just happen to view an older man as exquisite, mature, and in his prime. However, I recently started to persue that certain age group and found it rather difficult. It seems they all have rings on their fingers with children. It wasn’t until I went on an online dating site that I found a whole slew of handsome men who appreciates a finer, young lady, and the sex is off the wall.

  692. Anonymous March 1, 2008 at 12:44 am #

    I never expected to be in love with a man 19 years older than I am, in fact I usually dated men who were my age, or about 2 years younger/older. I am 33 dating a 52-year old man.He does not look wrinkly and bore me with stories about the past, but is rather physically fit (much more so than me) and well-versed for engaging conversations. We have been seeing each other for 2 wonderful years. The love and respect we have for each other is unparalleled with any other person I have dated, and I am so grateful.

    At first I remember thinking I should not be falling in love with someone older because it does not fit the traditional model of a romantic couple. I ruminated over this issue for a long time when our relationship became romantic, and I spoke about it with close friends. I came to the conclusion that LOVE GOES BEYOND RACE, ETHNICITY, AGE, FAITH, or EVEN SEXUAL ORIENTATION. Love has no boundaries, there is no algorithm for love, it happens organically, and when it happens you should cherish it. Forget what “the masses” think, the love you share is between you and your significant other,and this is all that matters.

    My parents are 17 years apart, and yes, this is their only marriage. My mom is not a trophy wife, in fact she is average-looking, cheerful and spiritual. My parents are best friends. Even though my father is retired, my mother still works. My mother certainly did not marry my father for reasons pertaining to power, status or wealth; they marriage is one built on sincere love and respect for each other.

    As the child of an older father-younger mother, I did sometimes feel self-conscious about the fact my dad was older than most of my classmates’ fathers but this basically occurred in late middle school and high school when most of us are prone to think about what our peers think of us.

    In the last 10 years I feel like my father has aged much faster than my mom; having seen this development, as well as having predicted this would happen, I always told myself I would rather be with someone with whom I can grow old, instead of worrying about potentially outliving my significant other for many years. For this reason I deliberately dated men my age. I am sure there are men my age who are mature, but in general, over the years, the men I dated were not as mature with respect to relationships and were driven by testosterone. I think they were more interested in talking about themselves, trying to impress me and trying to hook up (note the word trying) rather than getting to know someone deeply in every sense of the word. Of course, the above does not apply to every man my age, but there seems to be a disproportionate number of younger men who fit this build. In general, I think older men appreciate women more than younger men, perhaps it stems from wisdom accumulated over many years. By the way, when I refer to older men, I am referring to men who are 10 years older than women.

    I know it would be more ideal to be in love with a man closer to me in age, I know this, trust me, but love is precious and when it happens you should let it flow and appreciate what you have. People who believe women date/marry older men for financial reasons, clearly have very limited views about love, and are looking to scapegoat older men for the fact that they (the younger men who have these stereotypical thoughts) maybe having difficulty attracting women they desire. These younger men are perhaps the type who think in general that women will only date them if they wine and dine them. Well, believe it or not, it’s not about the amount of money you spend on a woman, but rather based on the amount of respect you show this person. Some women will be impressed with superficial elements, but if you are attracted to this type of person what does it say about you? You might be superficial and therefore assume everyone else thinks like you too.

    All in all, please do not make sweeping generalizations about younger women with older men, or vice-versa. I can assure you that most younger women with older men appreciate being in a mature relationship with someone who values and respects them as women, rather than view them as sexual objects. Just remember, love is a gift, and should be cherished regardless of one’s age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation or faith. Love DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE. Hopefully, everyone reading this lengthy note has or will experience deep love, and recognize it for what it is. Wishing you only the best with peace, love and health.

  693. Anonymous April 29, 2010 at 12:37 am #

    Guys my age just look like babies. Its been too long and im waiting for my 18th so I can have them all. Im just waiting for my first and hes waiting for me. 2 more years ^__^

  694. Anonymous February 5, 2010 at 6:07 am #

    Life must go on friend just forget the past,everythings happen in our life have purpose.

  695. Anonymous September 29, 2009 at 2:35 pm #

    Your 3 ex husbands weren’t jerks…YOU WERE THE JERK! They know it, you know it and we all know it! They were actually very wise to divorce you. Your response is a perfect example of why men should go for the younger, nicer and PRETTIER ladies…and stay as far away as possible from older, bitter women like you.

  696. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 7:29 pm #

    Sometimes it kinda feels like they are after something but then agin it feels like what they are after is just me and my heart and my feelings and me This is were i get confussed and and agin the feeling that i am geting is really strange and i have alot of feelings that i don’t understand

  697. Anonymous February 19, 2009 at 2:46 am #

    why am I reading this? well, I thought there may be some intelligent discusiion of some of the issues facing age gap marriages…just as there are issues that are unique to interracial marriages, interfaith marriages and even marriages between people of drastically different social and economic classes…or different education levels. Marriage in general is hard enough…money, sex, the kids, division of household labor, issues of mutual respect….hell over 50% of them fail and many are doomed before they even get off the ground…even with people whoare the same age. Then you take something like a large age difference and add on top of everything else and well it sometimes produces some unique problems to overcome. We tend to marry people like ourselves…so in general you don’t find a hillbilly with a 6th grade education marrying a PhD rocket scientist. YOU don’t find a black civil rights activist marrying a KKK member…but sometimes people DO step out of the zone of what is normal….in my case I’m way out on the edge of the bell curve of what is age appropriate…..and I had hoped to be able to find on here others who may be able to provide clues as to…”Oh yeah….so that’s how you handled that situation….maybe I’ll try that”…that sort of thing…but instead it seems most of this is middle aged women who are bitter and lonely, moralistic bible thumpers, or men who are angry at me having a young wife because the only way they could ever see a young woman naked is to pay for it in a topless bar.

  698. Anonymous February 22, 2008 at 8:10 pm #

    The younger women that these older men pick on that show always flake off after the first date, leaving the older men to wonder why. The “older man/younger woman” saying is a myth.
    I know several guys over forty, almost in their fifties, who are still waiting for that unsual younger woman to come along and marry them. Why? Because they want to have children.
    Another subject would be the unsual young woman who marries a much older guy while in her twenties, only to divorce him in her late twenties to early thirties, and find that now that she is in her thirties, she would much rather marry someone her own age, but can’t find a guy her own age to marry her, because the men her age want marry someone in their twenties. Meaning, “women who waste their youth on older men”.

  699. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 9:04 pm #

    why men think, the women will be with the person doesn’t want to be with?

    why men has to beleve the women will love them when she said she doesn’t love them?

    Why women want to be with the man don’t love.

    Why oldet men beleve the women will love them when they have very big age gap. Do they think the women will still love them for the next five years or after two years.

    There is no why they can hide their age because it shows on their face how old they are and to go out with a younger, they will not even feel comfortable because they still worry how old they are instead of having fun for that day with the younger women they like.

    Some men may try and lie to make a women to sleep with them but if she is brave noting will fool her, but any thing it just make them less than a man.

  700. Anonymous February 5, 2010 at 2:22 am #

    Personally i dnt c anything wrong in dating a gal of 21-25yrs at ur age. The gap isn’t much. Moreova wats the physical diff bw 30 and 25yrs old woman? If u fancy dat age give it a try and u be glad u did!

  701. Anonymous September 29, 2009 at 12:59 pm #

    I am a 25 year old female and i have a 48 year old boyfriend. Just to let you know he outperforms my 28 year old ex husband in every way imaginable. Thats why he is my ex husband. And my boyfriend treats me like gold.

  702. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 7:23 pm #

    No sex no kissing non of that i just like the company and the talks me have and the way hethey look at me and in to my eys im not saying that its right but they just seem to under stand like no one else does and the are just every thing in my mind but it give me a funny kind of feeling and im not quit sure i under stand it yet but im trying to

  703. Anonymous February 11, 2009 at 4:45 pm #

    I personally wouldn’t pursue a married woman with ties. It’s too complicated. I would rather pursue the single younger women for they are less complicated.

  704. Anonymous February 18, 2008 at 2:25 pm #

    “…there’s a young man without a woman” ??? The near paritiy in population of men and women makes this statement an illogical blunder.The characterization of older men is simple minded in the extreme. There should be a lower limit of rational ability to post here.

  705. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 8:44 pm #

    We have the same problem im 32 and my husband is 62 he had 3 kids and he dont want to have our own and im really disappointed i dont know what to do..

  706. Anonymous February 4, 2010 at 4:46 pm #

    jealous cos you don’t have that younger body? been rejected by men?

  707. Anonymous September 27, 2009 at 12:35 am #

    im 22 years old female, nursing student, had sex with both male and female. Last week I had chance to have sex with 40 years old male, by far he is the best that I ever had (and I had sex with 33 people)
    he is sweet, handsome, cares for me, he is successful and educated man, who I carry conversation with for hours, he pleasures me to point that I’m addicted it to him.
    so why would i leave all of that JUST because he is older than me?

  708. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 7:17 pm #

    Well im Smart and funny and cute and i like older men now i use to like boys my own age but nw i don’t any more its just because the younger boys are to scamp and all the just don’t talk to me right and they don’t no how to act and i do and these days i get talk to alot by older men and i like it but then it gets creepy i don’t no what to do any go out with them talk to them are just stay away all my friends thinks its cool when that older guy comes and talks to me i don’t sometimes but it seems like they are just right for me

  709. Anonymous February 11, 2009 at 3:17 pm #

    When a younger woman gets involved with an older married man, she not only gets involved with him, but with his older jealous wife and kids too.

    Life is complicated enough. Why create further complications?

  710. Anonymous February 18, 2008 at 11:23 am #

    Some of these replies sound like young girls who are complaining about woman that marry or date older men. You need not be rich to date younger woman. I have travel to more than 70 countries and in many countries I have dated woman 20 or 30 years younger than myself. Why! Number one is respect for a woman and not trying just having a sexual relationship with them. Some I dated because they were terrific tennis players, other because they were intellectually fascinating. The Pedophile comment sounds like a girl that couldn’t fine a relationship because of a narrow minded view of all things in life. If you think you are better than someone else because you are older or younger or because your choices are different than others you have a lot to learn before you are mature enough for any relationships. Many books have been written and few really know why people fall in love. Security, maturity, supporting each other in times of need, humor the list goes on and on. Women have sent me over a glass of wine to just say hi, other have come over and ask if they could take me to lunch, others have ask if I would mind if they kissed me! Others want nothing to do with me. Woman and men choose each other for more different reason then there are words to explain their reasons. I could care less if a woman is old or young or they have a great figure, or are gorgeous to the eye. Think of woman like Brittney Spears. What man in his right mind, with all her money, beauty, age and shape, that is mature would even consider a long term relationship with any woman or man with habits, illnesses and behavior such as hers. There were hundreds of young woman I could have dated that were in great shape, that I would have never considered dating because of their attitudes in life, which they are entitle to have and own their own feelings. To attack others that think differently than I is nuts. If not being with a person that is older than you are or younger than you are is not what you want in life you have a right to choose, but why be angry at people that find happiness. If a young woman wants security, with an older man who can provide it what is the big deal! Younger woman most likely dated me because they had fun, they felt relaxed and safe with me, they understood the importance of honesty and directness, I knew and express that some woman use men for money and sex. Older men are more relaxed and to be honest better lovers. Older men are more likely to break a young girls heart because younger woman fall in love to easily with being treated with respect, and a partner that is less likely to cheat on them. For you young woman reading this be careful it takes more than a great shape, gorgeous eyes and being vivacious to land an older and wiser catch. Younger woman must be very clever to land any good catch in life young or old but especially older!!

  711. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 8:42 pm #

    I think all men are crazy. They just want the one they can’t have and never have. Why do they have to keep try when they knew she doesn’t want them. She can go out with them and have fun, she can talk to them on the phone every day because they are the one always calling her and asking her out even most time she always excuse with something when she doesn’t go out with them, but they never give up, then she can go out with them, but she will never sleep with them. They just keep hoping for one day to happen which it will never happen.

    Crazy men just go sleep with others wether your girl friend or your wife or your friend. Don’t bother for the one you can’t have get a life for your own and your future wife or something.

    It is not just what men want, it is what she want and who she want and she knew from the first day the person she saw that she decide what she want from that person if just friendship or more than that. It only takes her 5 minute to decide for what she want from that person she saw in 5 minute. That the day she found out if she want that person to be more than a friend.

    After that there is nothing will change her mind.

  712. Anonymous February 4, 2010 at 3:40 am #

    I’m a man who just turned 30. I haven’t been in a relationship in about 6 years, when my ex (mother of my children) split up. It really broke my spirit, and I did NOT have any interest in dating other women during that period. Although, I am not back to being 100% my old self, (and probably never will be), I am starting to get the urge to get back out there. The problem, or maybe it isn’t a problem, that I am having is that when I am out and about, lots of YOUNG women flirt with me. And by young, I mean like very early twenties and even some as young as 17. I feel a little weird about this. I’ve never dated anyone with such a significant age gap between us. For me personally, anything younger than 21 is TOTALLY off limits. But, I guess the question here is, would it be OK to date a woman between 21-25, and could it possibly become more than just a fling. Is age REALLY just a number?

  713. Anonymous September 26, 2009 at 11:46 pm #

    Men, generally, are very kind and gentle people. Women are the ones that usually ruin them, whether through their selfishness, lack of love, abusiveness, cheating, etc. If a man is loved at home, they will not go anywhere, they will not hurt anyone. Older men have lived long enough to learn a woman’s character faster, and not put up with a tit-for-tat relationship, and constant pickering. I have seen lot of my married friends constantly complain about their husbands not doing this or that for them or the kids, while these very women boss their mates around nonstop and they splurge on themselves selfishly. What amazes me is that the men put up with it, all in the name of love. But these are the younger men who lack dating experience and got stuck with the first women they dated.

  714. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 5:21 pm #

    ”Bigotry” Ive heard it all now… I AM A BIGOT BECAUSE I WONT DATE PEOPLE IM NOT ATTRACTED TO!! DO YOU HEAR THAT PEOPLE? I suppose im homophobic too because i wont go out with another woman. No, i would never go with an old man, until i am old myself. No, menopause isnt stalking me. Average age of menopause in my mothers family is 61 and of course nowadays there is HRT

    By the way I am 34, and i think 37 is the oldest i will date. I will go for the over 40’s when im over 40. My friend is 54 and she recently dumped a 44 year old Doctor because he couldnt keep up with her sexually. So you are talking out of your back end my friend. I bet you are one of these old guys who joins youth websites and accuses young girls of being ageist because they dont want a fat beared old git! haha

  715. Anonymous February 11, 2009 at 10:10 am #

    And yet, not a well-placed period or capitalization in the whole lot.

  716. Anonymous February 18, 2008 at 11:19 am #

    Some of these replies sound like young girls who are complaining about woman that marry or date older men. You need not be rich to date younger woman. I have travel to more than 70 countries and in many countries I have dated woman 20 or 30 years younger than myself. Why! Number one is respect for a woman and not trying just having a sexual relationship with them. Some I dated because they were terrific tennis players, other because they were intellectually fascinating. The Pedophile comment sounds like a girl that couldn’t fine a relationship because of a narrow minded view of all things in life. If you think you are better than someone else because you are older or younger or because your choices are different than others you have a lot to learn before you are mature enough for any relationships. Many books have been written and few really know why people fall in love. Security, maturity, supporting each other in times of need, humor the list goes on and on. Women have sent me over a glass of wine to just say hi, other have come over and ask if they could take me to lunch, others have ask if I would mind if they kissed me! Others want nothing to do with me. Woman and men choose each other for more different reason then there are words to explain their reasons. I could care less if a woman is old or young or they have a great figure, or are gorgeous to the eye. Think of woman like Brittney Spears. What man in his right mind, with all her money, beauty, age and shape, that is mature would even consider a long term relationship with any woman or man with habits, illnesses and behavior such as hers. There were hundreds of young woman I could have dated that were in great shape, that I would have never considered dating because of their attitudes in life, which they are entitle to have and own their own feelings. To attack others that think differently than I is nuts. If not being with a person that is older than you are or younger than you are is not what you want in life you have a right to choose, but why be angry at people that find happiness. If a young woman wants security, with an older man who can provide it what is the big deal! Younger woman most likely dated me because they had fun, they felt relaxed and safe with me, they understood the importance of honesty and directness, I knew and express that some woman use men for money and sex. Older men are more relaxed and to be honest better lovers. Older men are more likely to break a young girls heart because younger woman fall in love to easily with being treated with respect, and a partner that is less likely to cheat on them. For you young woman reading this be careful it takes more than a great shape, gorgeous eyes and being vivacious to land an older and wiser catch. Younger woman must be very clever to land any good catch in life young or old but especially older!!

  717. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 7:21 pm #

    ok wow im 13 and am dating a thirteen year old just date people around ur age u sickos!!!!!!!!!!!!! but then again age is but a number and i love older guys =*

  718. Anonymous February 4, 2010 at 12:56 am #

    Im 25yrs old living with older guy 68yrs old he is married but separated,he told me that he marry me after he divorce his wife,i appreciate him because his verry nice and loving person but im just a jelous girl:im selfish person when im inlove i dont know if this is true love:i really hate when i saw those picture:from his X wives and other younger pictures,not an ordinary pictures;very bad things for me because those pictures are naked and some just wearing bra and panty.Sometimes when we are in trouble most is all about the pictures,when were going to out if he saw some younger sexy he might say:ohh so sexy girl:and his eyes keep on looking to her:and this is big insult in my part,im trying to told him that its ok if your doing that but dont show me but still he keep on doing.Im so young and his so old i need love not only in the words:action speaks louder than words:im not satisfy of what i have now.I NEED LOVE.I just dont know WHY Im here in this situation.BUT IM STILL LOVE HIM.Is this true love?I need some advice please:Just email me:rosemarie_ayawan2008@yahoo.com

  719. Anonymous September 25, 2009 at 9:22 am #

    Women can get away with calling certain humans “repulsive” for just looking the way they look. I am sure in 1000 or 2000 years, women will be disciplined and taught how selfish they are by indulging in such racist like behaviour. Older men contribute to younger womens’ status by appreciating them, and younger women look at them as if they were slimy worms. This is worse than racism. I am sorry that you were born as a woman with such ugly thoughts. And I am glad to be born as a man.

  720. Anonymous April 11, 2009 at 5:07 pm #

    You may not do a guy over 35 now, but eventually that’s all you’ll be able to get and shortly after you won’t be able to even get that. But hey your young, stick with all the young guys cause they know everything! You silly little girl.

    How do you know? Why is that woman a ”silly little girl”? Is it because she wants the best? Jealous are we?

    Well im 39 and my boyfriend is 32, we are getting married in August. Weep boy.. Sorry, man.. An old geezer would have to pay me a hefty sum of money before i would consider.

  721. Anonymous July 4, 2009 at 12:28 pm #

    I personally think that marriage, as a 1500 year European Christian institution, is slowly dying out and being replaced with a new age form of communal living. Life is going to be focused on the development of the individual, not just on our living to reproduce the species. This is the advent of a new aeon, and with stem cell technology people will be creating superior life forms from test tubes and also expanding their own lives to well over 100 years, regrowing organs and other defective parts, and reinvigorating themselves. This is just the beginning. Look at how much we have now compared to the 50’s and 60’s. We were medieval back then compared to now!

  722. Anonymous January 30, 2008 at 12:45 am #

    David Letterman and Rod Stewart can have babies with younger females because they are wealthy and have status in society. You old guys, please don’t think you can get a young girl with (your) assets being less than 1 million. I know an older guy at work, in his 50s, that married a 20 year old from another country. It was so ridiculous, I felt very sorry for the man. The women (or girl) took his total retirement,and house and now he has to work until he is 70 to regain a portion of his retirement. They are divorced and she is now married to a guy her own age. Unless, you are David Letterman- don’t go for anyone more than 10 years younger than yourself. Believe me, this girl will wake up one day and ask herself if the stability is really worth it and split.

  723. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 6:31 pm #

    Yes,exactly!His ego-that is what it is,poor young girl.In this cases she have to be stupid and everything could work somehow.Very true.

  724. Anonymous February 3, 2010 at 11:59 am #

    This is just another excuse to give guys the right to want younger women with sexier bodies because its all about sex for men. When are looking for a personal relationship and older men have been around long enough to know that.

  725. Anonymous September 25, 2009 at 9:10 am #

    You said –

    “I am 23 and I hate when old men stare at me they are so ugly with. Their balding heads. And they are fat especially when I’m running old foreign bald head mwn stare at me it makes me feel old because they stare at me more than guys my own age . Its gross because they have no fashion sense… They have ugly bodies and their wrinkly I. Like hot guys”

    Young women like this commenter, can be very hateful and vile, like skinheads against colored people. It’s being very, very selfish.

  726. Anonymous April 9, 2009 at 10:44 pm #

    “Old men chasing young girls are like dogs chasing cars; if they ever caught one they couldn’t drive it.

  727. Anonymous July 3, 2009 at 10:33 pm #

    You listen to the American female and they would have you believe that almost all males are dysfunctional … born defective. It begs the question that maybe, just maybe, American women don’t understand the biology of men. Maybe men are not dysfunctional, maybe we are different. Maybe men are different from women. Maybe we are not women.

    I have been living in China and have been shocked how the women understand men! They just get it! I listen to my girlfriend and Chinese female friends and am in awe of their understanding of men. Then I sit for dinner with a typical American couple who also lives here. The wife just treats her man like a dog. He is a dedicated, good looking, intelligent, loyal man. He earns a good living. She has little of any skills. What would happen if he woke and smelled the roses?

    One day he might wake up and realize that his wife is fat, ugly and bossy. He would realize that there are lots of young beautiful Chinese women who would treat him with respect. She would realized she just squandered her free paycheck down the sink.

    Maybe if enough American women went hungry because they pissed off their bread winner they would also learn to treat their life partner like a partner. Unfortunately American divorce law stands behind the lazy women who feel entitled to a mans paycheck simply because she “put out” when they were younger.

    I actually think society could benefit from allowing polygamy. A step back in time would be good.

  728. Anonymous January 28, 2008 at 8:57 am #

    When you were 20 they weren’t even born. There is term called Pedophile — Look it up sometime! I wouldn’t talk to any old men in the real world –don’t think that just because you’re sitting anonymously behind the computer gives you the right to cyberstalk women online. You are sick and disgusting in my opinion. BYE!!

  729. Anonymous April 27, 2010 at 6:12 pm #

    What the world needs is more lovely young ladies like you! Older men love younger women, we know how to please and we have far more money and plenty of time to spend with you.

    And like the article says, loving an older man is good for humankind. What better reason for younger gals than to find an ole fart right now and let the cards fall where they may. We older guys are more loveable and loyal than a puppy dog. Ruf ruf!!! :)

  730. Anonymous February 2, 2010 at 11:06 pm #

    Let’s see, this is written from the point of view of a woman who: 1) is bisexual and spends her time having sex with women who are married to men, 2) hates white people and discards whatever they say for that reason, and 3) hates middle-aged males and discards whatever they say, also, for that reason.

    “I’m really interested to know who funded this study. (cough) Older white guy? (cough)”

    Let’s see, that was one cough for him being older and a second cough for him being white. So your argument is that these two factors make whatever he says wrong automatically. That’s called an “ad hominem argument.” Some bad belief about the person who makes the argument and the assumption that therefore anything he says is wrong, rather than an argument against the argument itself.

    Now I don’t go around discarding people’s arguments because of them being African-American or any other race, and it’s only fair that you don’t discard people’s arguments because they’re white, which I see you doing here. There has to be a counter-argument, not just an ad hominem, “Well that guy’s old and white, so that proves he’s wrong.”

    “I can only speak from my experience, but the younger women I knew that were dating older men were looking for money.”

    Did it ever occur to you that the women who don’t go around having sex with other women while they’re married to men might have some different ideas then your married girlfriends? No wonder they marry men for their money if their real attraction is with other women. The reason you haven’t met the other ones is because they’re not interested in sleeping with you, and therefore the sample you base your argument on is not characteristic of the whole.

    “I imagine that there has to be women out there who feel the same way about older men. But the majority of them don’t. Sorry.”

    How do you know what the majority of women think? You mean the majority of women who’ve slept with you while they were married? Not a representative sample of the population. Were you considering only your own community? Or your own country for that matter? You said “all women.” Were you considering the people of other countries too? Did you even know they exist? Or did you care? You’d better present some reliable information, such as polls that have been done on people all around the world, if you expect your statement to have any credibility.

    You said about your study and your rationale:

    “It’s really just a compilation of data that I have twisted around to prove a point laced with a few big words and some funding from several demographics who can’t stand older men.”

    Couldn’t have described it better myself. No hostilities intended, just disagreeing with you. Have a nice day.

    Keith H.

  731. Anonymous September 24, 2009 at 7:06 pm #

    While ignorance and prejudice are nothing new in North America, there seems to be a rather recent trend of young women using the Internet to broadcast their venomous, hateful, spiteful, and bigoted views about older men’s taste for younger women. I propose that many of these women are pretentious, insecure, and above all self-centered. They feel they’re hot sh*t, and when stared at by fat ugly old men (who indeed DO exist, just like fat ugly young girls), they feel demeaned and cheapened, In their minds, they are so precious that the only ones who should be seduced by them are the knights in shining armors. Often, this narrow-minded outlook is suddenly and magically broadened when the fat old man is also endowed with a fat bank account.

    Fortunately, there also exist educated, tolerant, and open-minded young women, just like there are good-looking, thin, and sexually powerful older men. These two kinds may appreciate each other or not, but in any case they act gracefully and show respect to each other. There are no rules and no standards as far as attraction and/or love are concerned. The conceited, bigoted nasty little nags deserve the fat ugly old farts they attract.

  732. Anonymous April 9, 2009 at 12:28 pm #

    You may not do a guy over 35 now, but eventually that’s all you’ll be able to get and shortly after you won’t be able to even get that. But hey your young, stick with all the young guys cause they know everything! You silly little girl.

  733. Anonymous March 2, 2009 at 11:15 pm #

    I dont think that a 19 yr old girl and a 29 yr old man is too much as far as decency goes. Most people on here are talking about 19 yr old girls with 35 plus men or even older – much older…

    The problem you got is that the chances of finding a life time partner at 19 is pretty slim nowadays added to the fact that