Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours


Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: “adequate,” from 3-7 minutes; “desirable,” from 7-13 minutes; “too short” from 1-2 minutes; and “too long” from 10-30 minutes.

“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers said. “”Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. ”

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

“This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction,” said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. “With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions.”

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey’s research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

“If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine,” Corty noted.


65 Responses to Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours

  1. saka elkhodir May 21, 2012 at 1:41 am #

    I will like to know y I don’t sex drive any more with my wife but when I go to other woman I get this sexual drive
    I don’t get erected enough when I am with my wife I want to do it but I can not because of my erection
    Y it always happen like that with her not else where

  2. SexToyEnthusiast April 15, 2012 at 12:11 pm #

    3 to 13 minutes for optimal sex is more than I usually Get….hmm…

  3. Hyacinth March 10, 2012 at 7:20 am #

    same here. UI hate it most is is just fucking 1min. I disvirgin the girl and her viagina tastes like what i never felt before. I am new in sex game though.

  4. Dave February 21, 2012 at 10:17 pm #

    first things first, masturbate once before sex, get the first impatient nut out of the way. secondly, if you can’t control it on your own, then use distractions, and don’t think / pay attention to whats going on, instead think about something else, sing a song in your head, look around the room and think about the stuff there, some people like to think about things that may be a turn off. third, when you feel yourself getting close but you don’t want to finish yet, then by all means slow down, even take a break and use other appendages to pleasure with.

  5. Opawhale December 12, 2011 at 1:00 pm #

    By private lessons you mean?
    If you mean what I think you do I would love them ;)

  6. Erica November 23, 2011 at 9:29 pm #

    Contact me for private lessons.

  7. Brendan November 1, 2011 at 5:47 pm #

    A survey obviously isn’t going to be the absolute objective measurement, but it’s nice to have one try to broach the subject.

    I think what we should take away isn’t an ideal timeframe, but the opposite. We should accept sex depends on the partners, the situation, and the mood and we shouldn’t set silly standards for ourselves. Many of us have had the all night love-a-thons. And many of us have enjoyed sex that only lasted a few minutes.Some of us take 45 minutes to ejaculate and some only a handful.

    The point is that it doesn’t matter. If both of you enjoyed the sex honestly, then the difference between 6 hours ands 6 seconds is irrelevant. Just enjoy yourselves

  8. Orevwegbaiku August 31, 2011 at 2:10 am #

    Nice one i need a reply thanks.

  9. fat burner recipes" December 27, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    Thanks for that awesome posting. It saved MUCH time :-)

  10. terry December 25, 2010 at 4:51 am #

    how do i last longer in sex..or what should i take to last longer

  11. terry December 25, 2010 at 4:48 am #

    what can i use to last longer in sex…or how do i do it

  12. kurye December 24, 2010 at 1:33 pm #

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  14. Billy December 20, 2010 at 7:28 pm #

    Yep, on average, our first session of baning each night only lasts between 11 and 15 minutes, but the second one take between 45 minutes to one hour. My woman only likes to try for #3 or more sessions on weekend nights, because she gets quite tired and sore, and it takes about 1 hour with heavy pumping and sweat to finish project #3. Our record was 7 sessions in 1 night, but we didn’t get much sleep that night, and were very dehydrated. She does not like to do that many times anymore.

  15. Philos December 13, 2010 at 10:18 am #

    Yep.. I’ve done it for 45 minutes.. I think that was my record. My vagine was as sore as anything, but it was GREAT.

  16. MIKE December 8, 2010 at 12:50 am #

    THAT IS ACCORDING TO SURVEY BUT TO ME DURATION KEEP ON CHANGING WITH AGE OR STATE OF MIND?? I USED TO TAKE HOURS BUT NOW ONLY 1O-20 MINUTES I WAS WORRIED NOW I WILL RECONSIDER…….

  17. Aron Bernosky December 7, 2010 at 10:06 pm #

    thought provoking entry. Thank you for taking the opportunity to approach this topic. I was looking for the facebook like button to add this entry to my feed.. do you have one?

  18. Anonymous November 15, 2010 at 3:47 am #

    i generally take 30 minis everyday.

  19. mike November 2, 2010 at 3:04 pm #

    i’ve been searching some stuff about this theme..and i got to say, im shocked :o, ive only and sex a few times and the last one lasted something like 2 hours xD (seriously)

  20. Nilesh October 17, 2010 at 1:00 am #

    I don’t know what your survy says but I want to give my hounest data here . I have penis sized of 5.25 or little more. ME AND MY PARTERS INTERCOURSE LAST 45 MINS EVERY DAY I DO FULL PUMPING ALL THE TIME MANY TIME LAST MORE THAN HOUR .

  21. Korey Fountain September 28, 2010 at 4:13 pm #

    If there is one thing that turns me on it’s seeing girls forced to receove more pleasure than they can possibly handle.

  22. 3d games August 26, 2010 at 5:30 pm #

    Thank you for the link

  23. sexiii July 31, 2010 at 8:11 pm #

    all i have to say is that im very sexual and i would love to try some positions but i have no one sadly well yet anyway. the point is im a girl and i wanna have sex but it seems im way to horny and once i get turned on i cant help what happens next i just want a boy with a big dick who canstick it in me and fuck me real good and for a long time. Oh and someone who is willing to eat me out.

    xoxo

  24. Dosky July 22, 2010 at 12:46 am #

    It is obvious that sex need strenght for you to have it well to your desire, from penetration to ejaculation it does not take TWO minutes for me to pour out my hot sperm what do i do? Do i need to take drugs if yes what are the drugs. Be cool

  25. raaaaz July 10, 2010 at 11:37 pm #

    while having sex …try to talk to him about other stuff

  26. منتديات July 7, 2010 at 3:22 pm #

    thanks……………………………

  27. Smookybuddy July 5, 2010 at 3:15 pm #

    This might sound like a joke but if you want a woman to have multiple orgasms ask her to squeeze her Ass during sex. just try it once.

  28. Anonymous July 1, 2010 at 5:37 pm #

    Yeah, my BF and I discovered this too. He usually lasts about 5-15 seconds, but I actually haven’t bothered asking about it because he’s so completely lacking in any sort of half-baked sexual competence that I’d just as soon he get it over with so I can go to sleep. :-/

  29. Oreo June 8, 2010 at 4:11 pm #

    try giving her good sex!!

  30. MEMO June 4, 2010 at 5:35 am #

    that is so serious I long for a length satisfying sex. Another man worked on me for several hours, then I wondered if he was on drugs. I tresure a friendly sex. sex is all that we need. even if it is short no problem, satisfaction is the concern.

  31. Anonymous May 22, 2010 at 8:32 am #

    me and my fiancé we in the beginning was just a quick 90 seconds before it was over, one thing we talk about it was that if we have more sex and just dont do once a 1 more like 3-4 a week we might change that, so than this entire week i swear i went from 3 to 7 minutes than next day it went from 5 to 10 than 15-30 but i dint like it though cause a 30 minutes of sex is everyone dream but you want both of you guys to have a sexual pleasure of the orgasm so a 5-10 minutes of hardcore sex and loving will do it just do more often and you’ll last longer, we had a fight today because it took me 43 or 45 minutes before i came…”it aint my fault”

  32. Panda April 28, 2010 at 7:14 am #

    I read somewhere that “premature ejaculation” is usually classed as anything below two minutes after starting sex, but it can be over two minutes depending on the person’s norm. In the study you talk about in the post, 3-7 minutes was considered adequate for sex, so surely this has implications for men who think they’re not lasting long enough.

    Like one of the other commenters says, the study doesn’t take into account all the variables – what’s normal for one couple won’t be normal for another. There are loads of drugs on the market for premature ejaculation (I think Priligy is the latest), but maybe for a lot of men drugs aren’t the answer. They should be made more aware of studies like this one that put things into perspective!

  33. Anonymous April 9, 2010 at 4:06 pm #

    i just wanna know how to have sex for 20 to 30 minutes cause i can only last for 3 to 5 minutes before my sperm just start bursting out.

  34. Anonymous February 10, 2010 at 10:24 am #

    I think you need to worry about the quality of your writing before anything else. Seriously? I have no idea what you mean.

  35. Anonymous January 5, 2010 at 10:38 pm #

    Do all these people eat fast food? Eat more natural food and come back with the same results then we will be on the same page.

  36. Anonymous December 31, 2009 at 2:14 pm #

    no i agree,i am the top….if you agree reply now…..
    worm

  37. blowingrock December 24, 2009 at 7:43 am #

    too short of a ratio.

  38. Anonymous January 12, 2010 at 6:32 am #

    Stick to one partner and work through the relationship instead of **cking around like a stray dog. What good is a human being without discipline?

  39. Anonymous December 15, 2009 at 4:31 am #

    The atticle falls short of proffesionalism.
    sex is enjoyed by over 500 million people per day and interviewing 50 people in a couple of days leaves one to ask “what ratio is there? Even thou it depends from partiner to pertiner, that duration is too short!!!!

  40. Anonymous December 13, 2009 at 6:27 pm #

    Couldn’t agree with you more :)

  41. Anonymous December 2, 2009 at 7:05 am #

    quality is more imprant than quantity in couple long duration with low quality isnt satisfaction

  42. Anonymous December 2, 2009 at 7:01 am #

    quality is more quantity

  43. Anonymous December 1, 2009 at 7:21 pm #

    ivaedocvunf@gmail.com

  44. Anonymous October 23, 2009 at 8:11 pm #

    Lead up to Q: ive had too many sexual partners to say but it backs up my experience and i know women like it to last. Finally ive met the woman of my dreams and now i gotta be a one pump chump!!! she only lasts if we do any position other than missionary… and if we slip into missionary its over in seconds.. this normally is good with women as they get multiple orgasms but she cant. (maybe shes too unexperienced?) she says theres too much feeling.. then its like shes not there and me wearing a rubber makes it almost impossible to finish..

    Q: is there anything she can do to last or to be able to get multiple orgasms rather than just changing positions?

  45. Anonymous September 19, 2009 at 9:47 pm #

    sometimes she doesn’t get pleasure because he ejacs too soon, and can’t keep going. (or loses the rest of the erection cause he needs to… change a condom let’s say.

  46. Anonymous June 17, 2009 at 4:16 am #

    :) :))

  47. Anonymous June 10, 2009 at 10:52 am #

    I am not a doctor, so consult yours first, but I got Paxil or Paroxetine HCL (generic) for a similar issue and it works great. I would recommend about 30mg. It depends on your drug tolerance and how long you want to stay in control of course. For me at least, I have no side effects and the enjoyment is still there. It just delays the ending. I would say I could go 30 min with a Carrie Underwood. I think Paxil is normally to treat anxiety and even though I don’t have that, it doesn’t change my personality. It does however intensify your buzz without you knowing it. Heavy drinking and Paxil can cause more frequent blackouts which aren’t always bad, just be careful and aware I guess. All in all though, it’s truly a wonder drug.

  48. Anonymous April 29, 2009 at 2:35 am #

    It is obvious that sex need strenght for you to have it well to your desire, from penetration to ejaculation it does not take five minute for me to pour out my hot sperm what do i do? Do i need to take drugs if yes what are the drugs. Be cool

  49. Anonymous February 15, 2009 at 5:31 am #

    hola ,,soy de maroc mon age 26ans ,,msn halak_m@hotmail.com gracias

  50. Anonymous November 4, 2009 at 8:28 am #

    I think you need to stop seeing the sex as a competition and see it as something beautiful where if she is pleasured then you are happy. It is hard for a woman to relax when a man is pumping away on top of her trying to get her to respond.

    Sex is intimacy and if you keep going at it like it’s mechanical and all about your ability to make her cum, you will lose her. I bet you don’t realise that listening to her, holding her and just being slow and gentle with her are all part of the experience.

    Get back to the place of love. Also if she is the woman of your dreams -MARRY HER!!!

  51. Anonymous December 13, 2009 at 8:13 am #

    you are a good lover

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  53. Anonymous May 26, 2008 at 5:19 pm #

    my girl crazy, man!

  54. Anonymous January 25, 2010 at 2:08 pm #

    Modern science is ass-backwards! If you want to do valid research, you must have a wide variety of variables and a large enough of a control to get substantive results from any type of research. What did this research leave out? Individuality! Every sexual experience is like snowflakes; no two are the same. Penis size is trivial when contrasted with vaginal laxity, dryness and lack of sensitivity in either the male or female; the prominence of vaginal rugae or lack thereof. Here is where the problem lies. Moreover, their ages were not considered (or mentioned) and their respective intelligences were also not tested; two imbeciles will not correctly be able to assess/differentiate what they are feeling. Two many unknowns to accurately come up with conclusive results. Please google: ‘Science of Sex’ by Dr. Kevin Pezzi.

  55. Anonymous April 20, 2008 at 7:00 pm #

    Being married 23 years gives us a better conclusion on a quicky or a blue ball evening.In any case it’s a defanate mind set to please each other. A quicky with a flood of emotion is far different from a Marathon FUK! Just remember who and what your trying to Love

  56. Anonymous April 11, 2008 at 10:17 pm #

    Yes, ive wanted to have it last more longer than 30 minutes, but i cant. i get ejaculated right away. the reason why for this, is because i love my partner. i think the only problem there is when you dont get ejaculated too soon, that only means, your partner is not very effective or vice versa. dont mind the duration, think instead and treasure the moment. its not the duration that matters, its how you perform is the best.

  57. Anonymous April 7, 2008 at 5:55 am #

    well, I’m not a Medical Student or anybody who knows it all, but I can share my personal experience with you guys, just to make a point… and in my opinion, Males and Females have different “Individual” Desires… if I love to have a sexual intercourse for more than half an hour, it doesn’t really mean that the Guy or Girl Next-Door would have a Same or Similar desire at all… not even the True Blood relations have same sexual powers and desires, but yes, exceptions are there and one should feel lucky if your Partner has the same or similar sexual desires and powers…
    I’m married for more than 2 years now, have a Son, living quite a Happy life… but still if I come to my Climax in 30 or 35 minutes at the first time, my wife has it twice or thrice already… but still if we have the desire and feel the power then I go for the second time right then and there! and that whole session will last for more than an hour… with lots of enjoyment…
    So its all about the Individual Desires of all of us, which always vary from time to time and person to person and also gets effect from different circumstances… so we can not define the “IDEAL” sexual intercourse duration by interviewing 50 people from one city! It should have at least been done of 5,000 people from different segments of society in one State…

  58. Anonymous April 4, 2008 at 6:37 am #

    Subject says it all.

  59. Anonymous April 2, 2008 at 4:47 pm #

    A survey consisting “of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research”. Please! Any first year graduate student in social science research methodology understands the constraining principles of a biased sample. For example, could it be that the SSTR members were biased toward the minimum duration which would qualify for meeting the initial threshold for success in therapy?

  60. Anonymous April 2, 2008 at 9:59 am #

    did anyone read any of these numbers? “Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded…” thirty-four people *total* felt this way. there were only fifty people surveyed to begin with and that’s no more a valid basis for conclusion than if you were trying to decide between pepsi and coke.

    “Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.” – a ‘large percentage’? how large is large? how many people were questioned in the first place? how long ago in the past are we talking about?

    “Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine…” seriously? now, perhaps *this* article isn’t as developed as the article they will be publishing, but if that’s not the case, i’d be embarassed if i were the editor of said magazine. this is trite, meaningless, sensationalistic crap, worth no more than a soundbyte on a morning ‘news’ program by nbc, cbs, or abc, crap, crap, crap.

  61. Anonymous April 2, 2008 at 6:29 am #

    I prefer (most of my friends) from penetration to ejaculation no more then 40 minutes…longer then that it just becomes painful.

    The longer the better is about a guy willing to take the time insure that his partner has “gotten off.” (At least this is the way I see it. And yes I am female.)

  62. Anonymously April 1, 2008 at 12:41 pm #

    thats the biggest load of **** i ever heard. ive never found a woman who didnt prefer several hours instead of several minutes. i learned sex in the 70s and the one thing everyone b****** about was ”duration”. if you cant go 8 hours til your girl forgets her name and starts hollerin for water and makin weird animal noises , then you aint had sex yet. also , i assure you, any relationship based solely on alcohol and physical attraction is ultimately doomed to succeed

  63. anon y. mous April 1, 2008 at 7:18 am #

    “rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation”

    In this study, participants were only asked about the time from penetration to ejaculation. This is a very narrow definition of sex. I doubt when the average person was asked how long they wanted sex to last they were excluding foreplay and sexual activity other than vaginal penetration. It would also be interesting to see what people included in their definitions of a sexual episode: does it include conversation before, kissing, cuddling, teasing and foreplay, oral sex, etc. what about after orgasm? Is post-sex holding and talking a part of the act? Sex is so much more than thrusting, and I would hope that sex researchers of all people would appreciate that. While I am all for having open and realistic expectations regarding sexual activity, it is important to use definitions that match real life rather than research convenience.

  64. Anonymous March 31, 2008 at 4:13 pm #

    Would viagra play any role in this whatsoever?

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